Kelly - posted on 03/27/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
My 10 yr old daughter has behavorial problems at home and school. She is excelling academically, has lots of friends and can be very sweet...she still insists on a big hug several times a day. Her teacher has seen some great qualities in her as do we. Problem is that she suffers from anxiety and if she is in a situtation that she doesn't like (is told no, can't have her way, is not put with her best friend, told to do something she does not want to do), she lashes out....disrespectful, angery, moody, etc... She doesn't care who is listening or watching. In 1st & 2nd grade she was great...then 3rd & 4th she changed. We have had a lot of family changes in those two years, so I'm sure that is a contributing factor (both my parents died to cancer, i was my mom's caregvier for a long, tough year, our 11 yr dog died, oldest went to college...daughter very upset by all.) She is seeing a therapist, so we are working with her. Her dad & I have a good marriage and spend a ton of quality time with her. We have spoiled her over the years and are trying to change that too.
I am looking for advice on discipline for when she is disrespectful. Her dad & I are trying very hard to get control of this behavioral problem now, before she goes off to middle school and enters her teenage years.