How do I get my 11 yr. old to stop bedwetting?

Cathie - posted on 02/18/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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My 11 yr. old is still wetting the bed, I believe because its easier than getting up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. She still has accidents when she goes to a sleepover....and then because she is embarrassed, she hides the wet clothes and bedding, and by the time i find it............it stinks!

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Ema - posted on 07/21/2013

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My 11 year old boy is weeing in his room, we was looking for weeks where the smell was coming from it was horrid, I don't have a clue what to do

Julie - posted on 02/24/2009

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This might sound crazy but have they had their tonsels taken out???? When I was 12 I had my tonsens taken out not because they were infected but because the doc said they were so big that when I laid down they cut off my air supply and I couldn't wake up, thus new sheets every night. Take him/her to an ear, nose and throat doctor, I know it sounds crazy but it works.

Ema - posted on 07/21/2013

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My 11 year old boy is weeing in his room, we was looking for weeks where the smell was coming from it was horrid, I don't have a clue what to do

Elizabeth - posted on 07/10/2012

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I feel your pain. Same issue here. I was going to ask if your child was a girl and I see she is. Fact is little girls bladders dont always grow as fast as the rest of their bodies. Take precautions, and wait it out. They don't give the bed wetting medications for kids anymore because of "side effects". Also, understand that bed wetting can be hereditary. Don't make her feel bad about the bed wetting or assume she does it on purpose...that is why she hides it then you get the big stink. I made that mistake. My girl is a heavy sleeper. I helped her understand it wasn't her fault, nothing to be embarrassed about if we took the proper precautions and that it would get better with time. Helped her also to understand that I was a bed wetter till I was almost 12. Mine stopped when puberty really set in good. ThANK GOD> bno drinking before bed at least an hour before, unless it is milk...it doesn't pass as quickly through the body...twice bathroom before bed...a rubber sheet on the mattress...and get her up before you go to bed to go again. If she gets into the habit of waking up to go...eventually she will do it on her own. Good luck to you...its a hard thing to go through. Just make sure she gets thoe sheets and bedding off immediately..no hiding, make that the issue and not the bedwetting itself.

Megan - posted on 10/01/2012

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First and foremost, a child truly does not wet the bed out of laziness. Typically the childs brain just does not recognize the full bladder signal while sleeping. I remember so well how frustrating and helpless I felt to help my son stop wetting the bed. He wet every single night until he was 8 years old. He just used pull ups when he was younger. I kept a no big deal attitude. When he reached age 8 the bedwetting began to lower his self esteem. He worried that his friends would find out and he want to go to sleepovers. So I talked with him about using a bedwetting alarm and we read the book Prince Bravery and Grace-Attack of the Wet Knights. He wanted to try the alarm. I purchased the malem with alarm and vibration. He slept right through it at first -which is typical of a child who wets at night. The alarm trains the brain to react to the full bladder signal. So I would wake him. Sometimes several times in one night. But gradually he began to wake by himself. And in less than three months he went from wet every single night to dry every single night. I found a lot of positive information about bedwetting and alarm use at www.braveryandgrace.com

Good luck and God Bless!



Also, I found the alarms and waterproof mattress pads at this webstore:

http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20

hope it helps!

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Steve - posted on 09/01/2014

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Hi There

Well I have been there done that ...even wore diapers at 16....

Look into what is called stress incontinence ...i had tests done etc etc..... and finally at 40 found out it was the above..

Good luck

Nikki - posted on 03/11/2014

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Restricting fluids never helped our son, and he never heard or felt the alarms. I had to wake him every two hours all night and "walk" him to the bathroom (he rarely was fully awake). After urology consults for years, and most recently a neurology consult (due to the fact that the urologists advised that he simply slept too deeply) we learned that our son's tonsils and adenoids were narrowing his airway when he slept as well as while awake. It was causing him to not get good, restful sleep, and the result was him sleeping so deeply that he couldn't awaken himself or even respond to alarms/wetness. TV on and even the night light was also contributing to his sleep issues. He started having occasional dry nights when we moved his brother into a separate bedroom, turned off his TV and night light at bedtime, but the miracle happened when he had his tonsils and adenoids removed. The ENT explained that children still have developing immune systems, so that tonsils and adenoids can be enlarged even when they're not sick at all, causing various problems from sleep disturbances to full-blown sleep apnea. Our son's bedwetting stopped completely within a week of having his adenoids removed!

Cheryl Regina - posted on 10/20/2012

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I know i have four of my grandskids , and the oldies girl is 13 and she does the same , i have ans 11 year old son that does it to, but the odies boy is 14 ans the youngies is 7 and they dont wet the bed, i know what ur going through mat God be with you....

Megan - posted on 10/01/2012

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Hi! I remember so well how frustrating and helpless I felt to help my son stop wetting the bed. He wet every single night until he was 8 years old. He just used pull ups when he was younger. I kept a no big deal attitude. When he reached age 8 the bedwetting began to lower his self esteem. He worried that his friends would find out and he want to go to sleepovers. So I talked with him about using a bedwetting alarm and we read the book Prince Bravery and Grace-Attack of the Wet Knights. He wanted to try the alarm. I purchased the malem with alarm and vibration. He slept right through it at first -which is typical of a child who wets at night. So I would wake him. Sometimes several times in one night. But gradually he began to awake by himself. And in less than three months he went from wet every single night to dry every single night. I found a lot of positive information about bedwetting and alarm use at www.braveryandgrace.com

Good luck and God Bless!



Also, I found the alarms and waterproof mattress pads at this webstore:

http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20

hope it helps!

Chelsey - posted on 09/28/2012

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We are having sort of the same issue. Our daughter is 11 be 12 in Dec. She does not wet the bed at all when she is staying the night with friends. She only does it at families houses. She is supposed to stop drinking at 730, use the bathroom 3 times before she goes to bed, and take a tsp. of honey. When she does all these things, accidents are few and far between. When she doesnt they come more frequently. She lies about them happening all the time and I find the clothes when I do laundry. She will even wear pajamas that she peed in the night before to try and make us think she didnt have an accident cause she is wearing the same pajamas another night? I need HELP PLEASE.

Brandy - posted on 08/05/2012

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My 9 year old stepson does the EXACT same thing about hiding the pee clothing and bedding! I just found a website called Drybed, and I plan to give them a call! They're an Enuresis clinic that does Treatment by phone without meds. They claim 95% success and many have stopped bedwetting within 5 months!

Sherry - posted on 07/30/2012

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Did you talk to your pediatrician? My son had this issue and the dr said it was because he must have been a deep sleeper. He recommended a enuresis (bedwetting) alarm and it helped him stop. It's a gadget that hooks to their underwear and it goes off and wakes them when it detects moisture. You use it for a period of time and then it solves the problem. Definitely talk to your dr, and if the alarm doesn't work, there may be some other kind of physical issue. There is also a prescription the dr gave that we could give him before sleepovers so he didn't wet himself. This was only a temporary thing to save them from embarrassment, and it was the alarm tat did the trick. You can google enuresis alarms, and also ask your dr because mine had a coupon.

Jen - posted on 07/29/2012

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My son wore pull-ups until he was 8 1/2. It's not really unusual. I'm confused because you said your daughter still has accidents when she goes to a sleepover in your original post, then said she didn't have accidents at sleepovers in a later post. Either way, I'm sure she's not just being lazy. No 11 year old would have an accident at a sleepover out of laziness - way too embarrassing. And even if she doesn't have accidents at sleepovers, it's probably because she's not sleeping as deeply as she is at home and wakes up more easily to go. Talk to your pediatrician - mine said that she would recommend some testing and possibly medication if bedwetting continued past 9 or 10. Talk to your daughter about it - explain that you're not angry and that she can't help it, but that the sheets need to get washed. I know a lot of people have good luck with alarms. When my son really wanted to tackle getting out of the pullup at night, we started waking him up every night - my husband would do it once and I would do it once. Before long he was able to wake himself. He's had a few accidents since then (he's 11 now) but it's pretty rare.

Monica - posted on 07/26/2012

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My twin daughters both wet the bed and wore goodnights until they were almost 10. Their doctor told us not to make a big deal about it, that most outgrow it by age 9. Age 9 arrived and they still wet the bed, they were just heavy sleepers. Last summer, just before they turned 10, we purchased each of them a Malem Ultimate Bedwetting Alarm from the online Bedwetting Store, which was even cheaper than buying them on Amazon. I was skeptical, but the reviews of this product were encouraging. In just one week, they started waking up on their own to go, but we continued having them wear the alarm for a month to be sure. It was the best investment ever! They are around $100 each, but worth every penny.

Jackie - posted on 07/22/2012

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buy her goodnites, they are much better then waking up with wet sheets. and never make fun of her or ground her because of that.

Rachel - posted on 06/21/2012

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Use bedwetting alarms they work wonders!!!! I was a wetter until 18 and had used the alarm for 10 years. This was started after I started puberty at age 8.

Margaret - posted on 03/16/2009

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I'm sure you've all probably heard this before, but have you tried no dinking after a certain time...like 6pm. I've found that this has worked for my daughter in the past.  I buy Goodnites for sleepovers to avoid embarassment. They come in large sizes (I think up to 100 lbs)



Also, I have a niece who was prescibed pills from her doctor for a bedwetting problem. Not sure what the name of the pill is but they did work for her. It may be worth checking into with your child's pediatrician...Good Luck!



 

Ruth - posted on 03/15/2009

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Children dont wet cause they are to lazy to get up.Has something in your life changed? has she always wet the bed? or just lately? I personally had problems until about the same age. But it started because my parents split. And didnt even start right away after, but several months later. Plastic sheets, pep talks that she needs, and extra sheets by her bed when she wets, she changes her wet sheets, and put the wet ones in the laundry basket, or bag by her bed. Tell she does not have to hide it. Just encourage and ask what you can do to help!!!!! Thats all i can say for right now!!!!Hope it helps!!!!

Joy - posted on 03/15/2009

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Just like I said it may be Urinary Reflex have her tested and if not then it is just her being lazy at night and not wanting to get up to go to the restroom. Cut back on drinking and hour before bed and make sure she go potty before she go's to bed. My daughter had UR and now she is not wetting the bed unless she is just lazy. You may have to just work though it but have her tested and see if the reflux is the problem or not and the uroligest will have advise if not. Good luck and God Bless

Cathie - posted on 03/15/2009

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Thank you all for your suggestions. I actually have two children that bed wet. My son did outgrow it, (he is now 13), but my daughter still wets, and its not that I mind the accident, but she hides the bedding and clothing,  and then her room smells to high heaven. I have told her that I am not angry when she wets, but she needs to bring the soiled laundry to the laundry room so it can be washed.  Sometimes she does, sometimes she hides it. When she sleeps over at a friends house, SHE DOESNT WET. I cannot understand this. This problem has been an issue since they were potty trained. I used pullups at bedtime, and wonder if that was a mistake, because they got used to the security of the pullup, and never responded to the urge to urinate.  What do u think ladies?????

Nanette - posted on 03/15/2009

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I've been there.  Is there something on her mind that is bothering her?  I started by making him go to the bathroom before bed.  When I was going through this, my friend told me to wake him up in the middle of the night to go.  Thank God I didn't have to go that far.  But still every once in a while, not all the time.

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I took my son (10) to the doctors 2 days ago for a physical and this issue came up. He wets occasionally and is embarrased also. The doc said that it is very common, just not talked about often. We stopped sleepovers because of this. I find allowing minimal drinks with dinner, bedtime around 8:30pm and always using the bathroom before bed helps. We have to be consistant because when he gets tired he usually has an accident, it's like he sleeps right through until he feels the wetness.  It has lessened with this. Even this morning he mentioned it hasn't happened since my mother in law was here which was over a month ago. I then praised him for it. The scheduling I find is so very important. Good luck!

Joy - posted on 03/04/2009

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Sorry to hear about that dose she get UTI alot. My daughter is 9 and had alot of UTI and come to find out she had the Urinary Refluxs and had to have surgery to correct it. She hasn't has problems sence her surgery. You might have her tested for that and see if that is what the problem is. Most of the time they out grow it but it is more common then we think even boys get it. I hope this helps and I hope that she ok.

Erika - posted on 02/23/2009

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Rarely does a child wet the bed because they are lazy!!! Bed wetting is not uncomon with teens they do out grow it. YOu can take them to the doctor who will send them to a specialist to check the size of blatter. It is not recomended to give less to drink as it makes the urine stonger and will burn their skin. Teach your child it is not their fault and that they must be responsible and wash their sheet or let you know. My son wet the bed every night at least once until he was thirteen then one day it just stopped. He was very responsible for his things and learned how to wash his sheets.

Denise - posted on 02/20/2009

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I have an 11 year old boy who still wets the bed.I limit his drink intake after supper ,makes sure he uses the bathroom before he goes to bed and then I will take him out to go to the bathroom at 11 or 11:30 in the night.He usually has a dry night then.

Jacquelyn - posted on 02/19/2009

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Three out of four of my children have had problems with bedwetting and I was a wetter myself so they came by it naturally! LOL Anyway, I used an alarm on one child when he was 7yo and it helped him. I tried the alarm on another son and it didn`t work. My 7yo daughter uses goodnites and is very embarrassed about it . I pretty much just wash the sheets and don`t worry about it. It is what it is.

I had medical problems and wet well into my teens. One thing that did help a great deal was a waterbed. Between being warm and cozy in the waterbed and continually moving due to the movement of the water, it cut my wet nights down by 80%.

Teach your daughter how to wash her own bedding. That way she can deal with it in privacy and feel good about cleaning up after herself and being self-sufficient.

Kathy Perez - posted on 02/19/2009

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I don't know how often your child is bedwetting but I had some challengesi with my son about 1 to 2 times a month...I was concerned he had a medical problem but the pediatrician kept saying it was normal. Sure enough he finally out grew it probably about age 12 (looking back I wonder if pubirty has anything to do with it). Until then I limited his drink intake before bed (I tried to not let him have anything at least 1 hour before bedtime) and made sure he went to the bathroom a few times before bed.. Also, I never got upset with him for an accident. He would feel embarressed when it happened so I just didn't make a big deal out of it and let him know it wasn't his fault. Good Luck!

Kathy - posted on 02/18/2009

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I'm having the same problem with my 10 year old boy. The only time he gets up is when the bed it wet and goes to another room to sleep. I've tried not to let him drink after a certain time, but it never works.

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