dad doesn't like 11 yr old son dressing in current styles

Maria - posted on 02/03/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Dad (50) is complaining about our 11 yr old clothing (jeans too long); which is the style now, at least they don't have holes and he wears nice shirts, good short hair cut; his older brothers take him shopping to keep him up to date. We cannot agree to just let the kids be kids; total generational gap.

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Kathy - posted on 02/05/2010

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Been there done that and my son is now 25 and wears the best of the best but when he was 11 and his jeans were falling off his behind and half his head shaved and the other half blonde, now he is a very well dressed young man and I am very proud of him then and now. It will get better if dad just keeps his opinion to himself and let his son find his own way, he will but if dad keeps it up he may rebell and that may not be good.

Cassandra - posted on 02/05/2010

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As long as his pants are at his waist and he doesn't look sloppy I don't see the problem. I guess I am lucky to be younger and still "hip" to fashions. I am 25 and my daughter will be 11 soon, so there isn't too much of a gap between us. My daughter is "scene" and wears skinny jeans, band tees, vans or chucks, skirts w/ leggings, ect. I make sure she looks neat and school appropriate, but can still be "herself". Heck during the summer we even temp dye our hair funky colors!

Patrizia - posted on 02/05/2010

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dad needs to get with the times. perhaps he is fearful his son is growing up and he is getting old. kids dress is how they express themselves. dad needs to accept that his boy is not going to be young forever. he is going to grow and experiment with different styles as he ages. there is nothing wrong with it he should be thankful that it is only a boys jean length problem and not a girls skirt length problem

Donna - posted on 02/04/2010

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kids have to be their own person. they have to develope their own personality and self awareness. chances are dad and son are not two peas in a pod. i know my son and hubby are different in many ways but i explained to my hubby a long time ago that are son is not his replica. kids need to find there own way in life and be supported in whatever makes them happy! good luck in helping your hubby understand lol :)

Maria - posted on 02/04/2010

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oh he looks good, but dad still sees the little boy at the private school in his neat uniform with the belt and all the other stuff..... It's the generational gaps in the house.

Jane - posted on 02/04/2010

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Yes, this is totally dads problem! He needs to accept that his son is only doing what every other child his age is doing and if he doesn't conform, he may be isolated and ridiculed by his peers. How he dresses shouldn't be an issue and if this is his only issue, he's a lucky dad! I often look at my boys when they are going out the door and think OMG. Is that hair meant to be styled so you look like you just got out of bed? I realise my parents had the same thoughts though and to discourage me wouldn't have made much difference. I say PICK YOUR BATTLE, Dad!!!

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