Am I doing the right thing?

Melissa - posted on 01/16/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Feel guilty for being nosey with my 14 yr old son, but there are so many things these kids do on myspace & facebook that could cost them their jobs/reputation later in life. Am I doing the right thing?


Gillian - posted on 01/19/2009




yes you are doing the right thing being nosey.though you are not really being nosey you are just protecting you children from all the dangers there are out there on the various internet sites.i monitor my 13 year old and he knows i will continue to do this till he is old enough to realise all the dangers.carry on to be nosey,they will thank you one day and i bet they will do the exact same thing with there children too.

Denise - posted on 01/19/2009




I have a 13 year old boy and an 11 year old girl. EVERYTHING they do is my business and I NEVER feel guilty for it. I'm the mom and it's my job to be nosey. You have to be. I agree with the others. You're doing the right thing.

Priscilla - posted on 01/18/2009




Yup!!!  Your the mom, I do not let my girls get on myspace without my permission first.  we have one computer and that is it.  If i find it gone i search for it. Once I caught my 11 yr old on myspace and she didnt ask...she lost her comptuer privies and had to miss cheer practice for it.  She learned quick fast and in a hurry for sure.

Joy - posted on 01/18/2009




It is a parents right to keep there children safe. My son is 11 and I check on him everyday with his tex messages and his emails. He know that there is no privecy in his life till he is out on his oun. I just let him know that I can take away all rights as he lives under my roof. He is a good boy and I really don't worry to much but the biggest rule we have is the computer is in the living room where mom and dad are at all times and he can't get on things that we don't let him. We have the parents controll block on him. The thing they have to dill with today is different then what we had. Every kid out there has a cell phone or computer and unfortunetly so do the sick'os. We are parent and our job is to rase our children and get them ready to face the real world and make sure they make it to their 18th birthday. So no you are just being a consurned parent and that is a good thing. It is the ones that don't care the children get hurt or do something stuipit. Hope that helps.

Angie - posted on 01/16/2009




My son is 12. I have all his passwords to everything...myspace, email, phone, ect. He knows that I check EVERYTHING and that it will always be that way. Also, I have set up my own account on myspace and all his friends are listed as my "friends" so that I can see what they are up to also. I 100% agree with Heather...we are their parents...not friends! It is our job to know what is going on in their lives. I also use the information that I find to start up conversations with him. I find out so much being able to access all his friend's pages. Keep up the great work! They'll thank you one day.

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Heather - posted on 01/16/2009




Hello Melissa,

I have a 16 y.o. and 12 y.o. and I believe that as parents we have the right to be nosey. Remember we are the parents not the friends and in order to make sure our kids are doing right every now and then we NEED to check into what they are doing. There is just to much out there now that they are to naive to notice before it's to late. So with all that I think you are doing the right thing for the right reason- don't stop because our kids need to know that we care.

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