Cindy - posted on 03/18/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )
A couple of months ago, my boyfriend moved in with me and my kids. I have 18 yr girl, 14 yr son and 11 yr girl. He has 8 yr girl and 5 yr boy. Well, my 11 yr daugther says she is not happy and wants to go live with her dad. She does not like the 8 yr old girl and she says that my boyfriend is mean to her. He has a different kind of humor about him and doesn't always say the right thing when he is joking around. He always apologizes to her and he is not a mean person or trying to hurt her intentionally. We have asked her to come to me or both of us if something is bothering her, but she always goes to her dad which then means he just makes things worse. He has been trying to get her to move in with him for years so he doesn't have to pay child support and he sees this as his perfect opportunity. I don't really care about the support but can't stand the thought of losing my baby girl. I understand that she is feeling a lot of jealousy about the 8 yr old and feels she is taking away mom's attention. I try to be around my daugther the most when she is here and don't even really pay that much attention to the other. I have pretty much given up and told her that she can go live with her dad....I just want her to be happy....I have suggested to her that we do a trial run of her living with her dad. I want her to understand that just because she moves over there...it won't make the situation over here change. She will still be here with us every other weekend. Does anybody have any advice as to how to handle this?