Amanda - posted on 01/29/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have two problems that i really could do with some advice with
. My husband and daughter really bicker and argue all the time and this really is getting me down. My husband tries to discipline in his own way which is different to mine, and although he has tried many,many times to set the bounderies,he doesnt stick to them. She is very cheeky and rude to him and he has real problems getting her to do anything he asks. Where as i have always been firmer and she knows when i mean no or want her to do as asked. I'm not saying that i dont get any cheek but i get far less then my husband. She taunts him with things like , "you hate me, you dont love me" if he tells her to go to her room for being cheeky. What suggestions do anyone have?? Also i have been ill this last week and she has been staying at my parents so they can take and pick her up from school. She should of come home tonite but cried and said she didnt want to live here anymore because of the argueing!! I was quite upset about this and sat here down and talked to her about it but it also came out that she hated school and the boys were constantly teasing her about which boy she loves and getting all the other children to tease her to. She is quite a confident child who is quite popular and lots of the boys want to be her boyfriend even at this age!! If she favours a particular boy the others get jealous and this teasing gets worse. It seems so petty and has gone on for quite a while now but its obviously getting her down enough to be crying about it.
Do you think i should confront the children myself or their parents or just go straight to the Head teacher? The last time i went in to get teasing/bullying sorted out, it made it worse for her, so she is very reluctant for me to intervene!!!!! Any advice welcome