Anyone have any good ideas on how to get a 10 year old to do homework?

Lisa - posted on 02/04/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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My soon to be 10 year old (FEB. 12 as a matter of fact) and I butt heads (not literally) every evening about doing her homework. It drives me CRAZY!!! I want to just give up and let her suffer the consequences when she gets to school the next day, but I'm a mother and I don't want my child to suffer at all, no matter what. So, I'm asking.... What should I do to get her more interested in doing her homework? It's always her writing lesson that she doesn't want to do. PLEASE HELP!!!



Thanks!

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Gail - posted on 03/05/2013

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I am going through the same thing, I have a 10 year old that hates homework and school! She wants to be home schooled. I asked her all the questions you should ask such as is she being bullied in school, she said no she just hates school and she rather be home. I think she thinks that being home school you don't have to get up early or have as much homework. I have been patient with her and tried to help her with her homework, but sometimes I myself have worked so hard at work until I am beat and my mind is not functioning correctly! She is having trouble in math and reading! And her PSSA's is next week, HELP!!

Suzan - posted on 02/17/2009

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I've gone through this from grades 3 to 6 with my son. It was constant running battle. He's extremely smart but completely unmotivated. Two quick sentences are good enough when two paragraphs would be easy. I finally said that I was seriously contemplating getting him a tutor for the writing stuff as he seemed to be struggling and couldn't do more than a few sentences. He freaked - and all of a sudden we actually had fairly well written paragraphs and essays! The other thing that worked with him was 'bet you can't get that done in 15 minutes' then time him. He always beat the clock - yet left to his own devices it would take 45 minutes. I'm sincerely hoping junior high is going to be smoother.

User - posted on 02/16/2009

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We have done 20 minutes on 20 minutes off with a timer set for  my 4th grader during tough homework times.  When the timer rings i allow him to stop wherever he is in  his  homework and take a 20 minute break.  When the timer goes off after 20 minutes of break he knows  he needs to come right back to it.  Of course, the timer is only set once he is productively working. Knowing he only has to concentrate for the 20  minutes helps him to stay focussed.



We also find that having a friend come over to do homework together can be helpful.  He doesn't give me as much trouble in front of a friend.

Chris - posted on 02/17/2009

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My son went through the same so I sat down with him and asked him to teach me whatever it was that he had to do.  It made him feel a little grown up and also felt like he wasn't on his own.  He now does his homework in a group with others which has been added on to the end of his school day.  The school organised this.  He enjoys the company of others and knows that when he gets home, the rest of the day is his time.

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Pheonixandforks - posted on 03/17/2014

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I need help. my 10 year old is always having trouble with all kinds of homework. we are constantly hit our heads on the wall trying to explain things over and over again. He is completely disobedient to do homework the first couple times you ask him to do it. nothing seems to help. He is on ADHD medicine as well. that is supposed to help him concentrate more. Please we are at our whit's end with him acting this way.

Tracey - posted on 02/17/2009

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My 10 year does her homework faithfully everytime she has hit....why? Because I don't let it slide, and if she doesn't do it, yes I will let her suffer the consequences from the teacher. Protecting our children from bullies,diseases,etc is one thing, but protecting our children from learning that the choices THEY make do affect them is just wrong. I see too much of this type of coddleing and it's not healthy. At the age of 10, I personally think a child is ready to take on  some choice, like doing homework or not doing homework. The teacher isn't going to send him to pergatory trust me.

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i love the idea of giving them a choice.. they are after all stiving to be independant, but don't know how to get there yet!



seting up a routine helps my 12yr old... home from school, a snack and then tv for 30 min, then no tv no music till the h/w is complete. if it's not done by dinner time, then he continues after tea till it's finished..



i insist that the other child doesn't watch tv very loudly, or have friends over if the subject is difficult for him.

Renee - posted on 02/10/2009

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i had the same problem with my son and what i have found that works is to let him take a break for an hour when he comes hm from school and then let him start his homework and that seems to work he doesn't give as much trouble now and he gets it all done by the time dinner is ready

Lisa - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Rosanna:



My Son is 10 and I have a really hard time with him reading a chapter book.  






I have tried having him pick out what books he likes but only reads for 10 min.






Teacher says his reading comprehension is below adverage.  WHAT CAN I DO ? 





It will come in time, don't worry. My daughter was the same way, but she is doing just fine now. 

Lisa - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Gayle:

I found the biggest thing stopping my son was time management issues. He was overwhelmed by the work required and just walked away saying it was all too hard/ too much etc. I got over this by sitting down with him on the first night, mapping out the week's work. Then he knew exactly what he had to do (and it wasn't much) and got the job done.



That was my daughter's teacher's first idea. She lost track of that in about 2 weeks. No matter what our map was, she would still put it off and put it off until the very last minute.

Rosanna - posted on 02/06/2009

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My Son is 10 and I have a really hard time with him reading a chapter book.  



I have tried having him pick out what books he likes but only reads for 10 min.



Teacher says his reading comprehension is below adverage.  WHAT CAN I DO ? 

Sue - posted on 02/06/2009

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I gave my 2 children a choice.  They could have snack and outside play first then homework or if there was something they wanted to watch on tv later they did their homework right after school and then watch a tv show later.  It seemed to work because it gave them a say as to when to get their homework done.

Gayle - posted on 02/06/2009

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I found the biggest thing stopping my son was time management issues. He was overwhelmed by the work required and just walked away saying it was all too hard/ too much etc. I got over this by sitting down with him on the first night, mapping out the week's work. Then he knew exactly what he had to do (and it wasn't much) and got the job done.

Aliceon - posted on 02/06/2009

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My son was the same way.  He had writers block.  I found that if we spent time talking about the instructions for the assignment, then we could do a "what if you wrote about..." conversation.  I would try to bounce ideas off of him, and he would always come up with something to write.  Once he had his idea he was fine and eager to get it on paper.

Cindy - posted on 02/05/2009

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Maybe she can't get her thoughts in her head down on paper they way she would like and it frustrates her. My daughter used to have a hard time with this until I discovered she loves to use the video camera and if she can record her thoughts on the camera and then sit down to write it out or type it out with minimal direction from me it all goes much faster and with a happy heart.

Laura - posted on 02/05/2009

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My kids come home, have a drink/snack, then get 30 mins to unwind, then its homework time NO MATTER what! I think we as the parents have to put our foots down, and say Hey this is what it is, you dont like it TO BAD!

Nikki - posted on 02/05/2009

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We make homework time a family event at the table. TV's off, and any other distractions as well. Sometimes we'll play soft classical music as well. We sit at the table to help them, or we do our own study work, everything from stuff we brought home from work, or reading our own books, budgeting or making a shopping list or going over calendar dates, etc.. I'm a firm believer in leading by example. If everyone else is watching tv or doing something fun or there is distracting noise, etc.. its more difficult for the homework doer to focus and concentrate, and it encourages them more if everyone is focused on what they are doing, and that we're there to help if they don't understand or get stuck. We let them know that school and everything that pertains to school is priority and must be done and done right. And they earn our praise for good grades, and sometimes a special surprise or something. Gives them incentive. Good Luck :)

Tiffani - posted on 02/04/2009

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I tried not letting him do anything untill my 11 yr olds homework was done, well come to find out he was lying and just not doing it all.Now he has free time after school and does it after dinner it is still a battle but i think the break does help

Laura - posted on 02/04/2009

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What drives your daughter to be successful?  Is it grades?  Is she looking for time with you and butting heads is what you do together?  If so, take the time to help her through a week or two of homework.  Set up a routine.  Set up a space.  After she's in a routine, tell her to start without you that you have your own homework to work on - then work side by side.  It takes time away from other things you could be doing but it's also precious time you'll never get back from your kids.  My best time with my kids is working through a math problem (or, then telling me how to do it) putting them to bed and hanging out in their room talking for an extra 30 - 45 minutes, or reading books side by side together.  They soon grow up and move away.  Anytime they can see that you are in their corner eventually they come to depend on it and work with you instead of against you.  THAT'S how you guarantee the phone calls home when they're at college. 

Lisa - posted on 02/04/2009

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Thanks so much for the advice. I have actually talked to her teacher and the solution she gave me worked for about 2 weeks, but then it blew right out the window. Maybe I will try talking to her teacher again about a teacher's aide helping her. It's not that she can not do the work 'cause all she has to do is write 2 stories (made up or real) a week. But she hates writing.

Thanks again!

Tracy - posted on 02/04/2009

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I am going through the same thing!!! It drives me crazy!! I have to literally take a break from it before I strangle my son.... I have noticed that if he doesn't understand the homework at all or having a hard time with it, he will give me an extremely hard time about doing it. Maybe talk with the teacher and find help within the school, there are teachers aides that can help your daughter with work and work that is homework. Try to divide up the homework in smaller assignments so she doesn't feel so overwhelmed by it. It helped my son when we did that. Hope that helps you some.

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