Lori - posted on 03/26/2010 ( 33 moms have responded )
My 12 year old daughter came to me recently about birth control to "regulate her periods and help her with acne." Not 100% concerned about the boys yet but I also know that will be coming soon. She's not the best with personal hygiene. My husband and I haven't 100% made our decision yet. Her periods are monthly but she's having a difficult time writing down when her period is starting and stopping. We've got several concerns about this but haven't ruled the idea out completely either. We do NOT want to think of birth control as a "miricle pill". We've decided not to make final decision for minimal of six months. In the meantime, we plan on beginning her on a multi vitamin to see if she's responsible enough to take it on a daily basis. We've decided to work with her on tracking her period so she has an approximate date of when her period is going to start next. We've also decided it's time to start discussing basic need to know's such as how to prevent STD's and pregnancy. We're going to also keep an eye on her personal hygiene and use the birth control as sort of an encouragement for her to take better care of herself. My husband and I have decided that how she does over the next six months will determine which form of birth control we will utilize. If she can not take the multi vitamin at the same time each day for six months and her personal hygiene does not improve then we will will look at something like depo prevera. If she is able to take the multi vitamin and her personal hygiene improves then we will consider the birth control pill. In six months time, she will be a little bit older, might start having more interest in boys and regardless it will be time for further discussion. But to be honest with everyone, I'm petrified. I figure if she's asking there's a REASON she's asking. Maybe not necissarily for the boys but in six months time peer pressure and the boys and all of that really begins. Are we making the right decision?