Cindy - posted on 11/20/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )
Okay, I'm a single mom of 3 grown children and 11 yr old. my adult daughter, age 20 and her boyhfriend live with me along with 11 yr old daughter. My boyfriend came into my life about 8 months ago and when I introduced them to my kids they seem to like each other. about 4 months into it my bf thought that my 20yr old daughter. and her 22 yr old bf take adavantage of me. I have been a stay at home mom for the life of my kids except for the last 3 years. I admit that they are spoiled as I did everything because I stayed home. They are both slobs and leave messes where ever they go and I just clean up after them. Its just me and Im used to doing it so most of the time I think nothing of it. My bf starts fights with me all the time about how I should kick them out and if I don't plan on doing that then he will break up with me. He says they are grown and need to get out on there own. They both work full time and between the both of them they make $18 an hour. they pay for there cars and insurance and buy there own clothes and personal things. My bf even gets mad when I make dinner and make enough for them. He feels that they should always cook there own food and buy there own food. It doesn't bother me to cook for them and its not that much more money to cook a couple more pieces of chicken.(My finaces are not to good right now but daughters bf does give me $100 wk rent). Anyway, I don't have a problem helping them out and them living with me because I know that it would be hard and almost impossible at this stage in there life to move out on there own. By the way, the reason daughters boyfriend lives with us is because his father is a an alcholic and abusesive so I let him move in. Its been almost a year. My boyfriend doesn't live with me but stays over a lot. Should I listen to my boyfriend and force them out even if I really don't want to for the sake of our relationship. My daughter knows he fells this way and now cant stand him. She tells me I'm letting him control me and tell me what to do. Maybe she's right.