do your daughter have free will of hair cuts?

Kimberly - posted on 07/23/2010

My daughter has the decision. Sometimes she wants her hair cut and then regrets it. It grows back and then she wants to cut it again. What can I say? She is definitely a girl.

Eseta - posted on 07/23/2010

I let my daughter cut her hair but only after telling her that she might regret it later. That way she takes responsibilty for her decision.

Jennifer - posted on 07/23/2010

I think it's her hair : )

Sherri - posted on 07/22/2010

Yes she should have free will and long hair at her age is no longer the cool thing. The popular thing now is bobs at around the 6th grade level. You don't want her to look to young and babyish in middle school.

Lori - posted on 07/22/2010

I let my Daughters choose what they want, then if they don't like it it's a choice & decision they have to live with till it grows back. I feel that this teaches them to make decisions and have a little bit of responsibility. If a bad hair cut is all we have to worry about then we are doing good.

Stacy - posted on 07/22/2010

My daughter also decided she wanted to have her hair short about 2 years ago ( she was 11 then). She also donated it to the Locks of Love. Soon after, her friends started to do the same thing. Now it has become common place in our small town for little girls to do this and the before and after pictures often end up in the local newspaper. Let your daughter get her hair cut- it will always grow back :)

Anne Marie - posted on 07/22/2010

I lLOVE the suggestion of donating to locks for hair. That way she can feel she has done some good with her hair. My daughter too had long hair and wanted it cut at about the same age. I can only say choose your battles. Is this a big one, I don't think so, I know how hard it is to let them cut if off. My daughter has not resented her hair cut since she did it. My daughter is now 16 and there are so many other fights that this is so minor in the grand scheme of things. It gives them some control, If you give them control over some of the minor but yet big issues (as I see this one) then you are likely to have be able to have a bigger say in the bigger issues. It will also show her that you respect her opinion and judgement. If she is upset then you can support her through the decision. The hair dresser may be willing to cut half then the second half if she still want the other half done, but the whole length is better for locks for hair, I still really love that idea, she would be able to say what she did with her hair with pride. Just think about what that would do for her image of herself. Way to go Cathy on that suggestion.

Cathy - posted on 07/22/2010

My daughter wanted to do the same thing when she was in 5th grade. We compromised a little. We cut off 10" which was then donated to Locks for Love. And then she had to wait 4 weeks to see if she really wanted another 10" cut. She actually decided against the second cut. But at least at that point, it was her decision!

Monica - posted on 07/21/2010

At about 9 or 10, I think letting your kids pick their haircuts allows them to have some say in how they look. Since I am strict on my daughters not wearing certain styles of clothing, this is a compromise I am willing to make. Hair will always grow back and for girls most bad haircuts can be fixed/improved with hair do dads.

Cassandra - posted on 07/20/2010

My daughter has been able to choose her hair cut since 9 and as I always say, it will grow back!