11 year old son addicted to Minecraft.

Diane - posted on 09/17/2012 ( 144 moms have responded )

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It's all he thinks about and talks about with his friends. I had to enforce a time limit for him on the computer unless it's homework or typing practice and was called the meanest Mum in the world. Then his friends phone up and he pleads with me to let him play with them..He gets on the phone with them and they all play together. I have talked to the other parents and we are trying to schedual a time of 7-8pm to all play together. I have told him this is providing all homework and chores are done....He is NOT a happy camper!!

When he is not on it he expects me to entertain him and play games with him, which I don't mind at all, however I cannot play with him every minute in order to fill the mindcraft gap.

He is an only child and I am a single Mum. There are no children on the street to hang with. He has lost interest in all the things he used to do to keep busy... Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated....

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The - posted on 09/04/2013

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You know what, all you parents just don't understand( don't delete me) about kids, you only think about that your child is addicted, but not why are they addicted. I could understand that you are worried, but this a psychological problem not a everyday problem(I'm not saying your child is crazy). Though I know you are going to delete my account, but just listen to me.

I know some of you are getting close to the answer, but you're still a foot away.

First of all , when I look at all these problems they have almost one common thing
"single mom", which are the problem sometimes, because most kids have a anxiety when their parents are divorced, which cause them to escape their own lives and try to go into a virtual world where everyone is happy and so is the player.

Secondly, if you are not a "single mom" then its your mom system having a flaw, because through the cases I seen is that limiting video games wouldn't fix the problem, but most of these parents thinks it does. The correct way is to challenge the brain and making getting to play harder, which many of you tried, but have you ever heard of making it a homework? Its a bit difficult to understand, but its the best way to not make the kids go into a tempter tantrum.

To do this, use minecraft as a architecture system and work with your child at planning what to build on the free time when he plays the game. By doing this you could train a habit of being ready before you do something, and if you still want to limit your child's play time then use the homework points as a indication of how much he plays when its his time to play. For instance:

100%= 1h 30m
85-99%=1h 10m
75-85%=1h 00m
60-75%=45m
50-60%=35m
45-50%=25m
35-40%= 15m
25-35%=10m
15-25%=5m
5-15%=00m

With this system the only one limiting your children are themselves.

If you want more tips(even if I'm a kid) then just reply back!

Ahlmann - posted on 04/19/2013

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Stop and think about this for a second, seeing it from the child's perspective (I can relate as a parent as I was 11 years and addicted to videogames back then). The child has been told, ordered and controlled what to do since it can remember, wether it's at school, by parents, if it's good for the child or not doesn't matter, that's its experience . The child doesn't know any different in its world, except when it's allowed to play.

Now consider this, another world appears for the child, with endless possibilities and freedom to explore, create, learn, experience, with the interactive world, with friends. The way adult human living should be weren't it for all the restrictions, conditioning and framing of our (adult) minds, the exact restricting, conditioning and framing that goes on in the child's experience of which it doesn't have the freedom to choose, it is forced upon, so it is completely natural to break free and Minecraft supplies that possibility.

Now the task of the parent is to put this all in perspective for the child, because the parent can know all this, but the child can not, only on a deeper level of intuititive understanding, the parent must supply the cognitive, even if it will undermine their authorative position; as teenagers hit puberty they will rebel anyway and eventually, but to know why makes all the difference.

I see a lot of great solutions in the comments of parents combining what they think is best for the child with the child's choices to do what it want to do. Parenting is about control, and the ever slightly diminishing level of it a parent has over a child, the more the parent tries to keep control, the more the child will suffer in conflicts, escapism etc. There are reasons a child gets addicted to videogames, for the child its about survival of self in an escaped world of freedom, and taking that away or restricting it beyond the child's ability to have fun, ánd not taking care of the reasons that started it all, will damage the child immensely, when it's all about jus trying to clear the path a bit for the child for it to become a strong individual who can take care of itself and others.

JonoOrchard - posted on 04/16/2013

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hi, I'm a dad, married with 2 kids

my 11 yr old son is addicted to MC also. He would play it 24hrs a day if possible.

I have taken the 'join them' approach and got myself a MC account $35 usd I think. And play with him and his friends. I've also set him up with his own server where he makes the rules and controls his friends access. It did take a little bit of tech know how, but know that its running its pretty awesome......This approach has caused my son to be so passionate about MC that he wants to write and design his own games. This hobby, albeit a little annoying when his ears dont work when playing MC,,,,(and various other symptoms) are minor compared to the passion and drive he has established early in life which he's now starting to apply this 'feeling' to a more practical and productive future in the IT world.

David - posted on 06/25/2013

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Video (computer) games are the nemesis of our time. While it teaches our children to be comfortable with being social on the computer, which is a must in the business world, they also create people that only want to exist in a fantasy world. I empathize with the fact that your son is an only child and you are a single mum and that there are no other children his age in the neighborhood. Introduce him to books. When he is in the down time of his computer, it can keep him occupied and works on the imagination skills that computer games are destroying.

Julie - posted on 03/05/2013

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My 11 year old TOLD ME he was "addicted" to Mine craft. The thing is, I don't let him play that often.
My boys have to "EARN SCREEN TIME" with equal amounts of physical exercise, or additional chorus on top of daily responsibilities. 15 MIN per chorus can be earned, and they can only play up to one hour at a time.
Play dates or "XBOX play dates, are a bit more flexible, but this gets them coming to me "Mom, what can I do to help"
Does he read 20 minutes a day? He should be, make that his first earned time, after 20 mins of reading, he can have 20 minutes of Minecraft
I set a timer...I find 30 minutes on the game is best, after an hour they get mood changes and aggravated. Just know you are not alone. get it under some control now, because I think it will only get worse into the teenage years

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Silent - posted on 08/11/2014

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You all need to calm Down!They reacted like that because that is like taking away a friend!My son talked to me a few weeks ago about how I was judging Minecraft too quickly.In school and at home he never has a real friend,so coming home to the PC lets him leave the real harsh world where you must follow a path.In Minecraft the world is a field,go anywhere do anything,this is the place that they find peace in.Your kids will play more the more you act harshly towards Minecraft.

Sometimes acceptance can be hard,but life is a video,not an image.

Eric - posted on 07/29/2014

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What a pathetic reaction to something you don't understand.

First clue was that you called it MindCraft. Second, you think this game is dangerous. That's hilarious.

Sit down with your child and engage in their playtime with MINEcraft and have them talk to you about what they're doing. I guarantee your daughter could talk for days about what she's doing, what she's done and what she plans on doing in her own little world.

My son is obsessed with this game too. Fortunately he knows his limits because we talk about them a lot. Her reaction to taking the game away is your fault and lack of communication.

Go to minecraftedu.com and get a look at what this game is truly about before you go fear mongering.

Eric - posted on 07/29/2014

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The gaming grandma! You are awesome. You are embracing what they love and joining in with them and that is the perfect way to connect with your children and grand children. Kudos to you!

Eric - posted on 07/22/2014

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Go to Minecraftedu.com

This is just the tip of the iceberg for what this game is capable of providing for, well, everyone.

I'm a 34 year old father of a Minecraft playing 5 year old. It's incredibly interactive and gives him complete freedom over a world that he just builds in.

It's certainly a good idea to put homework and personal chores at the forefront but let them play Minecraft, where they create the rules.

Terah - posted on 06/28/2014

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Read the book "playstation nation" and have him read it. It saved my kids from a wasted life of video game addiction.

Colleen - posted on 06/28/2014

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My 12 yr old loves minecraft. We lost it for awhile because his computer broke but found it on play station. I'm so happy he's on it as it's so educational and the things he has told me of different rocks,(that we have collected at home actually)and showing me the different buildings he has built. Get involved with your son sit and talk to him on what he's creating, sure have time limits, but it's far better than the other ugly horror games out there! I have a 16 yr old and some games he wants play are all about Killing,guns etc... I hope my 12 yr old continues to like this game and I actually like the soft music they play on it too. I hope our son decides to further like building as he wants to be an architect which this game has encouraged him to do.try and organize play dates with other children either at your home or theirs to help him be busy when bored,not being on it, I also find a basket ball ring helps too and a pet.. Hope this helps xx

Betsy - posted on 06/28/2014

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Joshua - posted on 06/24/2014

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Hey im 14 and im banned of mc for two months fist of i was playing it and i got really angry because some guy took all my stuff in mc which took so long to get and i was trying to get it back and my mam was tellin me to do something so i told her to shut up bad bad BAD MISTAKE and she banned me for a week then i was doin the stuff she told me to do and she was still annoying me so i told her to shut up agian and then she banned me for month and two days later she had to go some where so seen the cookie of opportunity so i grabbed it and and went back on minecraft HAPPY DAYS then my sister caught me an told my mam of course and i was banned for two months i was in rage so just today i was trying to download mc on an old computer i left it running and my sister found the pc under my bed and agian gave it to my mam and told so now im banned for ever says my mam but im goin to behave myself and i just might just might get back on THIS IS FROM A TEENAGERS VIEW

Mike - posted on 06/13/2014

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I am currently studying at UNL for architecture and the only reason i got into architecture is because i really enjoyed building in all games and when i was younger i really enjoyed building stuff out of legos. anyways the only reason im going into architecture right now is because of minecraft, and other stuff like it. so in my opinion just let him play aslong as he doesnt play it 12 hours straight you should limit his time on the computer and you should ground him for not doing his stuff but just dont tell him he cant do what he enjoys maybe your crushing his dreams

Screw - posted on 06/01/2014

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Everyone herw who says that video games are bad is stupid. Their a fun way to relax and have fun, to socialize witn their friends. It's not some sort of drug or killer that is going to make them die of AIDS in 20 years. Sure, they shouldn't play on it 24/7, but restricting their time or making them earn "SCREEN TIME" is not going to help them. Do you know how retarded and over protective that sounds? SCREEN TIME? Come on, what is this, Gayville? And that is going to do is make them resentful, dishonest, and rebellious. Your kids will play behind your backs, and you won't even know it. And if you make them earn time,they will just rush through something to get their play time. Your not helping them, your making them resent you. And how do I know this? Because I was also a kid once, and I know how it felt to have your play time restricted and controlled. So just let your kids be free and enjoy life. Sure, tell them to go outside and play, or do something else once in a while. I promise you you will get much better results, cooperation and love this way, a least if they are honest, good kids. I know that for you parents born in the 1900's it is difficult to think this possible. You think that you need to control your child, and act like a dictator. Because that's how you were raised. And I am sorry for you. Because that is Communist. Children should not be raised under a totalitarian reign, they should have freedom. And really, in the end, you can't control your kids future. That's what you fear the most. But it's true. You can lock them in their rooms, monitor them every second. But in the end, when your kid turns 18, he or she will be free make their own decisions, even if they are illegal. And you won't be able to stop them. It is kind of like the saying "you can guide a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink." In the end, how the lead their lives is their decision, not yours. So if you really care about your child, and want to give him or her a good foundation, take this advice. Don't be Joseph Stalin to your kid. Be the kind parent that he or she will grow up to love, not hate. I don't care if this is deleted, I just hope that enough people will here this. And once again, I know all this because I was also once child. And the proof that video games don't kill you, is that I am still alive here to be typing this message.

Adam - posted on 05/31/2014

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You know, Minecraft isn't that bad. He could be playing GTA or something like that. Minecraft teaches technical thinking, decision making, encourages a creative mindset... at least he's not completing missions that include murder, prostitution, and drug sales.

I play the game myself and I'm 40 years old. I'm learning a fair amount about programming just through this game so I can make it do what I want it to. Soon I'll be supplementing my income with it through a server.

Encourage what attracts your son to the game if you're worried. Sit with him awhile and find out what it is he does most on the game. Find other activities that express the same desires.

Jacie - posted on 05/26/2014

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OMG, if you cannot beat them, join them!!! I am a grandma of 4 and a mother of 4. I run a minecraft server for kids. No cussing, no griefing, no advertising, no looting. I have literally have had kids come to me and thank me for changing their real life by cleaning up their mouth. Parents have thanked me for taking care of their kids while they worked all summer. Schools are teaching with minecraft now. If you do not roll with the changes, technology is going to leave you in the dust. I say all you moms and grandmas need to get an account and join a minecraft server with your child. They would love it, you would be spending time with your child, quality time. My son is 15 now, but we started when he was 12. I have been gaming with my son since he was 6, and my other son when he was younger. Anyhoo, good luck trying to get rid of the addiction, but it is not going away anytime soon. I am 52 and love it. Send kids my way at myluciddreams.com server ip and http://luciddreams.enjin.com website to join. Good luck.

Jacie Leavell
The Gaming Granny

Teenmom - posted on 05/26/2014

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hi sorry me again (teen mum mother of Dick)
just another point to add, really really must insist that if your child is consistently on the Google home page then HE IS PLAYING MINECRAFT
don't fall for this trickery EVER

Teenmom - posted on 05/26/2014

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hi, me again, just wanted to share some of my mine craft experience,
my 18yr (Dick) or 'thicky' as he is often called by both family and friends has recently been developing a significant over-hang from his mine crafting , all he does is mine and eat nothing else seems to matter to Dick.
Im at a loss to what to do! i try to inist the YOLO policy on the household but he just can't seem to grasp the concept that YouOnlyLiveOnce and cannot spend an entire existence in a virtual world
LORD HELP US ALL
dear mothers please let us join together against this demonic cause that is hidden in the disguise of the beloved mine craft
for the sake of the future generations lets help to prevent future obesity and lack of brain!
Love from teen mum xxxxx

Teenmom - posted on 05/26/2014

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hi im a teen mom, having the greatest of struggles with my 18yr old son addicted to mine craft since the age of 7 and he hasn't seen the light of day since.
word to the wise , never let this insane game grip your children, block it from your computer, lock up your children and hide your loved ones, mine craft is a life destroyer.

Julie - posted on 05/20/2014

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To Anonymous: As a parent, I not only know what mine craft is, (I screen all games before my kids play.) I find it to be totally awesome. As do they, which is why they were obsess over it! My oldest stated, in his own words "I'm addicted"
You see, just like everything: to much of anything is NOT a good thing. Hence this post and conversation among concerned mothers. It can be challenging to help a child "curb his appetite" Weather it be for food, dirt bikes, or video games. We must teach, or instill -moderation and a balanced lifestyle is the key to happiness & success.
Now, the latest "addiction" is Clash of Clans! Anyone else???

Mason Garside - posted on 05/03/2014

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Gold doesn't break like that at all in real life. Nothing is real about minecraft so don't base anything in real life off it. I play minecraft too but I'm just saying, people are going to think you're dumb if you base real things off things you've seen in minecraft.

Mason Garside - posted on 05/03/2014

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Kid's point of view.
My name is Mason, Im a 13 year old boy
I play not only minecraft, but lots of other games,
I think minecraft has made me very creative, I do video editing, animations, coding, ect.
I spend a lot of time on the computer, I get high levels in school. The only thing bad that has happened to me after about 3 years of minecraft is I put on some weight, but that's because I ate a lot. I have no other physical problems and I spent hours on end on my computer for years. So I see nothing wrong with it, I've has lots of experiences and have gained a lot of creativity and this Is good for my future considering I want to be an animator, coder or graphic designer. My opinion.

Elias - posted on 05/03/2014

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I'm turning 12 this year. One of the kids at my school can only talk about Minecraft. It even got to the point where I hate him because he bragged about Minecraft and teased me for not playing it. I'm not a fan of spankings. Show your son any other game and let him play that game to the point where the Minecraft addiction breaks. Or delete Minecraft from the computer without telling him. When he asks why, tell him "It's for your own safety. You might bully other kids if you keep playing that dumb ol' game, and you could go to jail for bullying." That might convince him to stop playing Minecraft. Any way other than those two ways will not work.

Jake - posted on 05/02/2014

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I am ten, my friends and I are all some of the smartest kids in fifth grade. We love reading we know math and things we learn in sixth and seventh grade even, but we still all love minecraft. It hasn't effected us at all. I have even learned things from minecraft through getting texture packs or mods, before bigot minecraft, if I wanted to download a game, or put my report into a file I needed help. Now I can go into files and change the name of something in minecraft. (I think) my brother is six he could barely read, he played minecraft would always ask what something said or how to spell it, now he is a great reader. When I was his age (six) I would read kindergarten books ( he is in first grade). And now I read college level. Minecraft isn't addicting, it is just fun, you lose track of time, or don't want to stop building your castle. Also a lot of it is educational like making sure a valley will fit your house; volume. Also minecraft doesn't make me mad I get mad when my brother burns down my minecraft house, which is the same as taking appear able to house. So leg is don't cause trouble, but minecraft does? I get mad when my mom makes me stop halfway through building a home or fighting a monster. And your children aren't ignoring tv and legos because they play minecraft it is because there are no good shows. Disney shows are boring and all the same. We just outgrow leg is. I know your think but your brother is only six. He still uses leg is just as much as before. Your 13/12/11 year old kid has just outgrown legos but minecraft is essentially the same as leg is but you ars the lego dude, and there are mobs, and crafting, and redstone! Try minecraft for your self, take a while to get to understand how you do things, go mining make a bed, kill a zombie, explore a bit, get used to the inventory, learn what keys do what, try it for yourself, and hunt some cows. You might even like it, but see how your child could like it, understand why you kid wants to play, and understand everything I said above.

Gene Garry - posted on 04/25/2014

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I think it's time for a kid's view.
I'm Gene and I'm 13, I have had great grades in high school currently, and I play Minecraft about 3-6 hours a day. It hasn't affected me at all, and I still do my chores and other stuff.
This is where some of you snort and say 'YEAH RIGHT! you make me ******* laugh!! lololol!!!' Sorry, but I'm telling the honest truth.
This is probably not the same for other people, as I can manage to balance my Minecraft time with my homework. As I can do this, my carers (I'm a foster child) don't give a **** about how much I play, as long as I still do my chores and homework, and go to bed on time.
You can hate me all you want, I don't care, by the way. Just to make that clear.

Josh - posted on 04/23/2014

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There are two ways of turning a Minecraft addiction into something positive.

METHOD 1

Get them to stop completely and take up other types of hobbies. These could include reading, dancing, creative writing or sports.

STEP 1: Go into the control panel and for your child's account dd the Minecraft launcher to a list of blocked programs. Delete the Minecraft launcher by right clicking on it and selecting delete. Then go into the search bar of windows explorer and type: %appdata% and delete the file named: .minecraft.

STEP 2: Get your child to write a list of what they want to achieve in life. Examples include: get married, have kids, get a good job, etc... Then explain to them that for these goals to be achieved, you need a good education, you need to work hard and you need good social skills.

STEP 3: Fill the gap Minecraft leaves. Occupy your child with constructive activities like sports, reading, etc...

STEP 4: Try and introduce your child to friend who don't play Minecraft. The more your child socialises with people with varying hobbies. The more likely they have a balanced lifestyle and the more likely they will have a multitude of interests

Okay, this is the first method, and from personal experience I can tell you that it works. The reason why it works is because it breaks the links your child has with the game and replaces these links with a multitude of balanced hobbies.

Here is the alternative.

METHOD 2: Embrace Minecraft for what it is.

Minecraft is a wonderful game that has many applications. Personally from the redstone feature in Minecraft (like circuits and electronics) I taught myself about boolean logic, this then lead me to start programming as the two were very similar. I am now developing apps for Apple, Windows and Google.

People who often play Minecraft are generally a bit neerdy, like myself. Get them to start playing around with redstone. Or set up their own server. (where multiple people can play together). This could teach them how information travels over the internet. Or get them to program their own mod (a mod is an addition like the game that adds a new aspect through programming) this could teach them Java. So in summary Minecraft has many positive applications and if you get your child to focus on them it can help them decide what they want to accomplish in life.

I'm 17 right now and I just received an offer from Cambridge University to study Computer Science. The reason I discovered my passion for CompSci is through me playing Minecraft.

so thanks for reading, and if you are a parent I'd opt for method 2 as it is always good to make something good come out of something bad like I did. Accept your child for who they are. Don't force them to change as this can have dire consequences. Embrace them for who they are.

Ben - posted on 04/20/2014

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Honestly, video games are more helpful than hurtful. They help kids be social, connect with people, and just have fun. One of the extremely monumental things about video games and the Internet in general - If you don't say/lie about your age, people treat you like a 16-18 year old. And that really changes how you interact, and how others interact with you, in a community or game. Stuff like this really prepares kids for being an adult.

By the way, writing this from experience. I'm a 12 year old, and I get good grades (As and Bs) and I play around 6-8 hours of MC a day. Hasn't hurt me yet. ^-^

~Ben

Evan - posted on 04/18/2014

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Will you all just consider the fact that minecraft is a way to be as creative as you please. It is also allowing a kid to do what most kids want to do: be a hero. When someone plays minecraft it is like they can be a hero, save a world from monsters, and be powerful. Like, seriously minecraft gives you the ability to punch down trees for Pete's sake! As an 11 year old boy who is also addicted to minecraft I can certainly say the game makes its player feel like they they are able to do anything they want. No more rules or restrictions. It is an almost unbelievably great how the game makes you feel like you can do litterally anything your heart desires. Seriously limiting his playability is like if he took away the thing you love to do most. Just try and put yourself in his shoes. It is just a freakin game. It is not like his whole life revolves around it. Minecraft is not evil or bad or unhealthy or any bs like you think it is. Just try to relate

Branden - posted on 04/12/2014

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Kids act up with this game merely because you are taking it away from them. To put it into perspective imagine if as a kid you really liked to play basketball and you would spend all your free time with it. Then your parents decide that you are addicted and take your ball away. You would be irritated right?

Josh - posted on 04/01/2014

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Minecraft is a cancer, the faster you get rid of it the less serious the consequences are.

Steps to quit:

1) Get your child to write a list of what they want to achieve in life, e.g.

- Get married, have kids, get a good job, etc...
Then ask your child to explain how minecraft will help them do these things.

2) Delete the 'Minecraft launcher', '.minecraft' file (in the %appdata% folder) and any other minecraft related files off his computer for good.

Then go into windows family setting (whilst Minecraft is installed) and block the program.

#Note [VERY IMPORTANT] Don't use the Screen Time policy, to kill the cancer minecraft is, you need to get rid of it once and for all.

3) Most importantly fill the gap minecraft leaves, for me it was App Development, after quitting minecraft I started making Apps for windows and I already have over 245,000 downloads on my applications. Other suggestions include:

-Sports club
-Music editing/profuction
-Reading
-Creative writing/writing articles for local newspapers
4)[HARDEST STEP] Try and introduce your child to friends who aren't video games addicts. If a child has friends that are all addicted to video games then its pretty obvious what will happen.

Follow all these steps and your child should hopefully quit Minecraft and do something worthwhile in their lives.

Videogames - posted on 04/01/2014

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You people are going from this all wrong. Saying video games take away a child's imagination, making this into a much larger than it actually is, if there is any problem.( i mean come on if your kid played baseball or football 24.7 you wouldnt call him addicted) Your child did not grow up in the same time period as you therefore you cannot and should not impose restrictions on the technology available to him. Videogames are not bad or evil, if anything they help with hand-eye coordination, tactical and strategic thinking, they even boost your child's ability to read. The kid will most likely read more on a video game then he ever will in the library. Now I'm not saying you should let him on 24.7 and skip out on homework and chores, but his passion is just that HIS passion. There is no justifiable reason to take away something that is not harming your child, something that he loves to do. What if someone told you that you weren't aloud to do the thing you love most? Or restricted you to 30 minutes of a 24 HOUR day? I'd rather have my kid playing video games, using his imagination, reading, and being involved in technology than wasting his days being bored or doing something he doesnt enjoy. Get with the times people.

Cyndy - posted on 03/24/2014

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Luigi, I appreciate you trying to help me parent! You, I am sure have had a lot of experience parenting! As a parent, it isy job to make sure my kids understand that even games can be addicting. When some kids play minecraft, they become different and not in a good way. I have many friends with kids with the same affect from this game. As a child, you aren't capable of seeing the negative. Within 24 hrs of minecraft detox... Our house is back to a house of kind kids and the ability to respect!

Luigi - posted on 03/24/2014

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I'm only 13 and a boy (I know)know nothing about parenting. But do what my mom did with me, take away his computer on weekdays and he may only play on weekends. If he fails to do this, take away his computer for good. Its not being the best parent in the world and he wont be very hppy about it, But show him that you have the power to enforce him. Its called dicipline, all kids need it :)

Cyndy - posted on 03/23/2014

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My son is addicted to minecraft! He will sneak and play every chance he gets. He has hidden the game within all of our computers at home and even though they don't show up on the screen, it is there! We had taken all electronic out of the house for two weeks and the improvement in his behavior was confounding! He even felt less agitated!

His school allows this game to be played during core classes. On those days, he comes home rude and obnoxious! I then found out that he was once again hiding minecraft and lying about it! I too think this game should be called mind craft! I have many friends who are experiencing the same with their sons!

Now in our house, the wifi is locked, computers are locked, kindles are set to free time only with no access to games only books, and phones are restricted!

Keep fingers crossed that my theory is right!

Jacqueline - posted on 03/20/2014

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I hear what yr saying but are you a father? Or a stay at home father? If you give a kid an iPad these days and don't check on them they will literally stay on there for hours! Kids need limits. There no need to stay on a computer all day or even for 3 hours at a time, I'd rather give him Legos to play with, it's in my opinion way better for him. And as for 3d model skills, that's not really important, that's not a skill that's gonna build my kids character or make him a better person. Bottom line the games obsessive and I don't like how it makes kids change into lazy brats, rubbing there eyes, crying and throwing temper tantrums, it's nuts. I'm with my kids 24/7 and this behavior all started from that game, it's very odd to me. This is a entire group of boys all acting the same out of nowhere. It has made my life harder as a mom bc of the behavior n constant timing and bribing to get it from him so delete it went and back to normal everything has been!

Joe - posted on 03/20/2014

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Okay look I'm in a make this nice and short I'm not saying you should let them play for the entire day every week but I'm saying that you shouldn't restrict your child from Minecraft till like half an hour a day it's just not right, it helps them with their 3-D model building skills which is a very good job and pays a lot of money, supplying your children with good futures. this is just a suggestion I am not saying you have to do this but I'm saying you really shouldn't do this let their time based on their grades in school but if they're out of school already then let them make their own decisions thank you goodbye

Jacqueline - posted on 03/19/2014

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I'm sure your mother had fun as a child, she just didn't have this technology, nor did I. You have to understand this technology is fun but it's also very addictive and it's annoying for us moms to have to sit here and time our kids to get off , kids should play and use there imagination, be outside and get dirty! My generation was one of the last ones with no technology and I'm so thankful it was bc kids today are so easily controlled by it, it's like they become zombies. Be thankful you have a mom that cares , her taking it away is a good thing, trust me! You'll see one day when your a mom and you'll thank her!

Not A - posted on 03/08/2014

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Well first of all, I have to tell you all that I am not a mom, but just a regular teen. I got addicted to Minecraft a few months ago, and started sneaking on just to play, until my mom caught me. Of course, I got banned from it forever. The problem was, my mom did not even understand the reason why I was so addicted. She was the type of mom who grew up having a childhood that had no fun, just work, work, work (as in schoolwork). So now, as I try to convince her to let me play again, giving her reasons to limit my playtime, she still abstains from giving me access. How can this be solved?

Matia - posted on 03/03/2014

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My opinion is:
1. Be firm,
2. Give him a DAY limit. for example. he can't play from monday- thursday. Then he can play from Firday- Sunday.
Pretty simple

Matia - posted on 03/03/2014

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Like some people have said, let him play his butt off until he is bored, he'll find something else to do then. Some other techniques you can try is, oh yes, be more firm? no matter how much he pleads, don't let him play until you think necessary. My opinion would be to maybe not let him play from monday to Thursday. then let him play from Firday- Sunday.

Jacqueline - posted on 03/02/2014

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April- that's great that's it's not affected your child the way it has others, but to be honest I've seen this game begin to destroy a lot of children. Not all moms have time to sit n play games with there kids, that' may be why your child has an easier time ending it. But I know a dozen of moms that have recently had to completely take the iPad away bc of this game. Yes they build n it's like really cool Legos, but why is it so obsessive to so many children? Why do kids act up all of a sudden after playing? n why do I have to pry my sons hands off? N this is the same behavior for a dozen boys! They all got it taken away and are all back to doing homework, being kind, they all lost there attitudes, are outside all day the way it should be. To me, a game that has that affect on a child's mind is bizarre! We are talking totally normal, respectful kids who after playing this become rotten? That's like mind control if u ask me

Jacqueline - posted on 03/02/2014

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They should call it MIND CRAFT bc it seem to control children's minds to only want to play it. My son lost all interest in everything after we dumbly downloaded this. I think it's bad and it's been deleted. My sons back to his normal self n in my opinion kids belong outside playing not staring at a computer.

The - posted on 02/13/2014

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i, as a 9 year old kid think that minecraft can be used to learn things, some of my friends who play minecraft wanna be an architect i didnt know that gold would break easy, of course some things in minecraft teach fake things such as zombies and other monsters at night and if you dont want your kids playing with strangers or to learn any bad words you can just make them a server for them and theyre friends play in it

Oms - posted on 02/12/2014

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my 6/7 year old is addicted. it has taught him lots of bad words. but i use it as a reward when he does his homework. today he got 7 stars and i offered to buy him any toy he wanted. he said mum can you switch wifi back on. can i play mine craft i don't want any new toys!!

Connie - posted on 02/08/2014

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My son is 11yrs I
Old he tells me to shut my mouth all the time does all He does is play video games all the time what do I do also he tells tells his grandmother the same thing he will say say you sorry all the time

April - posted on 01/24/2014

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I am a mother to two children, a son and a daughter. My son Lachlan also enjoys Minecraft. I don't honestly know if this will help you out any but here's my two bits worth. For an hour a day right after school, I play Minecraft with him. He doesn't have a lot of friends at school and is shy. School is not really that easy for him so he needs his outlet. It gives him that time to wind down and get comfortable with his surroundings again and by me playing with him, I can monitor if someone is treating him unfairly and also help him with some of the Minecraft applications. After that hour is up (he does get more time to play on the weekends), it's off to homework and chores for him. As far as video games go, Minecraft has to be one of the better ones out there because it teaches one to build, design, craft and be generally resourceful in a game. Way better than some of those RPG's or First Person Shooters out there. Anyway, that's my two bits worth and this system hasn't let me down yet.

Christine - posted on 01/06/2014

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I am in the same boat my son is 11 and he is on it from the time he gets up till he goes to bed. especially weekends I get upset that he doesn't want to do anything with me sometimes. I try to give him some limits on how long he is on during school only for 1-2 hrs weekends his friends come over and play all day and I have to tell him to get off at 2-3 in the morning. But he goes roller skating every friday night is an honor roll student for 3 years. When summer comes I know he won't be playing as much to much other stuff to do

That Gamer - posted on 01/05/2014

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Here is the thing
I'm 14 and have played since the beginning of mine-craft. I am very good with computers considering I know 4 programming languages including java the one mine-craft was made using and I can tell you it's addicting. Because I am so good with computers I found some old parts at recycling places that where free and build a computer set as my server. I now own 6 mine-craft servers that are public and 2 private for friends and a YouTube channel and all of this is at no cost I'm my room... You see how addicting it can get lol. And if parents want a good way to limit play time here's how. Go into note pad and type the following

Start Minecraft.exe
Timeout /t 5 (5 = seconds you will let him play)
Shutdown -s


Then save this as minecraft.bat on the desktop MAKE SHURE to save it as .bat and not as text as all files for it to work.

This will launch the windows command prompt and will leave it open next it will launch minecraft then wait however many seconds you set it to then when those seconds are over it will turn off your PC.

If your child complains oh it didn't save that's BS cause minecraft auto saves every second.

Hope this helps and if you have any questions or concerns regarding this or how to set this up email me at derian00@gmail.com thanks
P.s note this only works in windows if you are using a Mac email me and I will send you the instructions

Jacob - posted on 01/04/2014

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I absolutely have to disagree with David's comment. Computer games ESPECIALLY games like Minecraft are doing nothing but expanding the imagination of today's youth. I am a 22 year old Dad and have a one year old son. I grew up in the age of computer games mainly violent bloody games like Doom, Quake, and Diablo. At least you child is not addicted to more violent graphic video games that anyone has access to now days. And Even if he gets older as a teen and is addicted to video games. At least they aren't out with their high school mates getting high and drunk. I for one did that exact thing as my parents had gotten a divorce when I was young. My dad let me play all the games I wanted and would even play with me while my mother refused to let me do any of that. So I would seek the companion of kids in the neighborhood.

This lead to me getting drunk every weekend when I was 14 and getting high every day after school. Then I would go to my dads the next week and would be completely content, I didn't want to smoke or drink I just wanted to play games. Some parents think of video games as ruining their children's minds and social lives. When In fact its the opposite. I have friends all over the world whome I have met on video games and even met my girlfriend on World of Warcraft. The next time you see your Child on the computer and think to yourself. "Why isn't he outside having fun." Think of these three facts.

1. Your child is within eyesight of you so you know he isn't getting into trouble.
2. The world as we know it is leaning more and more heavily on computers. So when your child goes to get a job with all of his time spent on the computer he will know exactly how to solve this problem or that problem.
3. He will have unbreakable bonds with people all around the world. And when I say unbreakable. I refer to myself who once lost my job due to something far out of my control and had no place to go. I was evicted for not paying rent and had no money or anywhere to go and one of my British friends sent me a plane ticket and dealt with my jobless self for a month before I found a job and got back on my feet. And I actually met this friend on minecraft.

John - posted on 01/03/2014

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I am 12 years old, and I play Minecraft a lot. But I find that because my parents let me play as long as I want, I start to get bored, not really knowing what to do. So maybe, the same thing could happen to your child. It happens with every child, including myself. The child gets something new, wants to play with it all the time, then eventually, gets bored of it. So maybe just take this into consideration.

Jack - posted on 12/28/2013

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I like this guy, anyway he's right about grades and being addicted I'm 13m and was addicted. Your kids will grow up and stop playing so much. Making time limits never worked on me, I recommend just taking it all away for a week and then increase the time by 2 weeks and so on. They may call you a bitch or whatever but they will get overit

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I have 4 chlidren in which 3 of them are boys 7,9 13. I see the difference between each child. The youngest gives me no grief when its time to shut the games off, the middle is overly dramatic and will push the barriers then you have the eldest who just test in talking back... doesnt go very far. I can understand that for you it is very difficult as my boys and daughter have each other for entertainment, but trust me they find a way to throw I'm bored card at me and agitate each other so I can cave and give them their ipods. That would be the easy way out. I love a challenge so I challenge them. we went to to an arts / craft store and they each picked a craft. low and behold I found a talentl. my youngest loves making these plastic bracelet things, its very popular with the kids, my 9 year old showed his artistic talent in drawing and it wowed me. so he is now enrolled in art classes. my eldest like the labour work, building things with his hands and loves the outdoor activities,. So he is now in cadets. My daughter has an ipod but it can be left out for days and she will never touch it... she is a real girly girl. I can only share how we schedule our game time vs school homework and social activity. During the week its very simple , their is not ipods, wii, PS3.. whatever gaming . If their is no homework its help mommy or daddy time, I call this quality time. One helps with dinner, clean the dishes. this is not a punishment it shows value of life. I know when they grow up I did my best to spoil them with quality time showing them values and morals. Im not saying you are not... just making general statement. Your son is 11, he is at an age where he can actually babysitt . Take a babysitting course. Where I live they start offering courses at the age of 10 . This again depends of the childs maturity. I can garantee he holds other talents then minecrafting. Time and patience to find his social talent.. .

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