HELP..daughters friend looking at porn at my house..

Rita - posted on 10/13/2011

Oh no that an't good.......Don't allow the girl back until you fine out what's going on. take control of your home....

Arlene - posted on 05/24/2009

We have a rule in our house that computers can only be used in the Living room, Kitchen and Family Room. This stops them (kids) from doing anything sneaky on there, not just porn but anything they are not supposed to be doing. Also we have semi-strict parental controls. That is the great thing about Vista, you can set it up to where it (computer)can only be used certain hours, what rating of games they play, shows they watch online and dvd's, content level of website, plus every night (that's just when I choose to do it) I can view every website he's been to, who he messaged (he's not allowed to do that though) and the conversations they had. Also he has a gmail account and I have it set to receive a copy of EVERY email that he gets. Even without Vista you can set controls like that, it just maybe a little difficult. I have 3 laptops, and a desktop (not working right now) and it is a common thing to see my son and his friends on the couches looking up cheat codes, researching why baking soda and leftover egg dye can blow up, or just playing Grand Chase (some game they actually got my hubby hooked on).

As far as what to do about it already happening, I would ask her what websites they visited and see where it goes. I wouldn't directly say "Hey I found these porn sites and I know you and your friend saw them" because they might not have done it and you don't want them to wonder about what they didn't see. If she doesn't bring it up, you could explain that sometimes inappropriate websites sometimes just "pop-up" and that she should notify you when that happens and ask if it ever has. If she still says nothing about it happening then leave it alone with her. Then I would talk to the other girl's parent, in person, and just say "Hey just wanted to let you know we just found out we have a problem with questionable pop-ups on our computer, I talked to my daughter about it, and told her if any come up to let me know you might want to talk to your child blah blah blah!" No need getting everyone upset if nothing truly happened.

Jessica - posted on 05/23/2009

So this happen awhile ago. I was wondering how you ended up handling it. And what you found out.

Katarina - posted on 05/22/2009

I would definately inform the girls parents, 12 is too young to be addicted to this stuff. Her parents need to be made aware so they can try to nip it in the bud before it leads to other things. Have a heart to heart with your daughter and discourage the friendship, and tell her why. I believe she will be a bad influence on your daughter, kids are so impressionable at this age. I have 2 daughters ages 12 and 14 and we have parental blocks on our computer that blocks certain types of sites.

Lynn - posted on 05/19/2009

DO NOT ALLOW THE GIRL IN YOUR HOUSE ANY MORE

Julie - posted on 05/18/2009

We have multiple viruses on our computers -- we were advised that online gaming sites and sites for cheat codes for games frequently have viruses and cookies which lead to porn sites. We now have K9 Protection on our computers. This is a free download http://www1.k9webprotection.com/



I would still talk to the girls, but this will help protect your kids going forward

Maria - posted on 05/11/2009

I believe that the next time your daughter's friend comes for an overnighter, it's time to sit down your daughter and your friend together and show her what you found on the computer so she can't deny it. Let her know that you have rules in your home, and watching porn is one of them. Tell them that it's a warning. The next time it happens, you'll email her parents the IP# and the site, so they will know what she's been viewing. She may not know that you may not do it, but she'll think twice about doing it again in your house. She should have courtesy and respect your home. Let your daughter know that she may grounded the next time.

Jessica - posted on 05/08/2009

Ok I have asked a few people.



Some websites get pop-ups and that can get saved to your history. She may not have been looking at porn.



I would confront her ask her what she was doing on there. Ask her exactly what sites she was going to.



Also I think I would make a no computer rule unless you are there to supervise it.

Jessica - posted on 05/08/2009

Ok I have asked a few people.



Some websites get pop-ups and that can get saved to your history. She may not have been looking at porn.



I would confront her ask her what she was doing on there. Ask her exactly what sites she was going to.



Also I think I would make a no computer rule unless you are there to supervise it.

Becki - posted on 05/08/2009

talk to your daughter and find out what happened. you want to be sure before making any accusations. then make a phone call to that girls parents and tell them what happened.