Height

Deepa - posted on 04/02/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son will be 10 this month and feels upset to be the shortest in his class, anyone with ideas?

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Tracy - posted on 04/02/2010

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Get him focused on something else. Sports, playing instruments, skateboarding, scouting, after school reading clubs, chess club; whatever interests him. This will give him something he can show off to his friends so that they (and he) will then focus on his abilities and his personality instead of his stature. When he sees that his friends don't care about his size, he won't care so much either.

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Hanife - posted on 04/22/2010

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Hi there,
Tell him not to worry my male cousin had the same problem as we were growing up then he just shot up and is now 6ft tall. My daughter was a slow grower and some people were making negative comments, she is now 11.5yrs old and she has catched up with her friends,just give time each child is an individual.
Good luck

Elaine - posted on 04/08/2010

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I am only short and was all the way through school, my mum used to say good stuff comes in little bundles, he still has time to grow he may get up one morning and find he has grown. Just confidence on his part I understand that just keep encouraging him and say give yourself time and you'll catch up, during puberty he will shoot up and will be happy. So hold on there.

Rachel - posted on 04/07/2010

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My daughter is 12 years old and her brother is 10 and he is taller than her. She has been small since birth and always struggled with the height comparisons...even from her own family. She is a good athlete but finds it hard to compete in events that concentrate on speed because she doesn't have the height but has plenty of endurance for long distance events in swimming and running. She also discovered gymnastics at the age of 8 and now is almost the same size as these girls...still a bit smaller than the girls in her age group...and very competitive as this concentrates on skill rather than speed. So I guess what I am saying is that if you can find something that he enjoys doing his height shouldn't hold him back and it will give him the confidence in himself.

Maureen - posted on 04/07/2010

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I have the opposite situation with my kids. They are usually taller than most kids - my daughter is on target to be 6 feet tall. In my opinion, the only thing you can do is explain that there is nothing you can do about height and you just have to be happy with who you are - big or small. When my kids were little, people always would say how BIG they were and I would correct them and say yes they are tall. I would then usually say something like "she is perfect for our family". Just like anything else - hair color, eye color, shoe size, etc - there are some things you cannot change and you have to celebrate them because that is what makes you YOU.

Julie - posted on 04/06/2010

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My son has always been on the smaller side. Now at 16 he is still shorter then most of his male friends he has grown A LOT over the last two years. He had a time frame between 13 - 14 that he would almost cry over his height, no matter how supportive I was. He was very involved with sports so there was nothing to distract him with. I final took him to a specilist that took crate and measured parts of his body and told him its normal and give it time. Then his dad found a shorter guy that graduated from the school that was very popular and into sports to talk to my son. Plus one of his friends and classmates is VERY tall and talked to him about how tuff it is to be the tallest. He seemed to be content with himself and started to enjoy life again... But it was a heartfelt two years.

Jennifer - posted on 04/06/2010

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Make sure that you keep the conversation open between your son and you! My son is one of the shortest in his class. Some of the other students are almost a foot and a half taller than him. They do pick on him and we have an open relationship. He will tell me when they pick on him and I try to reason with him. I try to break it down to his perspective; I tell him that he has the whole rest of his life to get taller and that different people grow at different rates. I tell him to look at the other kids and see that they will never be shorter again. Kids can be really mean, and you can't take that away. Your job is to make sure he feels comfortable in his own skin, and that he can come to you when he has a problem. And when they do that is the biggest reward!

Kenitra - posted on 04/06/2010

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Boys get their growth spurts later than girls. One day he will likely be looking down on the most of his class. Although girls stop growing only a couple years after they start their cycle, boys will continue to grow until age 20 or 21.

Dawn - posted on 04/05/2010

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My son has always been 2 years behind in height. It never bothered him, but we had role models of semi pro athletes for him to look up to. If he is extremely short, don't hesitate to have your pediatrician do a bone scan (xray of wrist) to determine bone age. That is how we discovered he had an underactive pituitary gland. Good luck.

Louise - posted on 04/05/2010

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I am short myself and unfortunately we have to work with what we are given. The key here is to boost confidence in other areas and to have your child know they are loved no matter what. If we have curly hair, we want straight. As humans we are never satisfied. Confidence in life and yourself is the key and you are what you are.

Chris - posted on 04/05/2010

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My daughter at 13 is also one of the shorter ones in her class & she also feels uneasy about it. At age 13 just going into Junior clothing it's been hard to buy her "grown up looking" clothes in the childrens dept. Now her older brother and father don't want her to wear the "grown up" clothes saying she's not old enough. She & her brother got into an arguement the other day over her Easter dress, he told her to grow up and her reply was "I'm trying to, but you won't let me." I was very shocked because she has never said anyting like this to him before. Tell your son tat boys don't start their groth till around 14-16 so be patient.

Angie - posted on 04/04/2010

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My oldest son is 13 years old and has always been one of the shortest in his class. He has a lot of self-confidence because he is an awesome athlete. His only complaint is his height. Well, it so happened that he got a minor injury during one of his games and I had to take him to the orthopedic to get an x-ray on his knee. The doctor not only showed him that there wasn't anything seriously wrong with his knee...but, also showed him in the x-ray that there is room near the bone area which means he still has a lot of growing to do. That made him happy and now I hardly hear a word about it! Best $30.00 co-pay I have ever payed!!!

GAYLE - posted on 04/03/2010

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Tell him that the best things in life come in small bundles. The best thing about being short is that you can get away with wearing kids clothes for longer, which are cheaper than adult clothes and more fashionable as well. He may even have a growth spurt when he reaches puberty so tell him not to worry. You will always love him no matter how small/big he is. Good luck.

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