Danielle - posted on 06/11/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )
My daughter is nine and my (step) nephew is soon to be 13.
He is ADHD and takes medication. About three years ago he exposed himself to her. We scolded him and they weren't allowed to be alone together.
As they've gotten older they have had more time to play without supervision. At Easter they were wrestling and he apparently put his hand on her privates. He claims he was just pushing her off of him.
Memorial Day weekend he didn't take his medicine and now there has been an incident with the neighbor girls (11 & 12). They were playing at the pond and he rubbed moss on his privates and said "this could be your face". These girls were also talking about sex a year ago to my daughter. So I'm not sure who started what.
This resulted in his (step) Grandma banning him from her place and he's being labeled as a "deviant" by other members of the family.
My mommy alarms aren't going off because I believe my daughter isn't in any danger. I know my daughter is curious as she got caught googling "boys and girls kissing" and "boobes". I remember doing stuff of this nature when I was going up--on more than one occassion with more than one boy. And I've asked several others about their childhood and I get the same response--it happened to them too. My husband on the other hand is getting responses like "I never did that".
I don't condone this behavior but I believe this was bound to happen sooner or later.
My husband is livid. He wants nothing to do with the nephew or his his mother. I suggested we go to the school talk to the Principal and he refused.
So tell me am I way off base? Should children of this age not say or do anything sexual? Especially when society pushes sexually explicit things in their faces every time we turn around?
I'd like to know what you think and if you had similar experience when you were younger.