Bras for kids?!?!?!

Becki - posted on 07/13/2010 ( 57 moms have responded )

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This weekend I am taking my girls bra shopping. They have been wearing training bras for a bit now to get comfortable with wearing a bra. But they are growing out of the trainers. I think they are ready for actual bras now. My problem is how do I know what type and size bra to buy for them?

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Malikah Shania P - posted on 07/12/2013

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hi im malikah im allmost 11 years old and my problem is why my breast is not growing and becoming bigger what is my breast problem and what can i do i want to be earlier to peuberty what can i do to my self to be early to mensturation or peuberty

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Ok. so i'm 12, and i'll tell u a kids perspective

well its kinda embarrassing to admit but i'm sorta flat chested. i have the camis with the shelf bra. me and my mom dont really talk about things like this, and for some reason she didnt send me to health classes in the 5th grade, so she can be 'overprotective" like that.



but the first thing is, try to control your facial expression while talking about stuff like bras and periods. my mom always has this face, and i can just TELL when she talks about fstuff like puberty.



also, a few times i wore nothing but my cami, and my mom made it REALLY obvious that she was staring at my chest. dont do that. try your best to be discreet, and dont do that if your child is directly facing you. also about a few hours later' , she for example she may say 'your boobs are getting bigger' UNLESS you are actually PLANNING to do something about it, like get a training bra or something, there is absolutely NO POINT in telling that to her. unless you have a really close relationship, DO NOT say that unless you plan to get her a bra or training bra or whatever.



IF you plan to take her bra shopping, only ask her ONCE. if you ask on monday, and plan to go on sunday(for example) do NOT remind her Every. Single. Day. that is, unless she is eager and actually willing to talk about it. if not, this will get annoying and slightly embarrassing.



while picking a bra, DO NOT go into the changing room with her! ok? its SUPER embarrasing. i remember when i was 10 in which my mom waited in the changing rooms while i was trying on bikinis, and ( its pretty embarrassing to admit) the only reason she probably had her back to me was because she was afraid that somebody was going to come in. even if you think that she is your little girl, and that it doesnt matter, IT DOES. A LOT. because somewhere between the ages 9-12 (or younger) she WILL want privacy. and if she is old eneogh to wear a bra(unless maybe if your child is between 6-8) she DEFINETLY is old eneogh to want privacy. just tell her how to put it on, and wait outside. WHEN she is done you can come in.



Same thing for periods. Do NOT make a big deal if she gets hers, NEVER be in the same room while she is trying on a pad/tampon. now this has never happened to me (since i didnt get mine yet) but i'm pretty sure that as strange as any mom is (no harm meant) she probably will not do that.hope this helped

Pamela - posted on 07/13/2010

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You measure around the ribs {under the breasts} and that is your band size {eg 32} Then you measure around the chest {over the breasts}. The difference in inches is the cup size. 1 inch=A, 2inches=B etc. Works for us too! Please, don't get her a bra with underwire. She doesn't need it and they cause strange circulatory disruptions and chaffing.

Kaylea - posted on 02/05/2013

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i am 13 i have been useing bras sinse i was 8 i will only use sport bras. all my bras have no distractions and thick straps like the Nike Rebel Sports Bra.

Penelope - posted on 08/28/2013

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The best thing to do is get them measured. My girl got measured just wearing a crop top and they told us which one and what size.

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Niki - posted on 08/11/2014

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Well u never know they could get measured they do it in m+s I got it done there and its perfect now ....

Olivia - posted on 07/25/2014

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I wear a 14-16 in sports bras which I would assume a 30/32. I wear padded bras because I have tiny boobs but big nipples, which show through my training bra, and padded bras are more comfy. :). A normal regular bra size for your daughter I would need the age but 10-12 years old is the normal age girls begin wearing padded bras, and I would suggest a 28-30, even a 32 if you are 11 or 12 or have a bit larger boobs than your age. I would suggest having them try on your bras, maybe?. Or maybe you could go to a store and have them measure her. The next time you go to get measured for clothing, you could ask what the measurements were, and the bust size would be the bra she needs. When I was 10 years old my mom realized I needed a bra because my bust size for a formal dress was a 28 already!!.

13 year old girl, glad to help :)

Kayla - posted on 06/24/2014

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I am 11 and I wear sports bras but I've been looking in stores for soft padded bras because I am growing and need more support

Kyra - posted on 03/27/2014

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Im 10 and I wear a 28B and I've been in bras since I was 8. I recomend letting her go down the underwear isle by herself (with her size being known) so she can pick her bras out by herself. That's what I do and it take the stress out of bra shopping.

Maria - posted on 01/14/2014

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@Sandy, your daughter probably got the idea from iCarly. Sam and Carly go to Build a Bra. I wish there was one! It would make the process more fun. I have a 12 year old. The sports bras are still doing the trick. However, we have browsed the young girl bra section at target since she was 7 or 8. My first bra experience was so embarrassing. My mom just came home with a brown paper bag. Seriously. And said "I have something for you". I thought it was candy or something. What a disappointment. It took awhile before my mom realized I was wearing it over my undershirt. LOL. My mom is so sweet, but easily embarrassed.

Jessica - posted on 01/13/2014

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go to the girls section at khols and they have these bigger trainers that have removable padding also justice has em

Schuylar - posted on 12/15/2013

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Boobs can grow as late as fifteen and as early as eight so don't worry if they haven't grown

Winter - posted on 08/23/2013

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Hi,I am only 9 yrs old and and in 4th grade I have been wearing training bras since I was 5 yrs old and I am finally starting to grow breast D: What do I do?

Kaitlyn - posted on 07/31/2013

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HI im 12 and I went to Dillards with my girl scout troop for a bra fitting and they measured us and everything I did not feel uncomfortable at all.

Ashley - posted on 05/29/2013

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just take your girls into a good underwear shop and they will size them up correctly and comfortably. i took my 13yo sister into an underwear shop to get her stuff because mom couldn't do it,they were very helpful and found her the best fitting B cup bra, now she doesn't complain about her bras making her sore which is good for my ears.lol ashley_leyshon@ yahoo dot com mail me if you want

Ciara - posted on 04/29/2013

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Hi it's really good that you're getting them used to bras my mum tried to do that with me but it didnt work and now that I need a proper sized bra I don't like wearing it because I'm not used to them. Get them used to it as soon as possible!

Mila - posted on 03/30/2013

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I'm 12 and I started puberty and growing breast about almost a year I've always wore bras sence I was 8 and I prefer padded sports bra you can get I from jcpenny Walmart and the Hanes store it help support and I have to go to gym class(middle school) everyday and it helps a lot 2nd hour

Sarah Jane - posted on 01/26/2013

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Get them measured and maybe let them pick but not padding or under wire

Bridget - posted on 01/23/2013

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Hi I'm almost 14 and just starting to get breasts now do you think I should get a small bra now or wait??

Anna - posted on 01/12/2013

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She is going through puberty and all over and I got a bra and perfect but she gets made fun of because there as big as mine and she already has nipples

Kate - posted on 01/09/2013

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To Adrian,
My friends and I had to get white training bras/bras because we have a white school uniform and even though white dies show through is shows through the least... And because we could never find nude coloured bras... But when I'm not at school I really like multi coloured bras (orange, pink, purple, blue, green, etc etc etc)

So to answer your question other colours would be definitely nude and maybe some right colours

Kate - posted on 01/09/2013

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Hi, I'm 12...
I got my first actual bra at the end of 2011 when I was 11 because my boobs were just big enough that you could see my nipples through my training bras/crop tops and clothes and even though I didn't quite fit into it then I needed a cupped bra... I now have a size 10A (32A) bra that I actually fit into...

Some advice about buying bras for your kids...
- get them to measure themselves... If they modest (like myself).
- when you go bra shopping for your daughter get a bra(s) for yourself as well so it's not as awkward for your daughter.
- DO NOT go into the change room with her... She needs privacy
- the type of bra I wear is contour or push-up underwire... Although they are uncomfortable they provide a lot more support and you get used to them pretty quickly.

P.S. Haley's post on the 09/30/2012 is totally right...
I hope this was helpful 😃

Tia - posted on 01/02/2013

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I was a bit of a late blummer and only started wearing a training bra at the age of 12 in year 6 and I wanted to earlier like the other girls but my mom was over proactive and didn't want me to be sexualized but i think you should ask your daughter and take it from 'HER' point of view

Maddie - posted on 12/12/2012

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Hi umm I think that my 10 year old needs some bras but she is very flat cheated so I'm thinking bout getting her some training bras

Adrian - posted on 09/28/2012

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I'm a bra designer for girls in NYC. I really enjoy reading these comments and use this as market research for the collections of training bras that I design. I have one question? Why all the white? White shows under a white t-shirt. Are girls asking for white or is there another color out there that is needed?

Jodi - posted on 09/28/2012

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Hi guys, I am new around here, and I would like some advice on when to get my daughter a bra. She is 10 years old, turning 11 in December. Should she be wearing a bra already? She is just starting to get breasts and I would really appreciate some help. Thank you!

Hauna - posted on 08/23/2012

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hello,i think that the size should be based on how old your kid is im sure were ever you go they can tell what size

Janice - posted on 07/12/2012

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My daughter is 11 and she and I are going bra shopping tomorrow to kohl's. they have a lot of nice
almost cami bras with a very light padding so the aroelas don't show through.
and they are very comfortable. i reccomend!

Carlie - posted on 06/06/2012

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First ask your girls. They are going to be wearing the bras correct? Correct! They will understand that this is a step in maturity. To include them in the decision making process, will be another, and one they will appreciate. When u arrive at the store, let them choose. Don't hover. Most preteens are already embarrassed about their chests. Do u know why? Because they feel like everyone is staring at their shirts. I'm serious. They think people can "see", and it's embarrassing for them. Most of em, at that age, just want to get it over with. Allow them a chance to choose. Step in only when asked or if u sense indecisiveness from them. It's their first bra... It should be sensible, comfortable, and practible. A sports bra is acceptable as is a lightly padded bra. I would choose a lightly padded bra over all others, mainly because it decreases the chance of their aerolas being seen poking through their shirts when cold or sweating. The straps should rest on shoulders-not dig into skin. The bra cups should fill the entire breast, meaning breast should not be exposed under the cups-if u ever see this on anyone- it is almost always because the bra is too tight or too small a fit. Once your daughters have chosen their bras, ask them to try them on to ensure a proper fit. Do not go into the dressing stall with them unless asked. U should however, be allowed an opinion and/or decision on the fitting. Ask your daughter's to raise their hands, wiggle sound, move side to side, bend over, etc. this is a request to ensure the bras do not ride up, fall down or constrict them. Ask your daughters to choose a bra that they feel comfortable wearing. Extremely important. Good luck and have patience! :)

Amanda - posted on 01/03/2012

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I like bras that aren't padded and they're made out of the same material as a sports bra. Sadly I still can fit into a training bra. I really wish I had boobs though

Rachel - posted on 09/01/2011

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Pamela forgot the crucial +3 rule. Its under the ribs, then add 3. Then measure the chest and subtract the difference for cup size. I.e. I am 29 inches at the ribs and 37 inches at the chest. Add 3, gives me 32. 37 minus 32 is 5. 1 inch =A (less is a AA) 2 inch =B etc. So, I am a 32DD, which despite being a perfectly normal size, just isn't made, so I get a 36C (which if you've ben paying attention, will measure roughly the same around the chest) and tailor the band down to fit. A very simple alteration for anyone to try. But yes, you need the plus three or the measurements will be way off

Kimberly - posted on 07/29/2010

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i like the underwire padded bra's my daughter went with me to the store and tried them on in the dressing room the padding helps hide the perkiness :>)

Sandy - posted on 07/29/2010

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Just for a laugh my 10 year old kept asking if they have a build a bra like there is a build a bear.

Debbie - posted on 07/23/2010

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Wow, 5 & 6. My daughter just turned 9 and I just went out for her birthday and got the little cotton trainers since she tried a dress on it and we both laughed when she looked at it and could see her nipples. She actually looked at herself in the mirror and pointed to them asking how to get rid of them. I told her that we could look for a bra for her if she was comfortable wearing one and she agreed to it ... so she just got her first one a few weeks ago. She's visiting her dad in Florida right now and he was not happy to already be having to deal with bra stuff.



With her trainers and all, I had her take various sizes and styles to the dressing room and just try them on to see which one felt the best and fit the best.

Becki - posted on 07/19/2010

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thanks for the support ladies! we did use pam's measuring formula. however it did not work, they do not make bras that small and cup size is irrelavant when they are this young. in the end we did find bras to fit them both, that they were happy and comfortable with.

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Yes, 5 & 6, it was very hard for me to take her to the store to buy bras....especially since I'm little on top. Its so funny because she's 11 now and we both wear the same size bras.....

Denise - posted on 07/16/2010

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WOW Maria, 5&6 yrs old. That must have been so hard. My daughter is 11yrs old. Refuses to wear a bra, though much needed. I have the added difficulty of not being able to find a bra in her size that isn't padded and or without underwire. It is a shame to see all the varieties out there and they can't even leave out the padding and underwire in bras for kids.



Good luck in your search!

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Wow, I can't remember my daughter ever wearing training bras....she went straight from sports bras at age 5 to bras at age 6.... She is very developed for her age and I measured her under her breasts to insure we got the right size.... As far as colors and styles, she's not picky so I let her pick them out. Hey, best of luck....and make it fun for them by letting them choose, they feel a little grown up when they do.

Becki - posted on 07/14/2010

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thanks joy, they have been in trainers for a while now, its time for the next step. thanks for recommending the book, we will check into that.

Joy - posted on 07/14/2010

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Start with a little sports/training bra for kids. Also I recommend the book American Girl has put out called The Care and Keep of you. It is grate for girls that are going through the changes. You need to read with and answer any questions but it will help them understand the changes of there body. Hope this helps and God Bless.

Becki - posted on 07/14/2010

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thank you pamela! that is exactly what i was looking for. I am not comfortable having a stranger at a dept store measure my girls and not sure if they would be either. now that i know thats an option i might go in for myself. i have always wanted a really comfy bra, if such a thing exsists. i appreciate every response, you can never have too much info...thanks ladies!

Julia - posted on 07/14/2010

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My daughter absolutely refused to be measured for a bra by some stranger and I don't blame her as she needed her first bra at 10. I guessed on her size and bought one really cheap one to see if the size was right and then worked from there. Wish I'd known Pamela at the time, her post about measuring yourself is really helpful.

Denise - posted on 07/16/2010

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WOW Maria, 5&6 yrs old. That must have been so hard. My daughter is 11yrs old. Refuses to wear a bra, though much needed. I have the added difficulty of not being able to find a bra in her size that isn't padded and or without underwire. It is a shame to see all the varieties out there and they can't even leave out the padding and underwire in bras for kids.



Good luck in your search!

Joy - posted on 07/14/2010

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Start with a little sports/training bra for kids. Also I recommend the book American Girl has put out called The Care and Keep of you. It is grate for girls that are going through the changes. You need to read with and answer any questions but it will help them understand the changes of there body. Hope this helps and God Bless.

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