How am I supposed to enjoy Father's Day when my dad died on Father's Day 2008?

Angela - posted on 06/19/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Fathers day is one of the hardest days of the year for me, I mean out of all the days in the year why did my dad have to die on Fathers day.

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Kim - posted on 06/23/2010

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This was my first Father's Day without my father. He passed away from cancer June 2.

Jean - posted on 06/22/2010

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THINK OF HOW YOUR DAD WOULD OF WANTED YOU TO SPEND YOUR TIME, MOST LIKELY PASSING ON THE GOOD HE HAS TAUGHT YOU. MY FATHER PASSED IN "95 AND I KNOW HE IS ALWAYS W/ME AND WANTS ME TO STAND TALL AND ENJOY LIFE.

Sherri - posted on 06/21/2010

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If you have a husband it isn't his fault that you had such a hard loss. It is okay to be sad but you need to celebrate your husband on father's day for your children and him. He has earned that right too.

Shari - posted on 06/21/2010

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My Dad didn't die on Fathers day but he passed away one week before Christmas, every Holiday is difficult but in your case what a way to honor that man on a day to celebrate what a wonderful Dad he was we have to do the best we can one day at a time.

Nicola - posted on 06/21/2010

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My grandma died on my 8th birthday, and my mum died on my wedding anniversary. You take a moment to think of them with love, and you remember the good times. It'll hurt, and it keeps on hurting for a while, but you then have to consider those who are still here, and try not to bring them down on a day of celebration. ((((()))))

Amber - posted on 06/20/2010

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I think instead of thinking of death as something sad, you should think of it as something wonderful. Your dad has moved on in the journey that we all will someday take. How exciting and wonderful for him! It was the end of his physical life, but not the end of him. Celebrate the man you loved. Celebrate the life he once had. But don't feel sad for him. You can't live in the past. That's only going to cause your life to be miserable. Enjoy what you have now! Life is too short to be sorrowful over something that really is, in my opinion, a thing to celebrate. Your dad has moved on and is probably very happy! You should be too!

Carol - posted on 06/20/2010

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It is not easy my dad died a few days after his birthday and I was born on fathersday but i rember the good time i had with him and know he is in a better place now and that he is with me always. So dont think off the sad time think off him in the good times and where ever you are just say happy fathersday dad and he will be happy to know you are not so sad.

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My grandmother died a few days before Mother's Day. Her birthday was the day after mine. Both days are hard but no harder than the 363 surrounding them. We will always miss them and when I think of her, the pain is just the same as it was May 19, 2007. What I do is remember the joy she brought to the world. I make one of her favorite foods or this year, my mother and I went to her favorite restaurant on her birthday. I miss her so much but she's gone. I can't bring her back. I don't believe personally in an afterlife but I **KNOW** perfectly well that she would be the last one to want me to grieve forever and stop enjoying life. She lived life to the fullest till the very last day. Would your father want you to be so sad? Of course not. You can look back and know that he loved you. You can enjoy the day by spending time with the family you have left and know they grieve as well. Not everyone shows it the same way. They may need you to help them feel better just as you need them.

Amanda - posted on 06/19/2010

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Both fathers day and your fathers death are just dates, if you live to be 80 and are 30 today its just 50 days out of 17800. Stop mourning a day, and start celebrating a life. I agree with the other posters make fathers day, and happy day remembering all the good times with your dad.

Terri-Anne - posted on 06/19/2010

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It doesn't matter if your dad died on Father's day or not, Father's day would have been a trigger for you to remember your dad, so remember him and the fun things rather than remembering that he isnt here with you. The spirit of your dad will be right with you as soon as you start talking to him. Spend that day remembering all the good times

Crystal - posted on 06/19/2010

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remember the good times with your dad and ,also remember the men in your life who have been great fathers( uncles, brothers , neightbors) and help make their days just as special as you remember with your dad(cards mugs etc) also take it one day at a time be blessed

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