12 Year old asks about shaving her personal body parts?

Sherri - posted on 03/30/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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My 12 year old has seen that I "Shave" my personal body parts...She has asked is it ok for her to shave? She asks me if it itches, I was told when I was young you just don't shave "down there" so I never did until I got older, and I was raised by an older mother, that would have thought that was riduculous...LOL, Anyway...Just wondered what everyones opinion is on this subject. I told her that it was ok with me if she wanted to shave.

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Kemijahmcdaniel - posted on 10/03/2012

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HI i am 12 years old and i was also wondering should i shave down there my grandma is on board but my mom is kinda on the fence so my grandmother wanted to know should i shave down there or not and me friends think i should so i am on the fence as well

Rachel - posted on 07/24/2013

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I want to start shaving but im to scared to ask my mum im not that hairy but i feel ready to shave my legs

Josselyn - posted on 10/08/2012

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My daughter who is 13 asked me about this when she started getting hair down there. She told me she would feel more comfortable if there was none there and we just talked about it and I agreed to let her do it. I didn't really see the big deal.

Klara - posted on 11/19/2010

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I think thats a good response. Give her the facts and let he decide. Its a personal choice, and it sounds like your letting her decide. Good for you!

Leah - posted on 04/27/2013

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At that age, you are starting to go through puberty and finally realise you are not a child anymore, but you still want to class yourself as a child! It is not for a sexually cause, but more of a self esteem situation! I think sex is one of the last things on a girls mind considering I am twelve too and debating what to do since I have moved to Australia- which obviously means swimming and IT IS embarrassing when your younger siblings notice!

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Heather - posted on 07/20/2014

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i don't think there is a problem with it i started shaving way earlier than that

Dwayne - posted on 07/03/2014

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what a bunch of narrow minded morons woman have been shaving their pussies for years and will do for years to come and I bet half you losers that say no you should not have done it
Grow up get a life and move on most young girls would not come and ask you first and they have a brain they know and would be careful when doing it
I would say to you all let your kids ,young grown ups learn just like you did and stop being a bunch of dickheads over this dumb ass point that was most likely started by a pedifile anyway wanting to know how many young girls shave themselves
why dont you talk about how to stop them from falling pregnant or not to get involved with drugs
you are a bunch of dumb ass f... wits

Drew - posted on 04/13/2014

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As a father/momI was asked the same question but she was 14. Q1 Why do YOU want to. No real answer.. Teenage answers shrug of shoulders. My reply was not to shave. Here is the money to go your beautician or try a a hair removal cream. Pushed the beautician angle; if old enough to loose your pubic hair, old enough to do it in front of trained professionals. Also did know if they would do brazilans without parental approval! Have never followed up, as I don't need to know, but she took the money, and the subject has never come up again.

Veronica - posted on 04/01/2014

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sweety mow it off if it makes you feel better dont let others stop you as its not there to stop things going into your pussy and its not to stop drips from it either
it smells when its hairy and bulges in your swimmers so i say if you wish mow it off
mum of 2

Teressa - posted on 03/16/2014

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I really think its a bad idea to shave down there. Its a very sensitive and important organ and I would only 'clean up' the area, not shave. I have shaved in the past and it is extremely irritating and itchy after! It feels nice for like a day and then it gets horribly itchy. The hair is there for a reason, to protect your vgina from getting foreign unwanted things in there, and it also catches some of what comes out, which I find is better than having wet panties from discharge. Also, later on if you don't want to shave anymore, it will be ery coarse ugly hair. Natural unshaved hair is much more fine. It is important to REALLY assess ALL the facts and long term benefits vs. consequences.....trimming is totally fine, you don't want to have those hairs sticking out of your bathing suite, but shaving it all, leave that for the porn stars, that is where it should stay. guys that insist that you shave are perverted and need to grow up ad enjoy a real woman. Why do we feel we always need to alter our bodies? I only shave my legs when I need to, otherwise I stay nice and warm with hairy legs in the winter.....I am not ashamed of my body the natural way it wants to be!

Vanessa - posted on 05/11/2013

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im the same way, and debating if I should ask my mother if I can shave mine.... or at least trim? lol

JustMommy - posted on 01/25/2013

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Seriously, I hope that all Moms out here know that shaving "down under" is mainly seen as being sexually active by a lot of teenagers, right? If not, you may want to talk openly and candidly to your girl..Therefore, my answer to my daughter about this is absolutely not! She and I talked in depth about it, and she agrees 100% with me because she was honest about what the 'talk' is about (and why) to shave down there. She is not sexually active, and has promised not to be until marriage. Thank God for that!

Let me add that 'trimming' around her pubic/bikini area is fine, especially since she is a cheerleader.

Also, our Dr understands the 'reason' young teens want to shave. He told me how it all started too. If you don't know, you need to research it out a little more before just giving open permission. That is my honest opinion.

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This is too weird!!! Why in the hell would a 12 year old want to shave her pubic hair? That's just messed up!

Candi - posted on 11/04/2010

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@Julie, don't you hate when commercials force you to have conversations you're not prepared for? I remember having to tell my then 8 yr old daughter what ED was a what viagra was. Thanks public TV for that during "kid viewing hours" on regular channels!!

Julie - posted on 11/03/2010

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we had this discussion the otherday when that comercial came on where the amimated bush takes a new shape when the woman walks by
My daughter said "I don't get it" so I explained to her that women sometimes shave their pubic hair to keep it neat and well groomed. and some women shave or wax all the hair off."
she said
"geez Ive been waiting waiting years to get some I'm not about to shave it all off! WHat kind of freeeeky men would want a grown woman without any hair?"
That was not a conversation I was ready to have...
so I left it at " well that is a conversation left between couples"

Nelly - posted on 11/03/2010

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My daughter is 14 years old and I would never allow her to shave her pubic hair, I let her shave her legs and armpits when she started high school

Jamee - posted on 04/03/2010

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Christine Strandberg~YES, I'm not the only freak out there! LOL, thanks so much for posting-I feel the same way!
Oh and regarding the post my 12 year old and I were just talking about this issue this week. I informed her that I thought it was uncomfortable to shave and that some women do and some women dont. I also told her about swimsuit season and that sometimes it's ok to shave bikini line, to each their own but I've always been worried I would "Nic" the wrong part!

Teresa - posted on 04/02/2010

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i beleive that it would be ok ..as long as that is what she wants besides it would grow back if she desides she dont like it! my daughter is 13 she chose not too she dont want to be itchy lol

Lori - posted on 04/02/2010

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Depends on if she's hit puberty yet or not and whether she's started her menstral cycle or not. The lifestyle between my daughter's biomom's house and our house are very different. Her biomom let her start shaving her legs at age 7 whereas my husband and I didn't buy her her first razor until this she was 11 and it was at Christmas time. She also started getting hair "down there" at age 7. To my acknowledgement she doesn't shave "down there" yet but a recent article from Jan 2010 Cosmo mag got me thinking~~huh~~interesting. It seems that in caveman days the hair "down there" was to prevent infection. Today, we have clothing and by not shaving "down there" and wearing underwear we are harboring bacteria "down there" I've started looking at it as a femine hygiene issue and so if my daughter came to me tonight and told me that she was shaving down there or asked me how to shave down there I'd more than likely say "okay". Especially if it's in the bikini area. Show her how~~hmmm~more than likely not. Explain to her how~~yes.

Arrow - posted on 04/01/2010

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UHHH, shaving 'down south' personally should not be a venture for her to get into till she is much older. Mine started her period last year and she hates when her short and curley's get caught in the sticky on the pads, But i told her that if the issue is just that, she could 'trim' them with small safety scissors every couple weeks. But shaving is not happening. Legs ok, pits ok, but not 'down south'.

Sherri - posted on 03/31/2010

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My daughter is half white and half mexican, so I believe that her body hair is a little darker, and she is annoyed by the color spots that she gets on her skin...That may have a lot to do with why she wants to shave

Cassandra - posted on 03/31/2010

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I would probibly recomend she only trim or do her bikini area only. I am a very dark haired woman so I remember the embarasment. My mum taught me how when we were wearing our swimsuits. Ask her rathional behind it.

Laura - posted on 03/30/2010

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i would say it depends on her development, and body hair. kids can be cruel sometimes and she may be trying bring something to your attention - does she comfortable doing sports at school, with summer coming is she worried about wear a swimming costume.it may be worth asking her why

Christine - posted on 03/30/2010

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wow...it seems a little drastic at this age...it's such a pain...i would want to make sure it was for the right reason....i am not a proponent of this, sorry...it creeps me out...makes me think of being a little child (b4 hair) and the whole having sex with a man issue (yes, I am a freak)...of course, I guess if you are really hairy and are self-conscious....i still prefer a trim to a shave anyday...:)

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