How do I get my 10 year old to control his temper?


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My 12-year-old has a temper too. We had to reach an agreement at a time when he wasn't angry. I had to learn to be okay with him being mad and he had to learn how to be mad without being destructive or invasive of those around him. So..... I learned to not keep questioning him and trying to "pick his brain" when he became made about something and he learned to control his anger. So far it has worked great this year but it is hard. I usually want to fix his anger so I have had to learn to keep my mouth closed and allow him to feel what he is feeling. It usually passes quickly and then he is willing to talk to me about it later.

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Tanya - posted on 10/12/2009




My 8-year old has anger and aggression issues. We helped him to maintain control by using a therapy rabbit and coming up with a list of things he is good at. He also is working everyday to understand his body and what he feels just before he get mad. The written list takes his mind off of the issue at hand and calms him down, so he can deal with it calmly. We also use a small stuffed animal so he can carry it in his pocket to school and take it out when he starts to get tense. Knowing what signs to look for before your son loses his temper is a great way to help him start to understand how to keep it under control.

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