13 Year Old Son Wearing My Panties...Again

Claire - posted on 12/20/2013 ( 34 moms have responded )

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I woke my son up & told him to go to bed last night and noticed he was wearing a pair of my lace panties. A few weeks ago I found a few pair in his drawer & thought perhaps I had accidentally put them in with his laundry. Now I think he put them in there. We have appropriate boundaries in our home and I am a parent who has discussed his body changing. I believe this is probably normal but it does make me uncomfortable. I am educated about sexuality and open minded but when its your own child - it poses a dileema in knowing how to address it. I don't want to shame him but I would like to understand why other than I am sure they feel nice on his skin. Even when he was very little he would get my lingerie and sleep with it. I thought then it might smell like me and comfort him so I really didn't think anything of it. Apparently he hasn't outgrown it and I have talked to him about it before - not getting into my private quarters or wearing my underwear. How would you address this with your son in a healthy manner. I know he is heterosexual so it doesn't seem to be a cross dressing fetish. I would like direction on how you would discuss it or if I even should. I suppose my issue more than anything is him in my intimate apparel-that seems inappropriate. I don't believe its an Electra Complex - I think he just likes to wear women's panties & mine are the only ones he has access too. Ideas, please?

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Jack - posted on 02/12/2014

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Alright, here's the deal. I happened upon this article during an actually unrelated web search looking for clothes for one of my children. I'm actually not a mom. I'm a dad. And, more than that, I was once a thirteen year old boy. But, I felt like after reading your post, I felt a need to comment. So, I actually created an account here just to comment on your post. Your son is %100, totally normal in regards to what he is doing in this post. Boys around that age are so strange and you really can't use this behavior to come to any kind of conclusion about anything, especially not what is sexuality is likely to develop into. He is at an age where the opposite sex is fascinating in every way imaginable. His own body is becoming something of an interesting course subject, too. If you pay close enough attention, you are going to catch him doing all kinds of wildly strange things at this age. Wearing your skimpies doesn't mean anything. You might catch him trying out some of your other more personal night-time items, as well. None of it means anything. If you can, act like you don't notice or don't know what he is up to. If what he does bothers you for some reason, like he makes a mess out of your clothes or doesn't pick up after his explorations, tell him. But, don't expect not to encounter some things that don't makes sense to you. They don't make sense to him, either and that is what he is doing, he's making sense of things. It doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong or anything that is happening is not to be expected. As far as your son being gay, who knows! This behavior is most certainly no way to tell. I'm a straight male who has been happily married for a looong time and has beautiful, happy children. I used to do all kinds of strange things like that. Even if he does happen to be gay, bisexual, or whatever - he's still a perfectly normal kid that is trying to figure some stuff out. I hope it's not too much for you to handle, I'm sure you'll do just fine. Good day, and pat that kiddo on the head for me.

Barbaras - posted on 04/30/2014

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I am sure you have not gotten any replies from teens but I am 15 and wear Moms panties all the time. Started when I was 12

since then she has bought me my own, as well as two dresses and four skirts. I lovae being a girl. I have gone to several events at school as a girl and no one noticed
It is not the end of the worls so let him wear them.
By the way Mom is here beside me right now.

when I was 13 mom introduced me to my Dad as a girl, I was afraid he would freask but instead he thought I was cute. He calls cme his little girl and I love it.
He has taken me out shopping and to ,movies as a girl. I havaae seen him nude as well as my mom. I always wear panties though.

Mom here now let him do what he likes, many boys find they like being dressed as girls
mine does maybe yours will too.My husband seems to like her better anyway.

Jadi - posted on 05/13/2014

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A much greater number of boys experiment with panties, etc. than people realize. I don't see it as a problem at all. Be soft spoken and nurturing as you let him know you're okay with him wearing panties, but it's not okay for him to wear your panties. I would suggest you nonchalantly offer to get him some in his size. Even if he declines, buy several. You already have some idea of the style and fabric he might prefer. At least one similar to the ones he has worn, one more basic and plain, and one more decorative would be a way to start. You can either hand them to him as a modestly wrapped gift or let him know you have left a little something for him in his room. I believe this would convey your acceptance and care unmistakably.
I think you are absolutely correct; he just likes to wear panties and yours are the only ones around. Buying his own for him will really help in establishing that your wardrobe is to be off limits.
When I dealt with a near identical situation some years ago, I took "No thanks, Mom" as true feelings. I wish I had gotten the panties. Everything has worked out real well but there were more anxious moments ahead than there needed to be.

Unkown - posted on 06/22/2014

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I'm a 16 year old son and sometimes when I'm sexually turned on and my moms not home, I'll put on my moms panties and take pics in them or just see how they feel. She's very attractive and I only feel like putting them on when I'm turned on. There's no real reason other than curiosity and
being bored. I'm also definitely not homosexual

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Hi Claire. Your son is normal. I am a 50 year old crossdresser. Started when I was 8. Never been gay. Married for 30 years. Wife loves my CDing.I am a successful buisinessman. Let him be himself. He'll be fine.However,get him his OWN things to wear. Hope this helps!

Phil - posted on 08/01/2014

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It is abnormal but it isn't their fault. I don't know how open you are to this but it's true. They have a demonic spirit of lust, perversion, or fetish that has entered them some how through some legal ground or open doorway in their life and they need deliverance. Jesus Christ is the only one who can heal your son and you need to seek out a deliverance minister. Worldly therapy does nothing it's useless fruitless garbage that only makes people worse because something physical can't solve something spiritual. Peace and blessings

Karrie - posted on 06/08/2014

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hi i AM A LATER AGED Preop male/to female Trans person. to begin with i do not consider myself as having all the answers to every thing. but as i say i am a older person and yes i did raise children who both have children. Knowing from the life i grew through it was as this. I had a wonderful grandmother who for some reason just knew some how that i was born a wrong gender and actually made a feew dresses for me, and fully dressed me as a little girl while i visited her. after battles and chats ironically as odd as it is, my father become ver accepting and supportive of my Effemininate tastes and desires to lok feminine. my mother however was a little different but never ever totally through me away.
so as you see i am not a kook who is not someone that put on a dress last week and said ok i wanna be a girl from now on. I have lived a little more than half of my life in a womanly state than as a boy, and have not never ever wore any boy clothes for more than 30 years. I read your story and frankly dear i do not see any thing in it that says he is a gay boy. howerver i am realy wondering if their may have been a situation at school that makes him feel a bit less supior or a bit weaker to other children. Male as well as Females? saying so i am really concerned if you may get him to talk to you enough to get him to tell you if her feels he is a very submissive or shier shut in boy? And saying so this makes this boy feel like he has matured enough to feel and think he is slowly becoming a failure to himself, and is feeling this is his comfort zone to use what he was taught that girls are potentially weaker than boys and should not be physically fought by a boy. So he has recognised himself as being like, YA like a Girl?
I am mentoring a very young boy right now who between a grand parent, and a phychatrist, and myself, there is absolutely no, no dobut to us all this boy is born as the wrong gender. we now have him set up with very good Counceling and I have things so in place for this boy he attends school as a female, and his parents are switching his name for him like he asked them. (He has a very really boy name.)Believe it or not as many do not, If we are Gay, Lesbian< a Trans gendered person, we all know that with in the very first years of our lives. it just takes some time once in awhile to sort our feelings by exploring things to answer ourselves. good luck and Please, Please i ask you Please do not get into quarrels about this with him. it will only turn worse and he will probably turn out to be a boy like a guy i know, the quarrels turned into his becoming so say defiant to his parents, and now he wears panties because he got so he wore his mom's panties to make her mad so she paid attention to him! it is true children can turn that way also. thank you so much Karrie Falon, karriefalon@gmail.com.

Matthew - posted on 05/29/2014

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Okay, listen. A lot of the replies on this page are possibilities. Personally, I actually started trying on my mom's bras when I had just started high school, two years ago. To this day, neither of my parents have found out (at least I'm quite sure). I am completely straight and I have actually been working up the courage to ask this one girl out all year who I have been messing around with. Anyway, I, for one, would say this is somewhat common. I'm fifteen as of right now, started when I was thirteen. I began one day when I decided to skip my tennis practice, and stayed home instead. My parents just recently started working during the week, and my dad didn't get home until five or six PM, and I get home at about 3. So one day, I was working in virtual school, and I suddenly got a random urge to feel like a girl. So I went into my mom's closet and found a nice bra. It was really comfortable, and I liked it. so I wore it until my dad got home, when I rushed back into her closet and took it off as quick as possible and put it back. After that experience, I didn't go back in there for about another two weeks. Now, for the record here, I certainly do consider myself to be very masculine, at least when I'm not wearing my mom's underwear. But anyway, about two weeks later, the tennis season ended and I was stuck home alone again. so I snuck into my mom's closet for the second time. This time, though, I not only put on a bra, but I found the sexiest outfit I could in her closet - a black small shirt exposing the belly, and I short black skirt to go with it. As much as I hate to admit it (and I really do, at this point, it's a guilty pleasure), I masturbated that day, but I was still wearing my own boxers, so I didn't mess anything up. As soon as I was done, I felt incredibly guilty and legitimately told myself I had dishonored my family. However, I was back in there the next day. This kept going on for a few weeks, maybe months, until I finally decided to try on a pair of her panties. They felt so comfortable, and I really wanted to keep them on, but I put them in the laundry when my dad got home anyway. A few months after this, I actually put on a bra and panties, and had even read a wiki article on the tuck and pull method, which basically had me move my (going to try to keep it as appropriate as possible) sex organ back and my testes up and out of my scrotum. that way, there was no bulge in the panties. I then walked around for a while like this, and, seeing as how my mom owns no wigs, I found a black shirt and managed to make it look like long hair on my head. Then I put on a skirt and a regular shirt my mom had, nothing special, so I looked like a normal girl. A week after this, I started putting makeup on, but quickly gave up because I could not figure it out. About the beginning of this year, I actually tried on a swimsuit my mom had (and yes, I am still straight to this day), and I even took some pictures on my phone. Then I took the swimsuit off and uploaded the pictures to my computer. I made it look like I had real female breasts with photoshop, and even made the shirt look more like hair. I had even put some rather large clip-on earrings on and edited my face to look more feminine. I then masturbated to this picture of me, and afterward, out of guilt, deleted the picture. A few months after this, about five months away from the end of the school year, I finally got the courage to steal one of my mom's sports bras and a pair of silky white panties. However, I only wore these when nobody else was home. Then, I took an actual bra about a week later, and I wore it late at night, after everyone would go to bed, as I watched youtube videos. eventually, I would say that this is my bra and I would feel it under my shirt (I know it sounds weird, but it's what I did, and I'm being honest in this comment) and... masturbate. That all leads up to now. I really (being honest, I swear this is no "troll post") want a female body, but I also really want a girlfriend, and I am not at all into boys by any stretch of the imagination. I want full breasts, and I want to have the opposite sex organ, and I want to have long hair and to be able to shave my legs. But I know my friends will all think I'm weird and my parents will certainly not approve, so I try to stick with keeping it a secret, and I'm still going after girls at school. But I have also gotten into writing those "transgender fantasies", where I take a picture of a girl and say it's me after something weird happens, putting a caption-story to the side of it. I feel so guilty about it, but I know also that it's just me. I'm a man and I'm quite masculine, but I also would love to be a very feminine female. I know, however, the chances of me actually becoming female are slim to none, because I'm christian, and it says in the bible we can't edit our bodies in any way, so I ended up making a huge conflict about this in my head, even starting to listen to those binaural beats that supposedly trick your body into producing estrogen. I couldn't keep a consistent schedule on those though, so I gave up on them. Now, today, I just got out of the shower tonight. But I tried something different. I decided to, instead of putting on boxers, put on the pair of panties I stole earlier, as well as the sports bra. And I am hiding them under my shirt and pants. I plan to wear them to the dining room table to eat dinner, and to bed all night. I just hope neither of my parents notice, or I know I could be in trouble or something else. I honestly have created a huge conflict in my head.

So, in conclusion, you should try to talk to your son about it. but support them. the only reason I'm having these problems is I know my parents would basically disown me if they found out. If you can stay on his side, and help him through it, you might be able to stop him from... going down the same path as me. I have no idea what I'm doing right now. I want to be a girl really bad, but it's against my religion and I would lose my parents and friends. I hope your son has a better story to tell if he ever ends up commenting on a post like this. I never would have dreamed of telling anyone my story, but here I am, I saw this post and I decided I really needed to try and let it out. I just hope my parents never find it. But if you do (speaking to my parents now), just to confirm it's me, I'm Matthew, you're names are Sam and Jim.

I hope my three-paragraph story helped you out, on some level, to understand what your son might be going through. I mean, I'm wearing panties with my... sex organ... tucked between my legs and a sports bra on as I write this, reading what I type in my head in a girl's voice for some reason. I have never done that until today. And just so you know what it can feel like to a boy my age, I know how most boys dream of, well, doing the girls in sexy lingerie. I, and many others like me, dream of being the girl in lingerie. But, if you choose not to do anything for the moment, but you know he's getting worse, come home early one day and sneak in and catch him. Sometimes I want to be caught. Because I hope that maybe if they catch me I can reason with them better or something. maybe work out some kind of agreement. I think I would feel better if my parents knew and I could wear this stuff around the house, perhaps regularly listen to binaural beats and grow some breasts, even if it sounds weird even typing it, though I know I want it to happen. But, do me one favor. If it gets serious for him or already is, just go with it for me. He might want to go shop , as our daughter for clothes of bras or panties. get him his own. a nightgown, a wig, the whole nine yards. Maybe he'll outgrow it and stop eventually, if you give him the full experience. Let him go places as a girl. Movies, shopping, maybe even school , if he's brave enough. But, if he isn't too far into it, then talk to him, try to get him to slow it down.

Matthew - posted on 05/29/2014

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Okay, listen. A lot of the replies on this page are possibilities. Personally, I actually started trying on my mom's bras when I had just started high school, two years ago. To this day, neither of my parents have found out (at least I'm quite sure). I am completely straight and I have actually been working up the courage to ask this one girl out all year who I have been messing around with. Anyway, I, for one, would say this is somewhat common. I'm fifteen as of right now, started when I was thirteen. I began one day when I decided to skip my tennis practice, and stayed home instead. My parents just recently started working during the week, and my dad didn't get home until five or six PM, and I get home at about 3. So one day, I was working in virtual school, and I suddenly got a random urge to feel like a girl. So I went into my mom's closet and found a nice bra. It was really comfortable, and I liked it. so I wore it until my dad got home, when I rushed back into her closet and took it off as quick as possible and put it back. After that experience, I didn't go back in there for about another two weeks. Now, for the record here, I certainly do consider myself to be very masculine, at least when I'm not wearing my mom's underwear. But anyway, about two weeks later, the tennis season ended and I was stuck home alone again. so I snuck into my mom's closet for the second time. This time, though, I not only put on a bra, but I found the sexiest outfit I could in her closet - a black small shirt exposing the belly, and I short black skirt to go with it. As much as I hate to admit it (and I really do, at this point, it's a guilty pleasure), I masturbated that day, but I was still wearing my own boxers, so I didn't mess anything up. As soon as I was done, I felt incredibly guilty and legitimately told myself I had dishonored my family. However, I was back in there the next day. This kept going on for a few weeks, maybe months, until I finally decided to try on a pair of her panties. They felt so comfortable, and I really wanted to keep them on, but I put them in the laundry when my dad got home anyway. A few months after this, I actually put on a bra and panties, and had even read a wiki article on the tuck and pull method, which basically had me move my (going to try to keep it as appropriate as possible) sex organ back and my testes up and out of my scrotum. that way, there was no bulge in the panties. I then walked around for a while like this, and, seeing as how my mom owns no wigs, I found a black shirt and managed to make it look like long hair on my head. Then I put on a skirt and a regular shirt my mom had, nothing special, so I looked like a normal girl. A week after this, I started putting makeup on, but quickly gave up because I could not figure it out. About the beginning of this year, I actually tried on a swimsuit my mom had (and yes, I am still straight to this day), and I even took some pictures on my phone. Then I took the swimsuit off and uploaded the pictures to my computer. I made it look like I had real female breasts with photoshop, and even made the shirt look more like hair. I had even put some rather large clip-on earrings on and edited my face to look more feminine. I then masturbated to this picture of me, and afterward, out of guilt, deleted the picture. A few months after this, about five months away from the end of the school year, I finally got the courage to steal one of my mom's sports bras and a pair of silky white panties. However, I only wore these when nobody else was home. Then, I took an actual bra about a week later, and I wore it late at night, after everyone would go to bed, as I watched youtube videos. eventually, I would say that this is my bra and I would feel it under my shirt (I know it sounds weird, but it's what I did, and I'm being honest in this comment) and... masturbate. That all leads up to now. I really (being honest, I swear this is no "troll post") want a female body, but I also really want a girlfriend, and I am not at all into boys by any stretch of the imagination. I want full breasts, and I want to have the opposite sex organ, and I want to have long hair and to be able to shave my legs. But I know my friends will all think I'm weird and my parents will certainly not approve, so I try to stick with keeping it a secret, and I'm still going after girls at school. But I have also gotten into writing those "transgender fantasies", where I take a picture of a girl and say it's me after something weird happens, putting a caption-story to the side of it. I feel so guilty about it, but I know also that it's just me. I'm a man and I'm quite masculine, but I also would love to be a very feminine female. I know, however, the chances of me actually becoming female are slim to none, because I'm christian, and it says in the bible we can't edit our bodies in any way, so I ended up making a huge conflict about this in my head, even starting to listen to those binaural beats that supposedly trick your body into producing estrogen. I couldn't keep a consistent schedule on those though, so I gave up on them. Now, today, I just got out of the shower tonight. But I tried something different. I decided to, instead of putting on boxers, put on the pair of panties I stole earlier, as well as the sports bra. And I am hiding them under my shirt and pants. I plan to wear them to the dining room table to eat dinner, and to bed all night. I just hope neither of my parents notice, or I know I could be in trouble or something else. I honestly have created a huge conflict in my head.

So, in conclusion, you should try to talk to your son about it. but support them. the only reason I'm having these problems is I know my parents would basically disown me if they found out. If you can stay on his side, and help him through it, you might be able to stop him from... going down the same path as me. I have no idea what I'm doing right now. I want to be a girl really bad, but it's against my religion and I would lose my parents and friends. I hope your son has a better story to tell if he ever ends up commenting on a post like this. I never would have dreamed of telling anyone my story, but here I am, I saw this post and I decided I really needed to try and let it out. I just hope my parents never find it. But if you do (speaking to my parents now), just to confirm it's me, I'm Matthew, you're names are Sam and Jim.

I hope my three-paragraph story helped you out, on some level, to understand what your son might be going through. I mean, I'm wearing panties with my... sex organ... tucked between my legs and a sports bra on as I write this, reading what I type in my head in a girl's voice for some reason. I have never done that until today. And just so you know what it can feel like to a boy my age, I know how most boys dream of, well, doing the girls in sexy lingerie. I, and many others like me, dream of being the girl in lingerie. But, if you choose not to do anything for the moment, but you know he's getting worse, come home early one day and sneak in and catch him. Sometimes I want to be caught. Because I hope that maybe if they catch me I can reason with them better or something. maybe work out some kind of agreement. I think I would feel better if my parents knew and I could wear this stuff around the house, perhaps regularly listen to binaural beats and grow some breasts, even if it sounds weird even typing it, though I know I want it to happen. But, do me one favor. If it gets serious for him or already is, just go with it for me. He might want to go shop , as our daughter for clothes of bras or panties. get him his own. a nightgown, a wig, the whole nine yards. Maybe he'll outgrow it and stop eventually, if you give him the full experience. Let him go places as a girl. Movies, shopping, maybe even school , if he's brave enough. But, if he isn't too far into it, then talk to him, try to get him to slow it down.

Joan - posted on 05/25/2014

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At five I first noticed my mommy's pretty lingerie when I would watch her dress. She had two lingerie chests full of pretty things she would show me. Well, I thought I would like to try her pretty lingerie on too. So, I began sneaking into her roomand I would sneak a pair of nylon brief panties (see had dozens in assorted colors--Olga, Maidenform, Vassarette to name a few) into my room and put them on under my pants and wear them all day. I would put my used ones into the laundry--see had so many she won't notice I thought--the next day and start all over again. My panty fascination and sampling continued into my teens. Mother worked then, so when I came home from high school, I would venture into herr bedroom and furthered my exploration into her lingerie. Only, I expanded my curiosity into the rest of her finery--garter belts, bras, nylon stockings, slippers, nighties, nightgowns, heels, wigs, and on and on and on. I had two and a half hours to play. I would try on different sets of her lingerie and pretend I was her. I would even put on her wigs and makeup. It was so fun! She worked all day Saturday so I would take extra time (2 hours) to look oh so feminine and spend the rest of the day parading around as mommy. I didn't think she suspected anything because I was careful to fold and hang everything up, showered clean well before she came hometo her slim handsome son. I loved sashaying in front of the windows when one of the neighbor ladies ( I even snuck into their lingerie drawers when house sitting) was outside--I wanted to get caught. Well my wish came true one Saturday afternoon. I was dressed in her prettiest Red lingerie to the T. I was sitting in the living room admiring my looks, reading a Woman's Day--in heaven. I just lit one of her Virginia Slims when the back door opened. "Honey, I'm home" she calledout as she marched through the kitchen and into the living room. Her eyes lit up when she saw me. "Uh, honey what are you doing dressed up in my clothes" she exclaimed. "Oh, and you look so cute too! Stand up sweetie so I can get a look at you. Well, well, well you look darling. Your hair, makeup and sexy lingerie. Your even smoking one of my Virginia Slims. You look...like me and I love it

Tom - posted on 05/09/2014

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You should sit down with him and explain that your underwear is your personal clothing and not something to be shared. If he would like to try panties, offer to buy some for him and then take him shopping so that he can pick out some that he likes. Let him wear them at home and if you go out other than to school. it is pretty normal for boys at that age to be curious about female things. There can be many reasons why he wants to try them and most wont make sense to you or him. Just explain to him that it is not appropriate for him to wear your clothes.
I think it is good to explore this with him without making him feel guilty or ashamed. Usually if you go along with something like this, they get bored with it quickly.

Barbaras - posted on 04/29/2014

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I am 15 mom ;ets me wear her clothes all the time.I love being a girl and she likes me that way so soes my
Dad who calls me hism little girl.It is so ice bing a gil I love it.. It is eapeselissely nice to sit on dads lap. So let him dress it is nice and for me I love being a girl.

Barbaras - posted on 04/29/2014

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I have my own panties as well as dressesand skirts. Mom helps me pick out clothes and wi8th hair and make up. And yes I do sleep with her.

Barbaras - posted on 04/29/2014

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I am 15 and wear my Moms panties. She knows an lets me do it. It started when I was 12 and she caught me. By the way she is watching me now. By the time i was 13 i was wearing girls clothes nearly all the time and I love it. I have gone to several things at school dressed as a girl and sever guys hit on me. WOW what ahigh. I havae not had a date yet but look forward to it. So let him have his own panties and wjo knows where it willl lead. My Dad knows too and calls me his little girl. He has taken me out several times shoipping or to movies and I love being a girl.

Barbaras - posted on 04/28/2014

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Let him have his own panties, if he is seious about it he will wnat to wear your dresses as well. Then it is time to think ablut the future, soes he look femme, is he short small have larger than normal breasts? If so he may want to be femme and he will never change.ost boys have a desire to sleep with Mom. do it , what can it hurt.

Ian - posted on 04/23/2014

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let him pick out his own...go shopping with him. that way he won't be taking yours,he might feel wear doing it but in the long haul, he'll love it.go to target or Kmart... when i was young(7 year old) my mom did he same thing but we when to Victoria secret. I'm now 18 and i still wear them,i threw out all my male under wear because panties fit/feel more comfortable.

Barbaras - posted on 04/05/2014

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dont let prople bother you. he will most likely out grow it. right now it seems sexy or maybe he wants something else. talk to him and be open not scolding. by the way i had the same problem with my son.

Erica - posted on 03/31/2014

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"Shammy's" response is BY FAR the best. Excellent post!! The only thing is, it's not necessarily with him for life. All teens (and pre teens) are different. I had a cousin who had a panty fetish until he was 15 or 16 years old, but then he grew out of it when he became old enough to actually date, go to the prom, etc. A large majority of teens will grow out of this particular fetish as it's often nothing more than a result of "Curiosity" and winds up being harmless exploration. But even still, there is that smaller percentage that don't grow out of it, so Shammy's advice is gold!

Shammy - posted on 03/28/2014

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I disagree with a lot about what has been said here. If he has already made the sexual connection and enjoys it - this will be with him for life. Pretty much how we associated mouth kissing with sex - there really isn't a natural sexual connection in kissing - its learnt and it appears from what you say it is, because of the length of time. I suspect that there is a lot you either haven't said or don't know as you say you observed this since he was much smaller. But it isn't a problem if he manages this properly. Fetishists enjoy a level of sexuality that's out of this world and sometimes unimaginable by 'normal' people especially if its a harmless one that doesnt impinge of the rights of others. My advice is to help him to manage this. Its private. Its not something you discuss with anyone unless you are sure they have to know (like a girlfriend and should would have to understand that this is not something that she will change). Never let this become a social problem - stealing (like he is doing with you etc) OR voyerism etc. And to those who dont understand, a very significant number of men wear panties for various reasons - especially the granny nylon ones - that still exist today - go on amazon or herroom and see the reviews - most of the reviews for nylon grannies are from men! And it has nothing to do with homosexuality or being Trans or xdresser. You as a mother need to be understanding and help him manage it without embarrassing him - he will thank you for it.

Erica - posted on 03/27/2014

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Just as most others said in their reply, he's perfectly normal. A VERY high percentage of boys do the same thing. A very LOW percentage keep doing it into adulthood.......Ignore "DaeReyelle". Idiotic parents like that are completely clueless and are the reason rebellion exists.

Lquaresimo - posted on 03/13/2014

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To DaeReyelle - What does me gay or not have to do with a boy wearing girl's clothing? One has nothing to do with the other. There is a big difference between gender and sexuality. There are straight men that crossdress and most of them are. There are also transsexuals that are attracted to women. There is such a variety of people in the world. This mother's son, it could be anything from fetishism, crossdressing to transsexuality. No one knows what's inside the boy's head. One thing I do know is that the mother needs to talk openly with her son, not shame him and accept who her son is. You can't change how a person is. Even if it turns out that the boy is a transsexual, shouldn't matter. She should still love and respect her son's behavior. The boy isn't hurting himself or others. The one thing the mother should stress with her son is that it is wrong to go into someone else's drawers and take something that doesn't belong to him. That's the only thing the boy is wrong about. Love, understanding, respect and acceptance is what the boy needs from his mother. If there is a father around, the mother should talk to him in private and tell him to make sure he doesn't shame him and disrespect the boy. I don't know the father but some father's will put boys down for doing something like this and shame him. That shouldn't be tolerated. If the mother is having trouble with this and can't talk to her son, she should go to a counselor, the first time alone, and talk about her son. Then just take it from there.

Lquaresimo - posted on 03/13/2014

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Well, sexuality has nothing to do with crossdressing. Most crossdressers are heterosexual. Sexuality has nothing to do with gender. You could take him to a counselor or you could buy him his own panties. Just remember you don't have to be gay to wear women's clothing.

Rodney - posted on 03/09/2014

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I saw your post after I told a woman friend that I wear women's underwear and she sort of freaked out. She said she did not understand and when I started thinking about it I don't really understand either. I am a middle-aged male and I remember as a young teen I developed a fascination for women's underwear and always snuck into my mom`s underwear drawer. I particularly liked a nylon pair of red briefs she had and wore them when no one was around. The point I am making is
I had absolutely no sexual thoughts of my mom and I just enjoyed the softness, feel, and the intimacy of the undergarments. So dont get too upset because teens become who they are and a person's sexuality is all their owns. I hope this helps.

Robert J - posted on 02/13/2014

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i think you should say "hay, can i talk to you in private?" and tell him it's ok if he weares your panties and if he does tell him to put them back when he is done using them.

Dave - posted on 02/13/2014

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I'm neither a mum or parent but I would like to offer my advice as someone who
was a 13 yr old boy who wore panties. Its totally normal and it could mean a number of things, he might not even know why himself yet. For me it turned out I just liked wearing ladies underwear I still wear it now in my late 20's. Its never done me any harm. Im an infantry soldier and am making a good career out of it,
I go to the gym have done martial arts I ride motorbikes and have a hgv license.
Ive done rock climbing, parachuting, off roading and all kinds of manly stuff. Im also happily married and have a cute dog and currently planning for having kids. Trust me I know you think its strange and yes it kind of is but its also very normal. Hes just exploring , and so what if he like wearing panties, so what if hes into x dressing or hes gay. You sound open minded so just talk to him about it, dont approach him about it in a negative way coz hes going to feel
embarrased about it. Just ask him in a relaxed way if he wants you to buy him his own but tell him he can only wear them in the house untill hes older. The important thing is here is it is probably a sexual thing one way or another and you dont want him to link you with any kind of sexual thoughts so whatever reason he wants panties for make sure there not yours. jjust be very understanding and patient with him teenage boys arent always easy to talk to about even simple things. good luck anyways hope this helps

Wanda - posted on 02/01/2014

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He probably isn't gay. He just wants to know what a girl feels. He sees girls at school and is curious. It goes with the hormones. Help him out a little. It's not like the two of you are planning a bank robbery. Let him spend the day in girls clothes. Just the two of you. Then drop it. Don't embarrass him. He may or may not want to do it more or he may not want to do it at all. At least he may learn how to treat a girl. That's something that many males never learn. But most of all let it be fun and don't judgmental.

Love And - posted on 12/27/2013

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I am a mother. My advice may be wrong and I have never been in your shoes. So if anything I say doesn't sit well with you, please just ignore it. In the end, only you can decide what feels best for your son and you. Maybe you could find a quiet/very private place and time to talk to him. Try to be as non-judgmental as you can, let him know he can be honest with you and then ask him why he is wearing your things. If he answers in a way that is unexpected or bothers you for any reason, try to keep a poker face on. Thank him for his honesty, remind him you love him always and tell him that you need a little time to think about what he has told you. If he chooses to continue speaking to you, do your best to listen but do not react until you have had some time to think your responses over and possibly even seek the advice of a professional but non-emotionally involved person. It is possible that he has feelings of guilt and shame locked up inside him or worry that you do not approve of him and what others will think of him. He may need to speak to you about his feelings and therefore, whether you like what you are hearing or not, your child only has you to act in his best interests. If your son is gay or a cross-dresser, this is not something that needs to be "fixed". This is a part of who he is. As a young person though, he needs help and guidance to learn how to express himself in a safe way to avoid ridicule and hurt by other kids and even well meaning adults. Please know that a world in which your son is whole and healthy, no matter how he likes to dress, is better than a world without his love, trust and respect. Don't be afraid to consult a professional but please vet them out before you place yourself and your son in their care. Finally, I would be very selective in who you talk about this to. The world is not a perfect place and neither are the people living in it. Your son's trust and happiness is at stake. I wish you and your son the best of luck

DaeReyelle - posted on 12/23/2013

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he may be gay .. this is around the ages where kids find out more about themselves & i feel that you personally shouldn't have let him wear it in the pass . you should have whooped him .. that is terrible he needs to learn that 1st going through your drawer & taking your things is unacceptable 2nd that he is not a woman he doesn't wear that stuff . be stern when you say these things .. thats all i can tell you .. good luck

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