how can i get my daughter to quit saying she is bored all the time?
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Theresa - posted on 04/17/2010
I got tired of hearing my kids compain about being bored, so I came up with a "Mom I'm bored" list. It contained things like, vacuumming, dusting, cleaning the toilet, mowing, raking, shoveling, etc. Whenever they complined about being bored I'd hand them the list and say here pick somehting. They stopped complaining. Whenever they'd start I'd ask if I should get the list. It sure got them to stop.
Gayle - posted on 04/25/2010
My niece says this a lot. It's usually when she's not getting her way and wants some attention. We used to come up with lots of ideas, only to have her knock them down every time. THEN we came up with, "Oh that's not good! What a shame!" This (a) acknowledges her feelings while (b) not offering lots of options to refuse. She always comes up with her own ideas after a minute or two, and we always praise her with, "What a good idea!" And the situation is quickly diffused.
Hope this helps
Rebeca - posted on 04/28/2010
I love all the above suggestions and I have tried them ALL with my 9 year old son who complains about being bored all the time. I have never heard it from my 12 year old who can entertain herself for hours and has been like that since she was a baby and I would put her on a playmat or in her cot with soft toys while I cleaned, but when my son was born I tried to do the same thing but he was always a clingy baby and needed me, his dad, or his sister with him at all times.
I have tried acknowledging his feelings, suggesting fun things he can do, giving him chores ( which he refuses to do when he is in this mood), and even ignoring him and banning the word. It makes NO difference at all so I have come to the conclusion that this is just who he is and I am hopeful that as he gets older and can ride his bike to friends houses, skatepark etc, he will stop being so bored. lol
Often my son will whinge that he is bored and the only thing he wants to do is have us take him to the beach, but this is not always possible and he cracks it big time whenever he doesn't get his own way. we have not spoiled him and treat him exactly the same as his sister but his personality is exactly the same as my brothers so I do believe a lot of it is just his genes (or personality make-up)
Good luck Ruth, sometimes we just have to be very patient even though they can be damn frustrating.
Susan - posted on 04/23/2010
hiya i have got great way of stop saying im bored i say if you bored ive got dishes need loading beds need stripping and bath needs scrubbing before i get to 4th item they are out playing with there friends works every time
Caress - posted on 06/16/2013
I am still searching for the cure of "I am bored!" I'm a mom of 6 and a daycare provider. I have so much for all ages and skills, and yet, I have two girls (sisters) in my daycare, that I cannot please for long periods of time. So it is hard and challenging (mentally) when they are here all day without school. We flip from one activity to another every 15 minutes. So far, as a daycare provider, this is the first time I've had girls around age 11. I thought maybe I'm just not adjusted to this age range. My own daughter, when she was this age, was simple. Any other ideas, feel free to let me know.
Dominique - posted on 05/11/2010
I get that with my ten year old son. It is taxing on you since you try to do things with them all the time. What I have done is enrolled my son in extra sports outside the school field and he is able to go outside and play with his ball or other toys at any time and that I have found helps.
Steffanie - posted on 05/10/2010
Give her chorses until she stops telling you she is bored. IE "I am bored mom", say "You can go clean up the your room." If she is "bored" give her chorses until she finds something to do. Believe me, when my sons do that to me, I always can find something to occupy thier time. After she learns that bugging you she will be put to work, than she will stop bugging you.
Brigette - posted on 05/09/2010
All these bored children (mine included) are so lucky!!! That's what I tell my kids when they say they are bored, accompanied with, "I wish I could be bored, and not do anything..... you are soooo lucky. I tell you what, why don't you do what I have to do (give them my list of need to do today) and I can go and relax." I'm also very clear with them that we can do fun things when I'm done doing all of the things I need to do. Since I've taken this approach they will offer to do a chore so that we have time to do something fun.
Amanda - posted on 05/09/2010
I think we all have the same answer to this question. If my kids say that they are bored i reply that it is fantastic because i have some chores for them to help me with.
I try to make chores fun though, housework is not something that i want them to hate - as boys, i am also trying to teach them so that one day they will be helpful husbands.
An added bonus, some of the things that i have had them do to help they actually really like to do - my 13 year old often asks if he can cook a cake, some cookies, toast for our breakfast, and even bacon and eggs, and he is so proud of himself, and my 11 year old likes mopping the floors, and often asks me if he can do it for me - and he is also becoming quite competant in the kitchen.
Janet - posted on 05/04/2010
I think our natural response is to help them find something to do but they should figure that out on their own after a certain age. I find if I tell them to take some time to chill, they will think of something creative or relaxing to do. They are always so proud of themselves when they come up with something on their own like making a tent with blankets, or inventing a silly game with bowls and beans. I have 11 year old twins who fight a lot, but eventually they realize they have each other to play with, too!
Jeri - posted on 04/28/2010
First I let my children know that I don't believe in being "bored" as there's always something to do (and yes, chores if they can't find anything else!)...as for stopping them from saying "They're bored..." They have to pay me a quarter every time they say it..! That goes for their friends who are over as well...we don't allow that word to be used in our vocabulary or our house.
Darise - posted on 04/24/2010
If the chore, or craft ideas do not work remind the child of all the toys and coloring books that they have and if they are bored with them maybe it is time to go through them and get rid of them, maybe by donating them or just throwing them away. If the child is bored with their stuff then they do not need it anymore and that maybe there is someone out there that could be happy with it. Maybe their things are for younger children, I know that I am constantly going through my girls' things because they out-grow stuff or lose interest because the things are for younger kids.Something else, if you have an extremely intelligent child they get bored easy because they aren't being challenged enough. I am still working through this challenge. It's not easy, but it is an interesting and fun experience trying to keep up with her and keep on my toes with my third child who is 5, not to mention my oldest who is graduating in June. Sometimes we are the ones who need to have the imagination in order to help them. Have a "bored" box with index cards in it with different things to do on them anything from some sort of chore to a word game of what kind of words start with A... and so on, coloring or drawing a picture, writing a letter to a grand-parent, you get the idea. Have them pick something out and do it. I hope my wordy response is helpful!
Lindy - posted on 04/22/2010
SOUNDS LIKE MY GOD DAUGHTER. HER MOTHER MY NIECE CUDN'T ADDRESS THAT AS A PROBLEM. MY NIECE SORTED TO DISMISS IT N CARRY ON WITH IT DAILY.
IT IS QUITE COMMON TO HEAR THIS FRM TEENS AS IT IS A SLANG AMONGST THEM
I HAD A HEART TO HEART TALK TO MY GODDAUGHTER N ASK WHY SHE FELT 'BORED'. LET HER TELL YOU WHY. LISTEN INSTEAD OF TELLING
FIND OUT THE FACTS THEN SUGGEST THINGS THAT SHE CUD DO. IT CAN BE JUST A SIMPLE EASY TASK WITH FAMILY OR JUST BY HERSELF.
LET YR DAUGHTER KNOW THAT IT AFFECTS YOU WITH THE TERM 'I AM BORED'
BUT U CARE TO FIND OUT WHY. FOLLOW THROUGH WITH IT.
CHEERS N GOOD LUCK
Jaclyn - posted on 04/22/2010
I agree with the giving your kid a chore posts if they are bored, or threatening it. Just be careful with all the keeping them busy and entertaining them ideas, it is good to spend quality time but you also have to let them figure out how to use their imagination. They can't do that if they are always being entertained.
Athena (Tina) - posted on 04/21/2010
Keep her busy. When she says she is bored then find something for her to do. Seems most kids are bored these days......but if you keep them busy they don't have time to be bored. You can also find out if she is trying to que a conversation about something. How old is she?
Kyle - posted on 04/21/2010
This question struck me as funny because my daughter says that ALL the time. We can be on vacation having the best fun and she will say she's bored. I've come to the conclusion that she says it more out of habit than because she's really "bored."
Krista - posted on 04/21/2010
I just say thats fine thats when you find out who you really are! And its ok tp be bored. Or have a consequence for saying it like pick up a mop or broom mow the grass, something that needs done, at my house it was mateing the basket of socks.
Jill - posted on 04/21/2010
I tell my kids that boring people get bored and they need to use their minds to find something to do....read, draw, paint, play outside with friends, play a board game, or play with our pets. Then if they keep saying it I give them stuff to do...like fold laundry, empty the trash...you get the idea! (0:
Chasity - posted on 04/21/2010
My daughter says it everytime,I tell her no.Like if she wants to get on the computer or go outside.She thinks that if she says it enough,that I will give in.So whenever she says that she is bored,I suggest a chore to do.But that doesnt work either because she says that chores are boring.So we are were we started.
Jennifer - posted on 04/21/2010
I have 5 children and used to hear I'm bored all the time. I made a new rule that you either find something to do or I will give you something to do. I always have walls that need scrubbed and floors that need mopped. It very seldom happens now. I use the same rule when we are at a relatives house or out somewhere and they start saying that they will get 2 chores to do when we get home for each time they were rude to our host.They might still think it but they don't say it and they don't act it where it can be seen
Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2010
My daughter rarely says she is bored and the reason is that when she did, I would give her a chore to do that she hated. Eventually she got the hint to not complain about being bored and would find things to do herself rather than complain to me.
Christie - posted on 04/20/2010
my girls and i build puzzles, go for walks if weather permits, or just hang out on the couch sometimes with a good movie. If it seems like she wants to just bug you, and you have given her all of the above options, then find a chore for her to do, something around the house. The option to do a chore usually makes them go find something to do on there own.
Virginia - posted on 04/19/2010
I tell mine that if they cant occupy themselves then i can do it for them. Have a list of chores that they can do. I am 42 and I can remember my mom saying "you better do something constructive or I have a list of chores for you" You may have to do it a few times and they will stop it.
Shelly - posted on 04/18/2010
HAHA! My kids don't say it anymore. Everytime I hear they are bored they pick weeds out of my garden for 30 minutes and ocsasionally I would bump it to an hour if I was having to do it anyway so I would be out there with them. When they say it at night they get a bowl of water and a tooth brush and they get to brush the tile floor right at the baseboard where dust collects. So with that being said It's been about 2 years and I think I may have heard one of them say it 3 times total.
Reynelle - posted on 04/18/2010
These ladies have the right idea! I told mine that being bored was a choice... a bad choice and that I had a myriad of things that I could choice for her to do. LOL. Her imagination now knows no bounds! There is a list of daily chores and I provide plenty of craft stuff, and lots of books. "Bored" is a word that I no longer hear.
Lisa - posted on 04/17/2010
You know this is a common problem and children will say “ I am board” when they are looking for attention or they want to do something they are not allowed. For instance, if I tell my child no Game Boy for a week, surprisingly that week I hear; “I am board“. Children who no longer want to play by themselves often use; “I am board” as their way of saying play with me.
Right down to it, boredom comes from lack of imagination and willingness to do something about it. Most of the time, when children say they are board, it really means children want to be entertained.
In my house, you are not allowed to be board. When confronted with the situation, I always name off random things that the child could do to keep from being board. If I still face opposition, I find something unfavorable for them to do like cleaning the bathroom or something. You would be surprised at how many things a child can find to do instead of cleaning a toilet! Redirection with purpose is how I resolve the boredom in our home.
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