Mary - posted on 10/10/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
Mary - posted on 10/10/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
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Sharron - posted on 10/23/2010
That's great Sandi, I too use an envelope system 1 for what they can spend, 1 for savings and for taxes. When I receive my Income Tax I take what they have saved put it into a check form and they also get a income tax check. They get so excited at tax time. I also have them put their 10% into Church. I reward all grades, some chores and excellent behavoir. Since I get paid every two weeks thats how they get their allowance.
Mary Ann - posted on 10/21/2010
Yes, I do reward my girls fro getting good grades, which seems to be a great motivation, because they both stay on high honors and I'm broke every marking period.. LOL! I also make them accountable for chores (subtract from grade rewards, if they don't do them). If they get bad grades, we strategize about how to raise them up, so it's a great way to talk about their school work.
Rebecca - posted on 10/21/2010
I reward both of my boys' grades with money. The younger (in elem school) gets a quarter per grade that is improved or at the highest level. My older (in middle school) gets a $1 per A or improved grade. This to my boys is their treat for all their hard work. My eldest gets all 5 As and 1 B with 3 of the classes being advanced. My youngest is also in 3 advanced classes. This is in no way all we do for the grades. Schooling is extremely important in our family and extended family. There is no excuses for not completing and turning in homework. The best way to have good grades from children is to have all family and family support reaffirm that education is the most important thing for everyone.
This also teaches them that putting in the time and effort into a job will get you higher pay.
Chrissy - posted on 10/20/2010
I don't use money, but with my 11 yr old, she has dances and things like that she wants to go to. I tell her that if the grades are good, she don't need to worry, but if she has failing grades, the dances right now are extracurricular not a needed thing. That makes her work hard to keep her grades passing so she can do the extracurricular activities at school. Works for us :)
Candi - posted on 10/20/2010
yeah b/c I know my kids are gifted and can make the grade. I made a deal with my son(the absent minder professor). If he gets below a C on his report card, he has to cut his hair! He has the shaggy, all over the place hair. Thank God its not the Disney, comb it all foward hair though! He is making sure to keep his grades up. My slogan"grades up, hair down. Grades down, hair up." simple as that! Other than that, we use money.
Natalie - posted on 10/20/2010
As I was reading everyones comments on this subject, I realized that the best thing to do is what works best with your own child. You might have to try a few different things and use what you are comfortable with too. I never used to give money as a reward for grades, but my husband started it without telling me first and it is really working well. We give a substantial amount for all A's and then we give some for A's and B's and none if they get a C or less. We know what our kids are capable of and we watch their grades online too. We have been doing this for 2 years now and noone has made less than an 88 on their report card. The good thing too is they can use their hard earned cash for expensive electronic gadgets that kids want today! It has proved to be a "win, win" situation!
Tracy - posted on 10/20/2010
I dont reward as far as monetary or gifts. The way I see it is that they have a job to do just like me and that is to produce good work and accomplishments. that being said if they do struggle I do give incentives , such as a game rental for a week , something like this and then at the end of the year to " celebrate" we go out for a meal as a family,.Encouragment where and when thhey need it.
Sandi - posted on 10/19/2010
We do reward good grades with money. And we are starting to institute the "Three Envelope" program whereby a certain percentage of what he earns goes into the "Save" envelope - a percentage goes in to the "Give" envelope and the rest can go into his "Spend" envelope. We don't pay him for basic chores around the house because we believe that as part of a family - you should just chip in and help out and not expect payment for that. But if he helps out on a bigger project around the house we'll usually recognize that effort in some way.
Rhea - posted on 10/12/2010
Good old-fashioned pat on the back for the entire report card, "good" or "bad" grades. I find that grades aren't an accurate indication of how well someone is doing in school and kids should not be punished or rewarded on such a flimsy number/letter.
Candi - posted on 10/12/2010
we reward good grades, but only end of semester grades or end of year grades. My kids are straight A and gifted, so paying them each report card time can get expensive. We do punish for bad grades though. We know they can do the work and when/if their grades fall, we know they are not applying themselves and something needs to be done.
Mary - posted on 10/12/2010
That's soo cool Ann.... I am glad it's working for you!
Ann - posted on 10/12/2010
I do reward for good grades. I do it with money because it works in two ways for us. One: my daughter can work to earn money for things she wants and she sees that by applying herself she gets a reward that helps her acquire what she wants. Two: I take her shopping with HER MONEY and she budgets for what she wants to buy. This has worked well for us and she not only gets excited about the money now but about getting good grades.
Mary - posted on 10/11/2010
We usually have a family celebration... or go some place at the end of the year. It's not really giving them money but we do it as a job well done type of deal. And when I say we go somewhere - a day trip or some place maybe for the night !!
Maria - posted on 10/11/2010
NO, WE DON'T REWARD FOR GOOD GRADES....WE FEEL THAT GRADES ARE IMPORTANT AND THEY NEED TO MAINTAIN THEM. BUT THEY ARE REWARDED FOR DOING THEIR CHORES.....AND WE REWARD THEM BY TAKING THEM OUT FOR THE DAY TO ONE OF THEIR FAVORITE PLACES, OR TO THE PARK, ANYTHING OF THEIR CHOICE.
Laura - posted on 10/11/2010
No, we don't reward good grades. My husband and I EXPECT our daughter to do her best in school and the grade itself is the reward for her efforts. We give plenty of verbal encouragement and praise for a job well done but that's it.
Susanne - posted on 10/11/2010
If they get good reports at the end of the year i normally give them money or take them out for a treat.