Tara - posted on 03/08/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
Our son, Alex, turned 12 in January. We (against our better judgement looking back) gave him a cell phone for his birthday. This has turned into just one more thing to have to take away. Recently his grades have been declining, he's angry all the time (he also has ADHD), and we seem to fight from the moment he wakes up til the minute he goes to bed.
Now, on top of all this, he has a GF that lives a town away - so texting is their communication of choice.
I noticed him being sneaky with his phone lately (sneaking it when he wasn't supposed to, etc)so I, knowing it was wrong, looked thru some of their texts to each other. I was shocked by the open "luv u" and other talk, more inappropriate than that - and some language (swearing) that I don't hear him do in "person" - but maybe he does and just not around me or my husband.
Long story short, we took his phone away this morning and now he is more angry and distant than ever. We told him that we were wrong in giving him the phone to begin with if he can't respect it and be honest (lied about taking it to school yesterday - said it was charging in his room and turns out he had it with him) then he isn't mature enough for it.
We feel like total failures as parents and are losing our boy before our eyes...not sure what to do next or where to turn.