Carmen - posted on 03/25/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
Need some help here. I have a wonderful son, who is 13 yrs old. He is my first boy. I have a 9 yr old daughter & a 6 year old son. From the time he started preschool until 4th grade, he had nothing but straight A's. He is super smart. 5th grade came along and he started coming out of his shell a bit more and changing. Well this change seems to have caused him to start getting B's and C's. That's "okay", however, I know his potiential. Well 6th grade comes along and he completely failed. He performed great on his test and quizes. 100% as a matter of fact, but he just decided that homework was boring and didn't want to do it. We struggled and struggled the entire school year with him keeping up and doing his homework. We had discussion after discussion with not only him, but with his teachers and principals etc. He is not getting into any trouble or anything like that, he just seems to not be doing his homework. Well I let him go through summer school so that he could move onto the 7th grade. Even the summer school teachers were like "what is he doing here?" "He is super smart" Well needless to say, he passed summer school with flying colors! Well here we are in 7th grade. He continues the same behavior as he did in 6th. Now he is becoming more negative, more cynical and just down right rude. We have worked on his attitude (I sort of put him in his place a few weeks ago) but the lying and the not doing the homework is still continuing. I did tell him the summer school was NOT an option this time. That if he was going to fail 7th grade due to laziness, then he will take it over again. At first that seemed to light a fire under him, and this last quarter, he had all A's B's and C's. Which is great, but now we are just 2 weeks into the 4th qtr and he has missed 7 assignments out of the two weeks because he "just didn't feel like doing them" I have tried staying on top of him through the computer system, communicating with the teachers, seeing the homework that he says is all he has. What else can I do? I have asked him, what else can I do to help, what does he need from me or his dad....and he just says nothing. What is going on?