Tracie - posted on 01/03/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )
Hi, I am new to Circle of Moms! I have a important issue going on right now and I thought this would be a great place for some advice! My 12 year old son has his first real girlfriend. My son is extremely shy and backwards, but has really seemed interested in this girl. They text each other non-stop. And he has asked me if he can go to the movies with her. I didn't mind if he went with a large group of friends, just not the two of them alone, unless I was there as well. So far, their movie night hasn't happend yet! But here is my issue, I've been so curious as to what they text each other about. The other day I got the chance to snoop in his phone and I did. Here is the disturbing things I found:1) her signature on her texts is signed; "Nick's Bad Gurl"(Nick is my son of course!) 2)She sent him a picture of herself, although fully clothed, she was laying on her bed with tight clothes on. 3) She asked him if he would make out with her in the movies!!!! So of course I had to check his reply's. I'm sure my son was terrified to be quite honest! From the reply's, it looks like he barely talks to her and as far as the making out goes, he typed back, "I guess". I know my son, I know he isn't ready for that and doesn't want to do it yet. But I've heard that this poor little girl has already been quite active at the age of 12! So here is my problem, I need to discuss this stuff with my son, but the only way I could've found out this info is admitting that I snooped in his phone. I don't want to lose his trust! But I feel like these issues need to be talked about! He is just coming to the age where things start to change and I'm sure he is having feelings he's never had before. Please if anybody has any advice on how I should handle this, I would love to hear back from anybody! And by the way, my son is NOT ever going to the movies with this yound lady now!