How do i get my 11yr old son interested in school....he just doesnt seem to care

Kimberly - posted on 06/11/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son has never taken any inititave in school. He will only do the bare minimum. He was tested for every thing imaginable and hasnt been diagnosed with anything.. I make sure his homework is done and alot of times he doesnt even turn it in. Im in constant communication with his teachers so Im able to make sure we get enough done to keep him from failing. Hes actually a very smart kid. Im a single parent..Ive tried everything...Hes involved in a great mens mentorship program which has helped a great deal. My son is a pretty humble kid and Im embarrased to say I even tried whipping him. I knew it wasnt the answer i was just at my wits end....of course it didnt work , it only resulted in him lashing back at me..he didnt hit me, it was more of a reflex than anything. I love my son sooooo much and want the best for him....The only positive role models he has are at the mentorship program. I havent held down a full time job in a year and a half because of this. Things have improved but its because of me not him....This kid needs me around...so I sacrafice....How do I help him to be more responsible....Hold him accountable..Open for suggestions....Please

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Kelly - posted on 06/12/2009

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hi there, i kind of agree with what Amy said but my 10 year old likes school when things are going well, but i have been taking note of when she "hates" it and it is only when she is having a "huge" issue, like the teacher was "mean" to her or a child that she really wanted to play with didnt want to play with her etc....other words my 10 year old is over dramatic at times, also do you spoil your child?...do they play video games/watch TV after school or does he play outside/build/create things, reward systems do work, if strictly followed through. Lots of positive reinforcemant....Goodluck!

Amy - posted on 06/11/2009

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I am a teacher myself, and I have to tell you...I don't know too many 11-year-old kids who like school. Most of them are getting into that stage where they are almost anti-school. They do just what they need to in order to get by, they just don't seem to care. I would suggest a reward system, maybe money considering his age--a certain amount of money at the end of each quarter based on his grades. If it is a substantial amount that would definitely pique his interest.

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Kimberly - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting kelly:

hi there, i kind of agree with what Amy said but my 10 year old likes school when things are going well, but i have been taking note of when she "hates" it and it is only when she is having a "huge" issue, like the teacher was "mean" to her or a child that she really wanted to play with didnt want to play with her etc....other words my 10 year old is over dramatic at times, also do you spoil your child?...do they play video games/watch TV after school or does he play outside/build/create things, reward systems do work, if strictly followed through. Lots of positive reinforcemant....Goodluck!



Hi Kelly, Its good to hear your daughter likes school. I needed to hear my reward system needs to be strictly followed through because I do drop the ball alot. There has never been any real structure in our rewards...we kinda just do stuff...and lastly the positive reinforcement...Im always scolding him...Im going to have to start with looking at half of the day and then the entire day.the week and so on....Thanks so much for your help!!!

Kimberly - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting amy:

I am a teacher myself, and I have to tell you...I don't know too many 11-year-old kids who like school. Most of them are getting into that stage where they are almost anti-school. They do just what they need to in order to get by, they just don't seem to care. I would suggest a reward system, maybe money considering his age--a certain amount of money at the end of each quarter based on his grades. If it is a substantial amount that would definitely pique his interest.


Hi Amy, Thanks for taking  time out to offer a suggestion...we have 3 weeks of school left...and I will defenitely try the reward system...social workers at school tried it before but i dont think the rewards impressed my son at all...again Thank you, Kim 

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