Claire - posted on 12/20/2013 ( 38 moms have responded )
I woke my son up & told him to go to bed last night and noticed he was wearing a pair of my lace panties. A few weeks ago I found a few pair in his drawer & thought perhaps I had accidentally put them in with his laundry. Now I think he put them in there. We have appropriate boundaries in our home and I am a parent who has discussed his body changing. I believe this is probably normal but it does make me uncomfortable. I am educated about sexuality and open minded but when its your own child - it poses a dileema in knowing how to address it. I don't want to shame him but I would like to understand why other than I am sure they feel nice on his skin. Even when he was very little he would get my lingerie and sleep with it. I thought then it might smell like me and comfort him so I really didn't think anything of it. Apparently he hasn't outgrown it and I have talked to him about it before - not getting into my private quarters or wearing my underwear. How would you address this with your son in a healthy manner. I know he is heterosexual so it doesn't seem to be a cross dressing fetish. I would like direction on how you would discuss it or if I even should. I suppose my issue more than anything is him in my intimate apparel-that seems inappropriate. I don't believe its an Electra Complex - I think he just likes to wear women's panties & mine are the only ones he has access too. Ideas, please?