Birds & the Bees...????

Jess - posted on 10/22/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son is 11 years old & am wondering if it's too soon for his dad to have the sex talk with him? I feel any later & hes going to be hearing wild stories(if he hasnt already). I want him to have the facts. From us before its too late. Any advice?

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Glory - posted on 01/05/2010

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My son is 21 now and we never had the sex talk with him,they learn alot in school, not to mention their freinds, I still have a 7 year old and a 10 year old. The two little ones put posters in their rooms of cheerleaders, or just sexy girls. My husband tells me to leave them alone, they are just being boys. My twenty one year old, was going through his transition when he was about 13...I guess you call it puberty,,,his voice change along with other behaviors, my husband told me at the time, he was ready for girls..lol as he got older my husband discuss save sex. when it came down to sex that was already establish in school, we did step in and as he was hanging out with his friends, in highschool and had more freedom, my job as a parent was to make sure he practice save sex..with out so many words, I purchase a few boxes of condoms, and made sure he always had some in his wallet...I'm not an old fashion mom, I'm only 17 years older than my son, but it was not uncomfartable for me to put them in his hands and let him know that I can't control what he does once he walks out the door, but I can make sure his wallet had a few condoms just in case he was in a situation..He's had a few girlfriends, and I've never encounter a problem so far...Responsibility is key!! Coming form a large family, (five children) my son is very well aware of the consiquenses, and children at a young age is not an option..11 years old is not too young, that good parenting..good luck with your son

Tanya - posted on 01/05/2010

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Yes! As soon as possible,because believe it or not he has already heard something at school about it. When you talk to him the trick is to make him feel comfortable speaking about the topic and answering questions. You or his father should remain relax and calm no matter what may come up. Using health books that have the reproductive system in it may be helpful. Just remember this generation is more advance than we were; therefore, we as parents have to step up our game.

Laurie - posted on 01/04/2010

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My son is almost 16 now and the way I handled it was this. I never lied to him about it. If he had a question he always knew he could ask. Sometimes it was extremely hard to be honest with him but the way I looked at it was i would rather he hears the truth from me then hear the baloney his friends think. He started asking questions at about age 10. this way seems to have worked seeing as he is 16 in a week and he is still a virgin...and yes, i am very sure lol

Tonya - posted on 01/03/2010

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I have always felt if there asking they need to be told,none of that well wait till your older crap. By the time there older it will be to late. be honest with them and they will be honest with you.and you wnat hem to get the facts not some wild storys.. we accually talk about sex at the dinner table witch to some might seem a little wierd but hey thats our family time .. and sometime believe me there are things that I rather not know about..but atleast you rais them to be honest..regardless they are going to hear it somewhere wouldnt you rather them hear it from you.I have a 17yr girl and a 14yr boy.Just dont be one of those parents who say my child would never..because yes they would..and keep and open mind,remember being that age and how scary it was to talk to your parent..it you are honest with them they will be honest with you...Good Luck....Mother of teenagers

Angela - posted on 12/14/2009

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I would say talk to him before there is a bad influence from school. We have an open and honest policy as well. We answer questions on their age level, and want them to feel that they can come to us for anything.

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Definately have a "talk" geared to his age level-it is incredible to me what my 10 and 12 year olds have found out just from their school friends!
One note of advice, if he says "I know what sex is" or "oh, so and so were french kissing" DONT panic! Stay calm and ask questions first...one of my daughters said they knew what sex was and it turns out she had the wrong information, so I breathed a sigh of relief and informed her of what the correct information was!

Kiana - posted on 12/11/2009

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it depends on his maturity level. i think you would rather his father talk to him before its too late.

Ryane - posted on 12/09/2009

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I have always had an open and honest relationship with my kids. If they ask me a question, I answer it. My kids knew where babies came from and how they got there by the time they were 8. If they ask, then they are ready to be told. Hope it helps!

Becky - posted on 12/09/2009

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My grandpa always told me that when I become a parent to remember one thing: If a child asks a question they need to know the answer no matter the age......for if they are asking the thought is in their head and it is up to us as parents to guid them in the right direction before someone leads them into the wrong one. So I say please talk to him.....even if you have to cut a few things out ....but he needs to know that the things he is feeling are natural and explain the correct way of handling them....for that is where things get messed up alot and they get confused and things happen that could have been avoided.

User - posted on 10/29/2009

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Hasn't the school had the "the movie" yet? My daughter got her this year. I've told all my children the basics, right down to the 7 year old, but only when they come with questions. We had a book that spawned questions - something for the 7 year called How your body grows or something like that. I'm sure he is going to hearing things is school soon, if he hasn't already. I didn't have any trouble talking with my boys (even though it is usually the man who does it). I used the proper terms like penis and vagina and tried to explain where it was all located. They ended up being sick of the subject before I was done. . . .

Amy - posted on 10/22/2009

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It's not too late to talk to him and the approach is totally up to you. For my son and I it has worked to do a little joking around and ribbing so it's not too serious-he get embarrassed pretty easy. I think I've done alright because he comes to me about feelings, body concerns, etc...

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