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how can i understand my 11 y son behaviors.he was good and help me in many thing ,plus he was doing things very fast now he is slowly and has a bad respond to any thing with craing.he is my first .i have 8 &5y girls and 1y boy can you help me?

MONA - posted on 03/29/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Sofia - posted on 03/29/2012

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I'm wondering if part of it is age-related. In other words, he is a pre-teen and entering pre-teen behavior. When our children are little they love to please mommy and daddy. As they get older, their focus changes and pleasing us is no longer their priority. They want to look "cool" in front of their friends and act like them. 11 is around the age when this starts.

The most important thing to remember when you have a pre-teen and a teen is to keep communication open with your kid. There's a lot of changes going on inside and you want to be able to guide him.

Did you say he cries a lot? can you give us an example of when he cries? You want to see if he is crying as a way to get out of doing things, or as a response to feeling hurt/ overwhelm etc.

When you say he use to help you and now he doesnt, do you mean he does want to do his chores? If he has chores to fulfill, then he should be expected to do them before he does something fun. If he gives you a hard time (as most kids will, that's part of being a teen) then you have to put your foot down and let him know this is what is expected from him.



I hope this helps. If you have more specific examples that would help us help you :)

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