11 year old son addicted to Minecraft.

Diane - posted on 09/17/2012 ( 119 moms have responded )

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It's all he thinks about and talks about with his friends. I had to enforce a time limit for him on the computer unless it's homework or typing practice and was called the meanest Mum in the world. Then his friends phone up and he pleads with me to let him play with them..He gets on the phone with them and they all play together. I have talked to the other parents and we are trying to schedual a time of 7-8pm to all play together. I have told him this is providing all homework and chores are done....He is NOT a happy camper!!

When he is not on it he expects me to entertain him and play games with him, which I don't mind at all, however I cannot play with him every minute in order to fill the mindcraft gap.

He is an only child and I am a single Mum. There are no children on the street to hang with. He has lost interest in all the things he used to do to keep busy... Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated....

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The - posted on 09/04/2013

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You know what, all you parents just don't understand( don't delete me) about kids, you only think about that your child is addicted, but not why are they addicted. I could understand that you are worried, but this a psychological problem not a everyday problem(I'm not saying your child is crazy). Though I know you are going to delete my account, but just listen to me.

I know some of you are getting close to the answer, but you're still a foot away.

First of all , when I look at all these problems they have almost one common thing
"single mom", which are the problem sometimes, because most kids have a anxiety when their parents are divorced, which cause them to escape their own lives and try to go into a virtual world where everyone is happy and so is the player.

Secondly, if you are not a "single mom" then its your mom system having a flaw, because through the cases I seen is that limiting video games wouldn't fix the problem, but most of these parents thinks it does. The correct way is to challenge the brain and making getting to play harder, which many of you tried, but have you ever heard of making it a homework? Its a bit difficult to understand, but its the best way to not make the kids go into a tempter tantrum.

To do this, use minecraft as a architecture system and work with your child at planning what to build on the free time when he plays the game. By doing this you could train a habit of being ready before you do something, and if you still want to limit your child's play time then use the homework points as a indication of how much he plays when its his time to play. For instance:

100%= 1h 30m
85-99%=1h 10m
75-85%=1h 00m
60-75%=45m
50-60%=35m
45-50%=25m
35-40%= 15m
25-35%=10m
15-25%=5m
5-15%=00m

With this system the only one limiting your children are themselves.

If you want more tips(even if I'm a kid) then just reply back!

Ahlmann - posted on 04/19/2013

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Stop and think about this for a second, seeing it from the child's perspective (I can relate as a parent as I was 11 years and addicted to videogames back then). The child has been told, ordered and controlled what to do since it can remember, wether it's at school, by parents, if it's good for the child or not doesn't matter, that's its experience . The child doesn't know any different in its world, except when it's allowed to play.

Now consider this, another world appears for the child, with endless possibilities and freedom to explore, create, learn, experience, with the interactive world, with friends. The way adult human living should be weren't it for all the restrictions, conditioning and framing of our (adult) minds, the exact restricting, conditioning and framing that goes on in the child's experience of which it doesn't have the freedom to choose, it is forced upon, so it is completely natural to break free and Minecraft supplies that possibility.

Now the task of the parent is to put this all in perspective for the child, because the parent can know all this, but the child can not, only on a deeper level of intuititive understanding, the parent must supply the cognitive, even if it will undermine their authorative position; as teenagers hit puberty they will rebel anyway and eventually, but to know why makes all the difference.

I see a lot of great solutions in the comments of parents combining what they think is best for the child with the child's choices to do what it want to do. Parenting is about control, and the ever slightly diminishing level of it a parent has over a child, the more the parent tries to keep control, the more the child will suffer in conflicts, escapism etc. There are reasons a child gets addicted to videogames, for the child its about survival of self in an escaped world of freedom, and taking that away or restricting it beyond the child's ability to have fun, ánd not taking care of the reasons that started it all, will damage the child immensely, when it's all about jus trying to clear the path a bit for the child for it to become a strong individual who can take care of itself and others.

JonoOrchard - posted on 04/16/2013

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hi, I'm a dad, married with 2 kids

my 11 yr old son is addicted to MC also. He would play it 24hrs a day if possible.

I have taken the 'join them' approach and got myself a MC account $35 usd I think. And play with him and his friends. I've also set him up with his own server where he makes the rules and controls his friends access. It did take a little bit of tech know how, but know that its running its pretty awesome......This approach has caused my son to be so passionate about MC that he wants to write and design his own games. This hobby, albeit a little annoying when his ears dont work when playing MC,,,,(and various other symptoms) are minor compared to the passion and drive he has established early in life which he's now starting to apply this 'feeling' to a more practical and productive future in the IT world.

Julie - posted on 03/05/2013

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My 11 year old TOLD ME he was "addicted" to Mine craft. The thing is, I don't let him play that often.
My boys have to "EARN SCREEN TIME" with equal amounts of physical exercise, or additional chorus on top of daily responsibilities. 15 MIN per chorus can be earned, and they can only play up to one hour at a time.
Play dates or "XBOX play dates, are a bit more flexible, but this gets them coming to me "Mom, what can I do to help"
Does he read 20 minutes a day? He should be, make that his first earned time, after 20 mins of reading, he can have 20 minutes of Minecraft
I set a timer...I find 30 minutes on the game is best, after an hour they get mood changes and aggravated. Just know you are not alone. get it under some control now, because I think it will only get worse into the teenage years

David - posted on 06/25/2013

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Video (computer) games are the nemesis of our time. While it teaches our children to be comfortable with being social on the computer, which is a must in the business world, they also create people that only want to exist in a fantasy world. I empathize with the fact that your son is an only child and you are a single mum and that there are no other children his age in the neighborhood. Introduce him to books. When he is in the down time of his computer, it can keep him occupied and works on the imagination skills that computer games are destroying.

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Ben - posted 8 hours ago

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Honestly, video games are more helpful than hurtful. They help kids be social, connect with people, and just have fun. One of the extremely monumental things about video games and the Internet in general - If you don't say/lie about your age, people treat you like a 16-18 year old. And that really changes how you interact, and how others interact with you, in a community or game. Stuff like this really prepares kids for being an adult.

By the way, writing this from experience. I'm a 12 year old, and I get good grades (As and Bs) and I play around 6-8 hours of MC a day. Hasn't hurt me yet. ^-^

~Ben

Evan - posted 2 days ago

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Will you all just consider the fact that minecraft is a way to be as creative as you please. It is also allowing a kid to do what most kids want to do: be a hero. When someone plays minecraft it is like they can be a hero, save a world from monsters, and be powerful. Like, seriously minecraft gives you the ability to punch down trees for Pete's sake! As an 11 year old boy who is also addicted to minecraft I can certainly say the game makes its player feel like they they are able to do anything they want. No more rules or restrictions. It is an almost unbelievably great how the game makes you feel like you can do litterally anything your heart desires. Seriously limiting his playability is like if he took away the thing you love to do most. Just try and put yourself in his shoes. It is just a freakin game. It is not like his whole life revolves around it. Minecraft is not evil or bad or unhealthy or any bs like you think it is. Just try to relate

Branden - posted on 04/12/2014

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Kids act up with this game merely because you are taking it away from them. To put it into perspective imagine if as a kid you really liked to play basketball and you would spend all your free time with it. Then your parents decide that you are addicted and take your ball away. You would be irritated right?

Josh - posted on 04/01/2014

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Minecraft is a cancer, the faster you get rid of it the less serious the consequences are.

Steps to quit:

1) Get your child to write a list of what they want to achieve in life, e.g.

- Get married, have kids, get a good job, etc...
Then ask your child to explain how minecraft will help them do these things.

2) Delete the 'Minecraft launcher', '.minecraft' file (in the %appdata% folder) and any other minecraft related files off his computer for good.

Then go into windows family setting (whilst Minecraft is installed) and block the program.

#Note [VERY IMPORTANT] Don't use the Screen Time policy, to kill the cancer minecraft is, you need to get rid of it once and for all.

3) Most importantly fill the gap minecraft leaves, for me it was App Development, after quitting minecraft I started making Apps for windows and I already have over 245,000 downloads on my applications. Other suggestions include:

-Sports club
-Music editing/profuction
-Reading
-Creative writing/writing articles for local newspapers
4)[HARDEST STEP] Try and introduce your child to friends who aren't video games addicts. If a child has friends that are all addicted to video games then its pretty obvious what will happen.

Follow all these steps and your child should hopefully quit Minecraft and do something worthwhile in their lives.

Videogames - posted on 04/01/2014

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You people are going from this all wrong. Saying video games take away a child's imagination, making this into a much larger than it actually is, if there is any problem.( i mean come on if your kid played baseball or football 24.7 you wouldnt call him addicted) Your child did not grow up in the same time period as you therefore you cannot and should not impose restrictions on the technology available to him. Videogames are not bad or evil, if anything they help with hand-eye coordination, tactical and strategic thinking, they even boost your child's ability to read. The kid will most likely read more on a video game then he ever will in the library. Now I'm not saying you should let him on 24.7 and skip out on homework and chores, but his passion is just that HIS passion. There is no justifiable reason to take away something that is not harming your child, something that he loves to do. What if someone told you that you weren't aloud to do the thing you love most? Or restricted you to 30 minutes of a 24 HOUR day? I'd rather have my kid playing video games, using his imagination, reading, and being involved in technology than wasting his days being bored or doing something he doesnt enjoy. Get with the times people.

Cyndy - posted on 03/24/2014

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Luigi, I appreciate you trying to help me parent! You, I am sure have had a lot of experience parenting! As a parent, it isy job to make sure my kids understand that even games can be addicting. When some kids play minecraft, they become different and not in a good way. I have many friends with kids with the same affect from this game. As a child, you aren't capable of seeing the negative. Within 24 hrs of minecraft detox... Our house is back to a house of kind kids and the ability to respect!

Luigi - posted on 03/24/2014

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I'm only 13 and a boy (I know)know nothing about parenting. But do what my mom did with me, take away his computer on weekdays and he may only play on weekends. If he fails to do this, take away his computer for good. Its not being the best parent in the world and he wont be very hppy about it, But show him that you have the power to enforce him. Its called dicipline, all kids need it :)

Cyndy - posted on 03/23/2014

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My son is addicted to minecraft! He will sneak and play every chance he gets. He has hidden the game within all of our computers at home and even though they don't show up on the screen, it is there! We had taken all electronic out of the house for two weeks and the improvement in his behavior was confounding! He even felt less agitated!

His school allows this game to be played during core classes. On those days, he comes home rude and obnoxious! I then found out that he was once again hiding minecraft and lying about it! I too think this game should be called mind craft! I have many friends who are experiencing the same with their sons!

Now in our house, the wifi is locked, computers are locked, kindles are set to free time only with no access to games only books, and phones are restricted!

Keep fingers crossed that my theory is right!

Jacqueline - posted on 03/20/2014

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I hear what yr saying but are you a father? Or a stay at home father? If you give a kid an iPad these days and don't check on them they will literally stay on there for hours! Kids need limits. There no need to stay on a computer all day or even for 3 hours at a time, I'd rather give him Legos to play with, it's in my opinion way better for him. And as for 3d model skills, that's not really important, that's not a skill that's gonna build my kids character or make him a better person. Bottom line the games obsessive and I don't like how it makes kids change into lazy brats, rubbing there eyes, crying and throwing temper tantrums, it's nuts. I'm with my kids 24/7 and this behavior all started from that game, it's very odd to me. This is a entire group of boys all acting the same out of nowhere. It has made my life harder as a mom bc of the behavior n constant timing and bribing to get it from him so delete it went and back to normal everything has been!

Joe - posted on 03/20/2014

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Okay look I'm in a make this nice and short I'm not saying you should let them play for the entire day every week but I'm saying that you shouldn't restrict your child from Minecraft till like half an hour a day it's just not right, it helps them with their 3-D model building skills which is a very good job and pays a lot of money, supplying your children with good futures. this is just a suggestion I am not saying you have to do this but I'm saying you really shouldn't do this let their time based on their grades in school but if they're out of school already then let them make their own decisions thank you goodbye

Jacqueline - posted on 03/19/2014

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I'm sure your mother had fun as a child, she just didn't have this technology, nor did I. You have to understand this technology is fun but it's also very addictive and it's annoying for us moms to have to sit here and time our kids to get off , kids should play and use there imagination, be outside and get dirty! My generation was one of the last ones with no technology and I'm so thankful it was bc kids today are so easily controlled by it, it's like they become zombies. Be thankful you have a mom that cares , her taking it away is a good thing, trust me! You'll see one day when your a mom and you'll thank her!

Not A - posted on 03/08/2014

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Well first of all, I have to tell you all that I am not a mom, but just a regular teen. I got addicted to Minecraft a few months ago, and started sneaking on just to play, until my mom caught me. Of course, I got banned from it forever. The problem was, my mom did not even understand the reason why I was so addicted. She was the type of mom who grew up having a childhood that had no fun, just work, work, work (as in schoolwork). So now, as I try to convince her to let me play again, giving her reasons to limit my playtime, she still abstains from giving me access. How can this be solved?

Matia - posted on 03/03/2014

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My opinion is:
1. Be firm,
2. Give him a DAY limit. for example. he can't play from monday- thursday. Then he can play from Firday- Sunday.
Pretty simple

Matia - posted on 03/03/2014

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Like some people have said, let him play his butt off until he is bored, he'll find something else to do then. Some other techniques you can try is, oh yes, be more firm? no matter how much he pleads, don't let him play until you think necessary. My opinion would be to maybe not let him play from monday to Thursday. then let him play from Firday- Sunday.

Jacqueline - posted on 03/02/2014

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April- that's great that's it's not affected your child the way it has others, but to be honest I've seen this game begin to destroy a lot of children. Not all moms have time to sit n play games with there kids, that' may be why your child has an easier time ending it. But I know a dozen of moms that have recently had to completely take the iPad away bc of this game. Yes they build n it's like really cool Legos, but why is it so obsessive to so many children? Why do kids act up all of a sudden after playing? n why do I have to pry my sons hands off? N this is the same behavior for a dozen boys! They all got it taken away and are all back to doing homework, being kind, they all lost there attitudes, are outside all day the way it should be. To me, a game that has that affect on a child's mind is bizarre! We are talking totally normal, respectful kids who after playing this become rotten? That's like mind control if u ask me

Jacqueline - posted on 03/02/2014

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They should call it MIND CRAFT bc it seem to control children's minds to only want to play it. My son lost all interest in everything after we dumbly downloaded this. I think it's bad and it's been deleted. My sons back to his normal self n in my opinion kids belong outside playing not staring at a computer.

The - posted on 02/13/2014

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i, as a 9 year old kid think that minecraft can be used to learn things, some of my friends who play minecraft wanna be an architect i didnt know that gold would break easy, of course some things in minecraft teach fake things such as zombies and other monsters at night and if you dont want your kids playing with strangers or to learn any bad words you can just make them a server for them and theyre friends play in it

Oms - posted on 02/12/2014

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my 6/7 year old is addicted. it has taught him lots of bad words. but i use it as a reward when he does his homework. today he got 7 stars and i offered to buy him any toy he wanted. he said mum can you switch wifi back on. can i play mine craft i don't want any new toys!!

Connie - posted on 02/08/2014

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My son is 11yrs I
Old he tells me to shut my mouth all the time does all He does is play video games all the time what do I do also he tells tells his grandmother the same thing he will say say you sorry all the time

April - posted on 01/24/2014

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I am a mother to two children, a son and a daughter. My son Lachlan also enjoys Minecraft. I don't honestly know if this will help you out any but here's my two bits worth. For an hour a day right after school, I play Minecraft with him. He doesn't have a lot of friends at school and is shy. School is not really that easy for him so he needs his outlet. It gives him that time to wind down and get comfortable with his surroundings again and by me playing with him, I can monitor if someone is treating him unfairly and also help him with some of the Minecraft applications. After that hour is up (he does get more time to play on the weekends), it's off to homework and chores for him. As far as video games go, Minecraft has to be one of the better ones out there because it teaches one to build, design, craft and be generally resourceful in a game. Way better than some of those RPG's or First Person Shooters out there. Anyway, that's my two bits worth and this system hasn't let me down yet.

Christine - posted on 01/06/2014

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I am in the same boat my son is 11 and he is on it from the time he gets up till he goes to bed. especially weekends I get upset that he doesn't want to do anything with me sometimes. I try to give him some limits on how long he is on during school only for 1-2 hrs weekends his friends come over and play all day and I have to tell him to get off at 2-3 in the morning. But he goes roller skating every friday night is an honor roll student for 3 years. When summer comes I know he won't be playing as much to much other stuff to do

That Gamer - posted on 01/05/2014

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Here is the thing
I'm 14 and have played since the beginning of mine-craft. I am very good with computers considering I know 4 programming languages including java the one mine-craft was made using and I can tell you it's addicting. Because I am so good with computers I found some old parts at recycling places that where free and build a computer set as my server. I now own 6 mine-craft servers that are public and 2 private for friends and a YouTube channel and all of this is at no cost I'm my room... You see how addicting it can get lol. And if parents want a good way to limit play time here's how. Go into note pad and type the following

Start Minecraft.exe
Timeout /t 5 (5 = seconds you will let him play)
Shutdown -s


Then save this as minecraft.bat on the desktop MAKE SHURE to save it as .bat and not as text as all files for it to work.

This will launch the windows command prompt and will leave it open next it will launch minecraft then wait however many seconds you set it to then when those seconds are over it will turn off your PC.

If your child complains oh it didn't save that's BS cause minecraft auto saves every second.

Hope this helps and if you have any questions or concerns regarding this or how to set this up email me at derian00@gmail.com thanks
P.s note this only works in windows if you are using a Mac email me and I will send you the instructions

Jacob - posted on 01/04/2014

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I absolutely have to disagree with David's comment. Computer games ESPECIALLY games like Minecraft are doing nothing but expanding the imagination of today's youth. I am a 22 year old Dad and have a one year old son. I grew up in the age of computer games mainly violent bloody games like Doom, Quake, and Diablo. At least you child is not addicted to more violent graphic video games that anyone has access to now days. And Even if he gets older as a teen and is addicted to video games. At least they aren't out with their high school mates getting high and drunk. I for one did that exact thing as my parents had gotten a divorce when I was young. My dad let me play all the games I wanted and would even play with me while my mother refused to let me do any of that. So I would seek the companion of kids in the neighborhood.

This lead to me getting drunk every weekend when I was 14 and getting high every day after school. Then I would go to my dads the next week and would be completely content, I didn't want to smoke or drink I just wanted to play games. Some parents think of video games as ruining their children's minds and social lives. When In fact its the opposite. I have friends all over the world whome I have met on video games and even met my girlfriend on World of Warcraft. The next time you see your Child on the computer and think to yourself. "Why isn't he outside having fun." Think of these three facts.

1. Your child is within eyesight of you so you know he isn't getting into trouble.
2. The world as we know it is leaning more and more heavily on computers. So when your child goes to get a job with all of his time spent on the computer he will know exactly how to solve this problem or that problem.
3. He will have unbreakable bonds with people all around the world. And when I say unbreakable. I refer to myself who once lost my job due to something far out of my control and had no place to go. I was evicted for not paying rent and had no money or anywhere to go and one of my British friends sent me a plane ticket and dealt with my jobless self for a month before I found a job and got back on my feet. And I actually met this friend on minecraft.

John - posted on 01/03/2014

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I am 12 years old, and I play Minecraft a lot. But I find that because my parents let me play as long as I want, I start to get bored, not really knowing what to do. So maybe, the same thing could happen to your child. It happens with every child, including myself. The child gets something new, wants to play with it all the time, then eventually, gets bored of it. So maybe just take this into consideration.

Jack - posted on 12/28/2013

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I like this guy, anyway he's right about grades and being addicted I'm 13m and was addicted. Your kids will grow up and stop playing so much. Making time limits never worked on me, I recommend just taking it all away for a week and then increase the time by 2 weeks and so on. They may call you a bitch or whatever but they will get overit

Sonya - posted on 11/28/2013

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I have 4 chlidren in which 3 of them are boys 7,9 13. I see the difference between each child. The youngest gives me no grief when its time to shut the games off, the middle is overly dramatic and will push the barriers then you have the eldest who just test in talking back... doesnt go very far. I can understand that for you it is very difficult as my boys and daughter have each other for entertainment, but trust me they find a way to throw I'm bored card at me and agitate each other so I can cave and give them their ipods. That would be the easy way out. I love a challenge so I challenge them. we went to to an arts / craft store and they each picked a craft. low and behold I found a talentl. my youngest loves making these plastic bracelet things, its very popular with the kids, my 9 year old showed his artistic talent in drawing and it wowed me. so he is now enrolled in art classes. my eldest like the labour work, building things with his hands and loves the outdoor activities,. So he is now in cadets. My daughter has an ipod but it can be left out for days and she will never touch it... she is a real girly girl. I can only share how we schedule our game time vs school homework and social activity. During the week its very simple , their is not ipods, wii, PS3.. whatever gaming . If their is no homework its help mommy or daddy time, I call this quality time. One helps with dinner, clean the dishes. this is not a punishment it shows value of life. I know when they grow up I did my best to spoil them with quality time showing them values and morals. Im not saying you are not... just making general statement. Your son is 11, he is at an age where he can actually babysitt . Take a babysitting course. Where I live they start offering courses at the age of 10 . This again depends of the childs maturity. I can garantee he holds other talents then minecrafting. Time and patience to find his social talent.. .

Virginia - posted on 11/28/2013

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Did you ever think that maybe it isn't minecraft's fault that your child called you a bitch?
I'm not saying you're a bitch of course but it's not minecraft where he would pick up that language (as most servers immediately kick you out of the game if you swear!)
If he doesn't have the respect for you and your place in the home then things will escalate until it's not minecraft being his problem but horrible games with gore and murder.

Virginia - posted on 11/28/2013

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Your son isn't addicted.
That's the first part you need to understand.
I get that you may be worried that he plays too much minecraft but it's a world you can spend hours in and not notice the time passing by. I see that you're a single mom and you don't have the time to hang out with him all the time and living in neighborhood with no other kids is tough.
The best thing I think i could recommend is making a time chart. For every 20 minutes of reading or homework he receives 20 minutes of minecraft. (make sure this is actual working and not just staring at paper until the time adds up!)
Also remember that he is a kid! Remember what is was like to be a kid and to be able to hang out with your friends at the mall or the park. For your kid the mall is this amazing and fun world of blocks where he can let loose his imagination and building amazing structures and as a bonus he can play it with people all over the world!

Jake - posted on 11/11/2013

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I have been reading a lot of your replies and comments and I can assure you if your kid is having a love for computers even if it is just gaming then that means when he begins to mature a bit more he will begin to immerse himself in much more advanced areas such as web design, HTML, server hosting etc. I am 17 now, I started playing Minecraft when I was about 12 or 13. I first began playing around with networking with Minecraft. Setting up servers for friends and for myself. As time passed my knowledge for networking advanced and I began working with other areas such as web servers, web hosting, and other game servers. At the age of 16 I started my own company that provides Game Hosting, Web Hosting, and VPS Hosting from a Tier 1 Dedicated Server Hosting company in Canada. I as of now do not need to go to college. I can drop out of school if I very well wanted to. The amount of money I am making is about triple what I would make with some bullshit ass degree. So for you parents out there that think it is so bad being on the computer like that. Quit being a fucking bitch and accept the fact that you are going to have a brilliant child. Encourage him to move forward and watch his knowledge keep growing because I can tell you right now he is probably miles more intelligent then the rest of his class, even his grades don't reflect on it. Hell those grades will never show how smart a child is.

Maria - posted on 10/13/2013

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I have an almost 13 yr old boy and have not limited his use of mine craft for about a year now. It worries me some BUT this is how I've rationalized it, good or bad: He is growing ad changing, his old interests of Legos and digging in the dirt no longer appeal like they used to and it's ok. He plays soccer and cross country and plays piano and drums and gets his homework and chores done. Mine craft isn't a shoot em up game which I would never allow in my home. He still interacts with friends. My opinion is for parents to be sure and have other responsibilities for their kids and relax about mine craft. They are growing and changing at a rapid rate at this age and soon will be on to something else like dating and driving....

Samara - posted on 10/11/2013

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I had the same problem with my 10 yr old son and it was literally driving me mad. My son LOVED to read, draw, craft & build things, play outside, and he never had any trouble finding ways to self-entertain without tv or electronics. That was UNTIL... I bought him a mini iPad with the intention that it would mainly be used for educational apps and books. Of course, it quickly became overloaded with various games- mindcraft being one of his favorites. My child became a whole different child. He still likes to read but does so less often & now prefers mindless books rather than good books, he went from not minding his homework to hating it & rushing thru it, no longer wanted to go outside and he was "always bored" and constantly complained there was nothing else to do. I am also a single mother and he was an only child up until a year ago so I know how difficult it can be as a mother needing some help in the entertainment dept. I believe though it's absolutely vital that kids do well in school & are able to find things to do that require imagination & creativity to keep them sharp and balanced. Eventually, I made a rule that I promised myself that under NO circumstances could I ever fail to enforce. I declared the school week as a time for concentration & mental relaxation- No TV, No iPad, No computer, No gaming systems, No Electronics PERIOD. To have it across the board made it simple & negotiations didn't stand a chance. So Monday through the end of the school day on Friday he is not allowed use any electronics and as a bonus I told him I'd have no restrictions on time on the weekends (except when we are at the dinner table, etc.). The first 3 weeks were tough & full of complaints but now I realize it was the best decision I ever made! He has gotten his old self back again & still gets to enjoy his games on the weekends. Unbelievably, he plays FAR LESS OFTEN & watches WAY LESS tv- sometimes never even turning any of them on some weekend days! I also think it's important that you enforce the understanding that many of his friend's parents are going to let their kids do all kinds of things throughout his life that he won't be allowed to do just like some of them won't get the same privileges as he has but that is the difference in love & parenting beliefs and teach him why he should be thankful & trust in your beliefs and judgements- sometimes kids need to hear it so even if they act like they don't care because deep inside they will "get you" much more & realize that you are not trying to be mean just trying to be a parent that cares about their well-being far beyond a day or a week but into their futures. Good luck!

Toni - posted on 10/01/2013

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My 11 year old is playing as we speak. Obsessed to say the least. I took him off the option to play with others as it was causing him stress. What I have attempted to do with some success, for every minute increment of Minecraft equals that same amount of time reading an actual book! My son is also an only child so I know where you are coming from. When he reads I read as well, usually mine is work related! I hope this is some help to you.

Jane Alexandria - posted on 09/24/2013

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Minecraft is fucking our kids minds if we make them get off they go outside and say they will find gold! I recommend to get him a puppy or something to distract him from Minecraft. My son Leonard plays way too much Minecraft. I told him to get off and he called me a bitch! I think our kids will live in awful society unless we take imediate action.

Jenni - posted on 09/15/2013

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It's been really interesting to read the range of opinions on Minecraft. My 12 year old is what I consider to be "addicted" and I hold my hands up as responsible because we have not metered his usage. I must admit I wasn't aware it was an educational game, I figured it was a shoot-em-up so again, my bad for not researching it. I can see that it can have it's place among the activities of a child but only after more real-world lessons are learned like responsibilities, homework and chores performed to the best of their abilities. It's also been interesting to read the children's perspective who have, rightly or wrongly, posted on this topic, it's a side that as parents we don't often get, so I thank them for expressing themselves. What I've taken away from this is everything in moderation. While it may educational, education needs to be well rounded and balanced, so Minecraft can form a part of this just not 100% of their free time. Thanks to everyone for helping me put this one in perspective.

Abby - posted on 09/14/2013

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so I am a 13 year old and I can tell evry mom on here what most of us think.. we LOVE this game. Yes, we have lost interest in t.v and legos, Barbie dolls and things like that. we have become teenagers with make-up, more video-games. The problem with you guys taking away this game is a horrible idea no offense. These days, school becomes more difficult and we are already having to make some desitions for our future. Taking this game away will cause us to not listen to you nor school or anything! This game means a lot espeshualy to kids who don't have a parent to play ball or watch movies with. We are at that time where everything is better without parents and with friends or by yourself with a cell phone or video games. I am a 13 year old girl who has a mom that goes to work everyday from 3 in the afternoon to 3 in the morning. I have this game to help me belive everything will be ok and I also find friends on there that are nice to me and help me through things when it is rough. So to the moms and dads out there who belive that this game should not be in your childs life.. your wrong.. this game means everything to me.. I have lost things I truly care about like my father but I do know that minecraft will always be there for me and I will be there for it.. goodbye.

The - posted on 09/04/2013

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You know what you parents never think differently and always think that games are mind controlling your child, but its different!

Michelle - posted on 09/03/2013

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My son is the same loves this game. He recently started secondary school and is doing technical graphics. His teacher said that the game is great for getting there mind active, problem solving and recommends the the to help them with design skills. I am not saying your child should be on it all the time but it has some good points to it

Laurinda - posted on 09/02/2013

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My 9 yr old son is addicted to playing Minecraft and watching Minecraft videos on YouTube and like that's not enough he begs me to play with him or for me to sit and watch him play. It's all he thinks about. He will play and forfeit eating, drinking, going to bathroom, showering, Etc. Its all he breathes; Minecraft, Minecraft, Minecraft. Hhhhhhh. It is so stressful to me. Am I alone in thinking this game may have some kind of demonic influence of mind control over young kids? He has played tons of other games but there is nothing like this game as to the mind control it has over him. Please help!!! I don't know what to do.

Jackie - posted on 06/23/2013

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You are describing my 9 year old son exactly!!! He is gifted as well but doesn't care about his homework or anything else in life but Minecraft. And when he isn't playing he is talking about it or begging to play!! It's driving me insane I don't know what to do!!!

Sara - posted on 06/19/2013

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I empathize. My 9 year old daughter is completely addicted to guild wars 2. She doesn't want to get off of it ever. She would literally wake go play until she went to bed.
I was also single mom until last year. Oh and she has a brand new bike she's barely ridden. I just limited her time. Although sometimes I let her go for it. I talked to her about how her friends are going swimming and she's missing out on life. She didn't care of course, because she's obsessed. But I felt it helped when I took her out to swim and see friends and asked her to discuss guild wars later. It helped her be in the moment.

Sue - posted on 06/09/2013

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I had to stop my 12 year old from bringing his laptop home from school and limit his usage of the computer at school for strictly school work. There were complaints at first but he is now a changed boy, not even worrying about computer games , he is out on his bike and having a ball.

Must Have Faith - posted on 06/08/2013

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My son is 12 and my story is identical to yours. I think the game is addicting. I also think our kids at this age have lost interest in legos and tv.

What my husband and I have done is set limits on the computer. He always begs for more time, but limits are a must. He for goes playing outside with friends to be on mind craft too.

This game is terrible!

Heidi - posted on 06/05/2013

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Following on from my last post - explaining that I have completely banned all gaming in our house as our seven year old son is obsessed with minecraft and the x-box. I have never been anti-gaming and it isn't about the game. It made me uncomfortable that he only looked forward to minecraft and would make a fuss about not having had his minecraft time in a day even if we had had a great day out somewhere. He would cry if he couldn't have minecraft time (e.g. on holiday) and it would be the first thing he would do in the morning and the only thing he truly wanted to do. I am a psychologist and was never concerned about gaming in children until I had this experience of my son. Our other son is not obsessed and can take it or leave it. I was surprised to find that our minecraft 'addict' was actually relieved and more contented after the ban. I obviously explained the reasons and he can use the pc for homework related stuff but that is not that often to be honest as he is only seven. A complete ban will not harm him and hopefully it will bring more harmony and balance to his childhood. I said he could have games when he was ten but that if the obsession started again it would be extended to age twelve. He was happy with this.

Heidi - posted on 06/05/2013

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I completely banned all gaming for my sons as until they are older. My seven year old was properly obsessed. After months of trying different 'boundaries' the ban is the best thing we have ever done. We are all relieved, including seven year old. Our other son was not obsessed and is supportive of the ban as he has his brother back. I am not anti-gaming (I have enjoyed many games in my time). But we only use the pc for homework or work related activities and the x-box and wii have been chucked.

Brenda - posted on 05/30/2013

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I am starting to call Minecraft 'Mind Control'. It's not that I have anything against the game. And according to the TIME magazine article I read yesterday, it's educational, innovative and creative. All things we want for our kids.

Still, I've noticed that since my 11 year-old son started playing regularly in December, he seems to have lost the ability to think for himself outside the screen. My straight 'A', gifted child is now missing school project deadlines (that he conveniently forgets about) because his head is stuck inside the computer.

Has anyone else noticed this problem with their kids?

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