Bedwetting

Apryl - posted on 04/20/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My son will be 10 years old this year. He is an extremely deep sleeper and still wets the bed every night. Sometimes so much that leaks through his Goodnite. I've tried cutting off his drinking early which didn't help. I've even set my alarm to wake him up throughout the night, but because of his heavy sleeping I can't wake him up and end up guiding him in his sleep to the bathroom. Let's just say I don't think either of us enjoyed that technique. I've spoken to his doctor about it and he doesn't seem very concerned. He insists it is very common among boys his age especially deep sleepers. He has suggested the alarm that activates when he wets himself, but considering the smoke detector doesn't even wake him up I doubt that would either. Do other moms of boys his age experience this same challenge? Or have overcome the same challenge? Any advice or words of wisdom would be appreciated.

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Not sure about words of wisdom, but hopefully words of encouragement. My son had this problem too until he was about 14 yrs. old. He too is a very deep sleeper. I believe this is heredity as his dad was also a bed wetter. He's been dry for 2 years. My advice is to keep doing what you're doing (i.e. limiting drinks at night) also, what we used to do was to take him to the bathroom after he's been in bed for a couple of hours. This helped sometimes. We tried the bedwetter alarm and it never woke him up, just me. By then it was too late. Your son's bladder just needs to catch up with the rest of him and then he'll be great! I know how frustrating this is and embarrasing it is for your child but try to be patient. It will stop. Hope this helps. :)

Laura - posted on 05/09/2012

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I am having the same problem with my 12 yr old son. He is a happy young guy, except for this. He started on a prescribed medication 2 weeks ago, and it is not helping. He feels ashamed and discouraged. He tries to wash his own sheets because he's embarrassed. He is a very deep sleeper too. He sets his alarm, puts it RIGHT BY HIS HEAD, but still doesn't wake up. I usually hear the alarm when I'm sleeping in another room. My fiance' is getting frustrated with him and thinks he's lazy, but I know it's not the case. I don't know what else to try.

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My son is 12, and still wets his bed atleast one night in every 4. We thought of trying allopathic medicines, but didn't because they work by dulling the body's sense of thirst and/or constricting the vessels connected to the bladder, or dulling the reflexes in the bladder so that he doesn't feel it if the bladder is full and thus does not feel the need to urinate—all of which I thought were potentially harmful. The doctors too say that it's normal and medication should be avoided, the only remedy being to wake him every night till he finally starts waking on his own. We're presently trying homoeopathy, an alternate medicine system, which has no side-effects. It seems to work to the extent that we're down to 1 night in 4 from wetting himself everyday, though this system is notoriously slow in its progress. So I'm waiting and watching.

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Amanda - posted on 05/08/2014

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I can certainly relate! My son is 8 and we still have bedwetting challenges on a regular basis. My friend Liz and I created PeapodMats for this very reason. Changing the bedding everyday was the most frustrating for me. I have a great doctor and she just told us to just "chill", that eventually his brain will speak to his bladder and it will resolve itself. Great advise...but when you are dealing with the day-to-day chaos and this one top of it, it magnifies the problem. But now with our PeapodMat my son feels a little more in control (in an uncontrollable situation) and I’m not frustrated. What is different about our waterproof mat is that it LIES ON TOP of bedding without bunching or slipping. It stays in place, protects his sheets, and when he wets the mat he takes it to the laundry himself (this makes him feel like he has some control over the situation). Please visit our website, we’d love to help! www.peapodmats.com. Amanda

Cassandra - posted on 04/20/2014

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I'm not sure I have any words of wisdom, my son has just turned 11 and still wets the bed :( He is also a deep sleeper. We just received a Ramsy Coote alarm, which is a bed wetting mat, with a very loud alarm like the old alarm clocks. We have been advised that he needs to drink quite a large amount of water during the day, starting the day with at least one glass of water. The trouble we have is that he has been given the chance to do this, and has been told by our hospital public health nurse also, but he just doesn't put the effort in. In fact today he drunk not even a glass. We are on school holidays now for two weeks, and then when he goes back he is meant to go on school camp, but I have said if he doesn't put the effort in to drink then he wont be going, this is a hard decision for me to follow through with, as it is his first school camp, but I have to be harsh - if he puts in the effort and still wees, then that's fine, but he needs to put in effort too, as the teachers are happy to lift him. We have also been advised that he needs to take responsibility, so if the alarm goes off in the night (which he didn't wake to the first couple of nights, then was dry, then went off and I just put up with the noise and he woke to it, but turned it off and tried to go back to sleep), that he has to out his stuff out to wash, and remake his bed, that way it's also annoying his brain. Every time I try to talk to him though it seems to go in through one ear and out the other...... so as I said not words of wisdom, but it's glad to know I'm not alone either.....

Megan - posted on 03/29/2014

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I remember so well how frustrating and helpless I felt to help my son stop wetting the bed. He wet every single night until he was 8 years old. He just used pull ups when he was younger. I kept a no big deal attitude. When he reached age 8 the bedwetting began to lower his self esteem. He worried that his friends would find out and he want to go to sleepovers. So I talked with him about using a bedwetting alarm and we read the book Prince Bravery and Grace-Attack of the Wet Knights. He wanted to try the alarm. I purchased the malem with alarm and vibration. He slept right through it at first -which is typical of a child who wets at night. Typically the childs brain does not recognize the full bladder signal while sleeping. The alarm trains the brain to react to the full bladder signal. So I would wake him. Sometimes several times in one night. But gradually he began to wake by himself. And in less than three months he went from wet every single night to dry every single night. I found a lot of positive information about bedwetting and alarm use at www.braveryandgrace.com
Also new study done by Wake Forest Medical linked constipation to bedwetting, DO NOT overlook this as a contributing factor. Ask you pediatrician to treat your child for constipation and see if this helps. If not, I would strongly recommend the bedwetting alarm.
Good luck and God Bless!

Also, I found the books, alarms and waterproof mattress pads at this webstore:
http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?...
hope it helps!

Reds - posted on 09/21/2013

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Apryl I've done the same as you setting my alarm to wake him up at 1am and he's so deep in sleep I'm also guiding him to te bathroom.. I've tried cutting off his drinking supply also and that has failed as you I hope to get some useful information about this.. Ill keep you updated.

Gina - posted on 09/25/2012

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I'm interested too since Apryl's story sounds exactly like my son. We are at our wit's end. We've tried everything and he's almost 10.

Donna - posted on 09/07/2012

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I'm curious for an update on Apryl's boy since he's a couple years older now. Or updates on anybody who posted here. Apryl's story sounds exactly like mine, word for word. I'm at a loss for what else I can do...

Kelly - posted on 05/05/2009

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My son is nearly 9 and still wets a couple of times a month. Its really dishearting for him when it happens and it effects his whole mood for the day. I have to admit that I too find it tedious with having to wash blankets in winter!! Apparantly its due to a chemical in their brain thats mean't to wake you at night, but they lack the quantities needed. If you get any suggestions let me know.

Jessica - posted on 05/04/2009

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Try finding a doctor that does hypnosis. That's what worked for our daughter.

Charlene - posted on 05/03/2009

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bedwetting has been linked to emotional problems, school/life stresses (are they being bullied??) and also I have read that there can be a hormonal imbalance causing the brain not to receive the signal from the bladder. Good Luck.

Aliska - posted on 05/03/2009

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Try the alarm. It helped my daughter. The trick is even if it doesn't wake the child it will wake you and you wake them to turn it off and go to the toilet. Make sure it is far enough away from the bed so that they have to get out of bed to turn it off. Also, 'practice' when your child goes to bed each night. Trip the alarm, make them get up, turn it off, walk to the toilet and go back to bed. You need to stick to it for at least a month and you need to pick a time when you can cope with broken sleep cos at first only you will wake up and not the bed-wetter. Good luck it is a pain for everyone in the family!

Tammy - posted on 05/02/2009

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one thing you need to check ...does he snoore alot at night when sleeping he may not be a deep sleeper if he snoores he may have sleep apnea its a snooring disorder that will cause alot of problems including pottying in the sleep my husband has sleep apnea and i myself need to go be checked for it this dieorder can be takin care of with a breathing machine ...just a thought ..good luck

tammy

Dana - posted on 04/30/2009

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Waking them up at night definitely helps. We wake our three younger kids around 12am and also around 4 or 5am to go potty. It's tiring but it does help.

Michelle - posted on 04/29/2009

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My son is going to be 11 and still wets the bed. We have tried to cut fluids and even gone a far as to have a bed made that he had picked out with new sheets the works, and still have the problem. Not as frequent, but yes he still wets the bed. If you find the answer please share, it is just as frustrating for him as it is for us. Not to mention the embarrassment.

Dana - posted on 04/29/2009

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My daughter (almost 11) still has this problem. We took her to the dr and they usually find nothing... sometimes find an infection causing it. She's been to a urologist and I was told to cut out all caffiene, no water 2 hours before bedtime, no dairy products after 4:30pm (dairy digests last and will cause the bladder to drop urine in the middle of the night), no red dyes, no watermelon or other watery fruits and veggies, and only water at dinnertime. We do this and it helps but hasn't stopped it completely.

Maria - posted on 04/27/2009

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My son used to wet his bed, and the doctor didn't find out anything wrong with him. It seems that some kids go through that, I was told. I was also told that something may be causing him anxiety or stress at school or with friends, maybe? It may help to talk to him and get him to open up. In the meantime, if he's a deep sleeper, turn his alarm on every so often so he can go to the bathroom. I woke my son up. I know it's a pain, but at least until he can learn to get up on his own. Mine did. He's now 17 and he hasn't wet his bed in years.

Jamie - posted on 04/25/2009

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My son has this problem too but unfortunely we havent found an answer as of yet. It makes it really hard for him to go to camp. He has to go into his brothers cabin or his brothers best friend so that they can wake him up before any of the other boys to clean up or to change out of goodnite. Bless you and him.

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