11yr old bed-wetter. HELP!!!!!
Megan - posted on 03/29/2014
My heart goes out to all kids who struggle with bedwetting...especially at age 11. I think its the lack of control of your own body and the relentlessness of it that makes it so frustrating for kids, especially as they get older. They just want to go to sleepovers and camp without having to fear embarrassment. I remember so well how frustrating and helpless I felt to help my son stop wetting the bed.I kept a no big deal attitude, but he was so fearful of his friends finding out that the bedwetting began to lower his self esteem. So I talked with him about using a bedwetting alarm and we read the book Prince Bravery and Grace-Attack of the Wet Knights. He wanted to try the alarm. I purchased the malem with alarm and vibration. He slept right through it at first -which is typical of a child who wets at night. Typically the childs brain does not recognize the full bladder signal while sleeping. The alarm trains the brain to react to the full bladder signal. So I would wake him. Sometimes several times in one night. But gradually he began to wake by himself. And in less than three months he went from wet every single night to dry every single night. I found a lot of positive information about bedwetting and alarm use at www.braveryandgrace.com Also, it seems counterintuitive, but a child who wets nightly needs to drink lots of water during the day and evening. This actually helps the bladder develop better control.
Also new medical studies have linked constipation to bedwetting, definitely do not overlook this as a contributing factor. Ask your pediatrician to treat your child for constipation and see if this helps. If not, I would strongly recommend the bedwetting alarm.
Good luck and God Bless!
Also, I found the books, alarms and waterproof mattress pads at this webstore:
hope it helps!
Kelly - posted on 12/06/2009
when i was growing up i had a problem with wetting the bed i wet the bed up to the age of 12 i believe but i remember that i took a pill one hour before bed and it seemed to help you might want to ask your doctor also try nothing to drink an hour before bed and wake him up once through the night at the same time everynight and he will get use to waking up and will start to wake up by himself after awhile and will go potty in the bathroom instead of bed thats what my foster mom did to me when i was 11
Michelle - posted on 12/01/2009
My brother did too, and they used the machine, it didn't help...he finally out grew it.
My almost 11 year daughter wets the bed also, we are going to set her alarm, and since the alarm is across the room, she will have to get up.
We found that the more you pressure about it, the more they are likely to keep doing it. So we don't talk about it, she will out grow it.
Kenitra - posted on 12/01/2009
Limit fluids, especially carbonated beverages after dinner. During the day, tell your child to go when they feel the first urge. When your child tries to "hold it" to strengthen their bladder, they cause more harm than good. The only time the bladder can relax is at night when then are sleeping. That is what one doctor told me. Honestly, I think we just have to wait for them to outgrow it.
Gail - posted on 11/16/2009
have you tried waking him up in the night, to take him to the loo, or there is a devise that you can get from the health authorities, where you put in between the sheets n when they start to wee it makes a buzzing soynd to wake them up for the loo
Stacey - posted on 11/15/2009
Hi, i will get back to u on this one,as my neice was also a bedwetter,she is now 12yrs and my sister went to her doctor and they gave her a waffer Tablet,she stopped in no time and my sister had tried everything,will talk to her and get back to you.
Charity - posted on 11/13/2009
My son (who is 12 now) had a problem with wetting the bed every night. We bought the Malem alarm for him about two yrs ago. It came with two pads and a book with tips in it. He used the alarm and in about a month and a half he stopped and has never had an other accident. My four year daughter was having the same problem so we used it on her she stopped in about three weeks. She still has an occasion accident. I hope you find what works for you. Good luck
Elizabeth - posted on 11/12/2009
My son is 12 and he still ocassionally wets the bed, I also wet the bed till I was 12. I honestly think he will out grow it. Probably about the age a 12 or 13. My sons doc put him on meds at one time though I really didn't see a big improvment. I think sometimes these things just take time to run their course.
Angie - posted on 11/12/2009
I have a 14 year old who has had problems wetting the bed for along time now. He is bipolar and ADHD and takes beds for that nightly & daily. He has to be on Impramine for his med wetting as well as his other meds. He has to have this meds though cause even just missing one night he will have an accident again. So i would ask your doctor about trying Impramine, my son is on a low dose and it helps, he's been on it since 2005 after having surgery for removal of 2 hernias. Good Luck, hope something helps.
Nicole - posted on 11/12/2009
At 9yrs old my son had his tonsils and adnoids removed. My son was in such a deep sleep that he wouldnt wake up. Even if we got him out of bed in the middle of the night to pee....he was asleep. It was almost immediate that he stopped. Ask your dr about that.
Teri - posted on 11/11/2009
My daughter is 11 yrs old and I have problems also with her. I am finding that if she is too cold at night she also wets. She doesn't want to get up until it is too late. Then she has to get up. Try an extra blanket? Also make sure he doesn't go to bed mad or upset.
I have heard of a nose spray that can provide some relief. A friend of mine used it on her daughter for a while and then stopped because of she stopped wetting the bed. She went a while with good results but has started making her use the spray again cause the accidents started happening again. It may offer some relief.
Donna - posted on 11/10/2009
My only suggestion is to have patience!! My son (11) had the same problem. We limited the drinks at night, tried waking him in the middle of the night, etc...... Nothing every really seemed to work for more than a couple of nights in a row. He was a very deep sleeper and it was torture trying to wake him up to go in the middle of the night. We never made an issue of it with him. Then one day a few months ago it just seemed to go away!!! We didn't do anything different, it just happened!! So hang in there.
Anne - posted on 11/10/2009
We have my son on the meds and they seem to work when he is willing to take them. He is so lazy and will hide his wet sheets rather than take care of them. We, too, have tried everything, including the alarm...that just got disconnected and broken after we spent over $100...good luck!
Brita - posted on 11/10/2009
My son was a bed wetter until last year. He is almost 11 now and may still have an accident now and then. When he was going to the bathroom I told him to stop and go to help build up his muscles. This and not letting him drink anything before bed has helped a lot.
Good luck! I know it is frustrating for you and your child.
Mary - posted on 11/10/2009
srry,but doctors never help.first thing i would do is no drinks' after 6pm.ya i know sounds bad,but i've dealt with this,and make him go to the bathroom before he goes to bed and maybe try talking to him and see if theres anything thats bothering him.sometimes a child can have things bothering them and thats what makes them wet the bed.
Eloisa - posted on 11/10/2009
When my son would wet the bed every so often I would talk to him and I found out that he was having problems with kids at school.. just keep talking to him and see if there maybe something going on at school.. just have lots of patience and keep talking to him.. Good Luck
Connie - posted on 11/10/2009
I would ask your doctor to perform a sleep test - there is a condition (the formal name is slipping my mind at the moment) - where children sleep so deeply, and longer in the REM cycle, that their bodies don't recognize there's need for relief. There is a machine that can be attached to your son, that can tell if he has to urinate or not and will sound an alarm to wake you child to relieve himself.
Sandra's idea is a great one too. No fluids 2 hours before bed, and make sure he relieves himself before he goes to bed :) Some medications can also cause bedwetting - I know you didn't mention that, but just incase you didn't think to :)
Hope this helps. Good luck!
Sandra - posted on 11/10/2009
Oh my.... and the Doctors could not help... wow! Have you tried reducing the amount of liquid intake after 6pm or 7pm. And try waking him in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom to relieve himself. Just a suggest... Kind of the same technique that one uses when training your toddler not to wet the bed. I will check with my resources and get back to you. Good Luck.
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