Hi, I would like to know what other parents think about there kids gaming. How many hours you guys allow a day or week
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Cecilia - posted on 03/02/2013
Janet, he is going to be 18. If you are worried about him leaving you need to talk to him about your concerns and try to teach him how to do it right. Ask him to call you 2 times a day while he is gone to curb your worry about safety. You might not like that he is leaving to do this, but if he is an adult there is little you can do, besides choose to support him.
As far as it won't do anything for him in college or in life- not really true as much as you think. I do get paid to make items for a virtual site/ game of sorts. I'm not into the game aspect of it but the virtual art aspect of it. I make as much as a full time job at min, wage and i work 3 hours a night on average.
Nothing you posted cries addiction to me.- he has a social life and a girlfriend, he plays sports, keeps his grades up. You might need to realize that you'll have to learn to support his thoughts and ideas.
Dove - posted on 01/30/2013
We have no gaming systems and won't unless my kids decide to buy them for themselves as teenagers... and then I'll figure out limits. ;)
We have the tv (movies only) and my computer. As long as homework and stuff is done I don't really care how much tv they watch. My older two are typically only home 2 afternoons/week and on weekends though.
My older two can play on my computer... mostly weekends... as long as homework and other chores are done. They 'probably' get 2-5 hours/week on it (on a good week that everything is done).
Cecilia - posted on 02/11/2013
I don't think they detox. I think they work on using it responsibly. It's fine to let them play. I know it is a main way of socializing for many children now and days. That's okay. It can become a huge issue for some. Just like some people have a problem with the internet. Doesn't mean they can never use the internet again, just learn to do it better.
Cecilia - posted on 02/11/2013
Joann, it does sound like an addiction to me also. They do have special therapist for these.First I would try to just lure him away from it. Like you said you did get him into camp and he went. It is possible to get him away from it on some levels. Try to push him towards sports. Have him start volunteering. You know your son and i'm sure you can figure out something he would like to do.
Since he does like it you can use it against him. Make him keep a reasonable grade average to be able to play. so what if he gets mad.
Janet - posted on 03/02/2013
My son is 17 and totally addicted, I think, to Xbox live ( Halo). He has all A's & 1 B this semester ( Junior), & has a nice girl friend. He says he plays with his "friends" some from his school & some from who knows where, on line. He plays basketball (AAU) since 5 th grade... but he really thinks he can win in gaming completion events? He wants to travel to an event in April, but my hysband & I said No! He reminds us that He will be 18 in 3 months. At which time he says he is going to events! We are disappointed that gaming is what he loves to do! He is our only child and we have taught him all sports ( basketball is his best). He still plays bball but says its not going to do anything for him in college.. We say video games will nothing good for him in regards to college! Not sure what we should do? My husband is arguing with him all the time about the time he is playing video games, and we feel like we are loosing our son to this strange addictive device! But then we say at least he isn't doing drugs,partying & getting into trouble . We worry he is going to take off to a tournament with these " gaming friends" some weekend. He has no clue about the traveling alone, cost of things$ etc. safety is our big concern as well!!
Joann - posted on 02/11/2013
Thank you for responding.my husband is mad because I disconnected the game system . But too bad. I am going to look for a counselor tomorrow that understands this. My son told me he was not going to camp this year, but he is going, even if I have to sell my jewelry to pay for it 😁. Wish me luck while he detoxes off PS3. It might get ugly wish it was summer now. Joan
Joann - posted on 02/11/2013
I need some advice on my 14 yr olds PS3 game time. I have noticed for awhile that he has become obsessed with playing one of the rated M games. Against my better judgment I allowed him to purchase the game to play on line with his friends. (did I mention that he was diagnosed with aspergiers in may of 2011) he has an extremely difficult time making and keeping friends. My son has become obsessed in the last month with playing this game with what he calls his "clan" other gamers. At first I thought it was just him trying to identify kids like him. But I have noticed a very disturbing behaviors this past two weeks.he gets so worked up playing this game that his face gets beat red in the cheeks. Like he has high b/p !! He does not want to stop playing to do anything else including eating, home work, social activities he use to do (like video) club, even stopping for his favorite TV shows. He will try to be home at certain times just to play this game with the clan. Even lying to make sure he is home.when asked to stop playing for any reason he just goes out of controll. Yelling screaming, crying ect. Even if I call him up for cookies! I am very concerned about this behavior. It is all most like he is addicted to DRUGS! I am worried about the effect on his teenage brain. I have read the different articles about possible addiction to electronic games computers ect and how it stimulates the pleasure center of the brain and releases endorphins. (the same as drugs, gambling,OCD ,ect) My husband thinks I am over reacting to his behavior . ( but he has a hard time separating from his computer, iPod or phone) . I am really worried about this. When he was sent to a 4week overnight camp in the summer (no electronics at all) he returned a happy happy child.
Has anyone else ever experienced this ? He is my 4 th child and the youngest his siblings are 30,28,26,18 so he is the only one at home. But the others did not have video games when growing up. Perhaps a hand held intendo when older. I want to do other things with him. But it is always such a fight . I want to throw the dam thing in the trash but my husband does not want think that is the answer. Right now my son is in bed asleep after an hour of yelling and screaming after he was told he had to come up for dinner. All my instincts tell me something is very wrong. Has anyone also felt like this?..I am not getting a lot of support on the home front . I am trained as a nurse so my husband thinks that I over react to everything
(the opposite is problay true, I under react) I am sorry I have just rambled on in this post, guess I just needed to voice my concerns . I would appreciate any feed back. Thank you . Joan
Cecilia - posted on 02/02/2013
I'll be the one to admit that my children play games way too much. I've bought them some many systems and games to appease them. My husband is worse than me with this. How much do they actually play them, i'm not sure. I know that they could pretty much all day long, as every bedroom has at least one system in it, including my own. They don't constantly play though. I would guess honestly the average is about 3 hours a day. This is using all 4 of my children for the average. Some rarely play some do much more often. Then to make it worse my only real restriction on which games they [the teens] play is sexual themes. Violence doesn't bother me like it does others. They are good kids. They make okay grades. They do what they need to do around the house. We live surrounded by farms so there are no other children to go outside and play with. Their interaction time is playing games with friends online or through xbox live. (or facebook and facebook games) My kids are 15,13, 12 and 2. Yes the two year old plays games too. We play ABCmouse online and we have kid friendly aps for tablets.
Plain and simple we are a gaming household. Even down to me. I play many online games with my oldest son. Have for many years. It's a way for us to hang out together without him needing to feel like i'm going to always question him about his newest girlfriend (although i can while playing games) Some people will tell me i'm wrong for this but honestly, i don't care.
Evelyn - posted on 02/02/2013
My son did not get son did not get his first video game system until he was almost 13. Being that he is at his dad's house most of the week and all, he played it a lot at first. But now he does not play it all the time like he first did. He groomed himself to limited times. He is the one that now asks about a movie for us to watch, to go to a friends house, or to go do something else. I also ask to do other things. He has his chores and all to do too. But I do not limit his playing. On school breaks when I have him the whole time, for most of it I will let him decide how much he plays. But we still do other things. Sometimes he stays up all night. He is 16 now. Just last night I told him not to stay up past one am. He went to sleep by 1230 am.
Michelle - posted on 01/31/2013
Thank you for sharing everyone. I wish I would have listen to my older sis with 4 kids about not having a TV in my sons room. Now seems like I have created a monster. As of last year, 4th grade he was a honor roll student. Seems like out of no where all my parenting has to change.
Ariana - posted on 01/26/2013
How much time would depend on how much other 'screen time' he is also getting. I would say an hour during the week and maybe 2hours on the weekend as long as his homework/chores are done.
You know it takes 10 000 hours to become an 'expert' in something? Most children will play 40000 hours of games (gaming games), before they finish high school. Meaning they could have become an expert in 4 things.
If you have trouble limiting their gaming some things are available that only allow 1 hour of access and then it turns off. I also would only allow so much 'screen time' ontop of that. You might make a 2 hours screen time during the week rule, so the child has to decide if they're going to game, or watch tv, or play on the internet and how they want to split the time up. That can get confusing though on making sure how long they've been on especially if you've got more than one child, making a rule specifically for each one might be better.
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