Does the arguing and fussing ever stop??? Seems like my kids do is fuss and argue. lol

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Nikki - posted on 08/07/2009

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I have 4 children and the arguing is a natural thing. We just have to remember that they are changing and growing in different ways every day. They don't always realize that their siblings are changing also. That comes with maturity. All we can do is separate them for a short time to let them calm down, explain differences between each other, and try to explain how their differences make them stronger together. Thats what I try to do anyway and so far its working. It can be fun to sit down together and come up with a list of differences in all of us and put together situations were those differences can be made to work together. It helps them understand.

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Maria - posted on 08/11/2009

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I have2 boys and it seems like the minute they wake up they are arguing over the pettiest of things. Drives me crazy. Then towards mid day it stops. lol. Then again that is not the always the case. Even separating them doesn't work all the time. I'm hoping to survive this stage.. LOL

Mandy - posted on 08/11/2009

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You are not alone. My two are 9 and 11 and they fight like cats and dogs! I think it's beause they both think they have to be right all of the time. My 11-year-old (girl) is very bossy. Sometimes I think she thinks she's the mom. My son just takes it most of the time, but there are times when he argues back, and BOY does he have a temper!! I think all siblings do it. I like to think that it's just a phase, and that once they are a little older it will simmer down.

Lisa - posted on 08/09/2009

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I have the same issue in my house. They are 7, 10 and 11. 2 boys and a girl. They are always at each other. It's a wonder they ever WANT to play together because it always ends badly. They also fuss and argue with me and my husband when asked to stop doing something or to ask to do something. The 7 year old isn't as bad in this area as the other 2 are. I can tell ya there are days I just wanna knock all their heads together, put them to bed and finally have some PEACE. lol

Sue - posted on 08/09/2009

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It only stos when they no longer live 2gether. I have a 20 year old and a 16 year old, they very rarely got on when they lived 2gether but now they live apart (the eldest has left home) they get on better than ever.

Lisa - posted on 08/08/2009

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my two girls bicker alot too and i thought that wouldn't happen with the 6yrs age gap lol it's pretty normal though.

Michelle - posted on 08/07/2009

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I have 2 daughters 14 and 12. Sometimes they are the best of friends... and sometimes they are the worst enemies. I don't know about your children, but mine are old enough to find some kind of a common ground. I don't like my children to argue, so I suggest for them to try to talk it out. By the time they are talking it over, they both forgot why they were mad in the first place... Good luck to you and I hope this helps!

Bev - posted on 08/07/2009

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It depends on their personalities. my 3 fought on occasion. they are adults now and still sometimes have spats. as they grow older it should become less and less. good luck to you Casey

Rach - posted on 08/07/2009

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I think everyone who has kids has this problem, whether it's sharing toys as a 3 year old or standing outside the door of their older sibling when they have a friend over etc. I find that my youngest (9yr old boy) is wanting attention from his older sister so does things that supposidly "annoy" her to get attention. The thing I try to teach him is that if he is wanting attention from her he has to learn to do it in a positive way rather than a negative way... I remember fighting with my two brothers (I was the middle child) and we still turned out alright and we have a great relationship now... it's all part of growing up and as long as the kids or pre-teens aren't physically or mentally abusing each other it's something we all have to deal with... hope this is re-assuring...

Kerrie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I have 5 kids and I have to tell you that it is very normal. I say, let them work it out between themselves unless it gets physical or overly angry. You have to see them as part of a litter of pups, fighting for the "alpha position". Momma can't make that decision for them, they have to figure it out for themselves.

Amanda - posted on 08/06/2009

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That is the same with my kids, can't be much help, when my two start, I just separate them and let them settle down, but even that doesn't work all the time.

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