how do i get my ten year old to quit wetting at night ?

Sebrina - posted on 10/06/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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We dont let him have anything to drink before bed and we get him up at night and he still wet's he is a very deap sleeper we have to walk him to the toilet or he will go somewhere else dont know what to do??

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Nicole A. - posted on 10/12/2009

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ahhh i feel your pain. you would think it's something they would NEVER grow out of. firstly, dont get angry at him as if he's done something 'wrong'. sometimes i cannot be helped and he may be embarassed already. secondly, work on the liquids and having him get into the habit of using the bathroom totally before going to bed. when i say totally, that is make sure every drop is out! lol. and thirdly, see if he's anxious about school, new classes, bullies- could be something on his mind and it's coming out with the bed wetting. and, if there's a positive male influence around- consider the 'wet dream' angle. he may not be all for talking to mom about that subject, you know what i mean???

Suzie - posted on 10/10/2009

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My daughter had Tethered Cord Syndrome that caused incontinence. See a pediatric urologist for info.

Jaimee - posted on 10/09/2009

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Have you tried to find out what is causing him to do that? Has anyone ever touched him in any way? Try to talk to a doctor.

Patricia - posted on 10/09/2009

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This isn't as rare as you might think. There is a common drug that your doctor can prescribe that will get him past this time in his life. Mine took it until he was around 11 and it sure helped with sleepover embarassments. i think it is DDVAP

Julie - posted on 10/08/2009

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Talk to your Dr about it. I have a 17 year old who still has occasional wetting. They can't help it, contrary to all the stuff we learned growing up. The Drs say that eventually their brain/hormone production will catch up. In our case it seems hereditary from my husbands side. Teach them to change their bed & get it ready for laundry, etc. It's like any other disease or illness, you learn how to live with it and take care of it. (Frustrating as that may seem to us as parents).

Ksd_zine@yahoo.com - posted on 10/08/2009

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My son went until age 13. It has nothing to do with drinks before bed or waking him up ( all thought that will help him pee less)My Dr said they lack the ability to produce enough of a hormone that prohibits urine production while sleeping. All of our bodies produce this when we sleep ( that is why we are able to sleep 8-10 hours without having to go.but during the day we urinate much more often) Your body stops producing this hormone when you wake up. If you have a restless night you tend to need to pee compared to nights that you sleep well and dont pee in the middle of the night. There is a nose spray your dr can give you to help you child naturally start producing the hormone... I do not remember what it was called though. It doesnt medically help the child because no matter what his body will just out grow the lack of hormone production and be able to produce enough before adulthood. But it gives the child more confidence and the ability to feel "normal" and go to sleep overs and stuff. Good Luck

Kim - posted on 10/08/2009

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I had that problem with my son, we tried stopping him from drinking anything from 7pm on and waking him before we went to sleep around 11pm. The peditrican also suggest a pill that they can take to stop the bladder from sending the signal during the night. I suggest talking to his doctor.

Evelyn - posted on 10/07/2009

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Cut the liquids after 6 PM. That is what helped my son. We cut out any soda, juice, or milk after 6 and stick to very limited water. I also made sure I got him up every night to go to the bathroom. Figure out when during the night it generally happens and plan to get him up before then. I know that anytime between 1-5 AM was his trouble time but if I got him up sometime between midnight and 1 he would make it accident free.

Tina - posted on 10/07/2009

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My daughter was having this same problem. I brought it up to our family Dr. and they checked her over and said she would grow out of it. I was not happy with that so I brought it up with with my mom's friend who is a chiropractor. We went and saw her 6 times and have been dry since. In the begining IF we had a wet night I would make an appointment and be good again for anywhere from a month to two. Now it has been 2 years since she has been there to see her. Over all I think we went to her about 10 times. Good luck!

Julia - posted on 10/07/2009

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I found a couple of websites that might help



http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/b...(cyh).html/context/618

http://www.chw.edu.au/parents/factsheets...



Like many people have said already, it is very important to get your child thouroughly checked by a doctor. 95% of children are dry at night by the age of 10. Those that are not should be seen by a doctor. In most cases the doctor will determine there is nothing medically wrong but they can advise you on treatment. The body produces a hormone to slow the production of urine when we are sleeping. In some cases this hormone is not produced efficently. Hormone medication can control this.

All the best.

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My son didn't quit until he was 11-years-old. I took him to the doctor at the age of 9 but there was nothing medical wrong with him. Try not to make it a big deal because it will naturally end usually before the age of 12. I made my son responsible for cleaning up his mess (ie... striping the bed, putting in washing machine, making his bed, etc...). I didn't belittle him, just made him responsible.

Kenitra - posted on 10/07/2009

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Limit not only the beverages, but more specifically, carbonated beverages.



Inform your child, and their teacher that when they have the first urge to go to the bathroom, let them. Do not make them hold it. What happens when your child tries to hold it, the bladder muscles become too strong during the day, and the only time it can relax is when they are sleeping. Go to the bathroom frequently during the day too!



Getting them up during the night is not training them, it is training you. Don't bother. They will eventually outgrow it.



My mother genetically had a bladder that was too small, so it didn't hold much. She would occationally wet the bad as an adult, too. Make sure you take them to the doctor just to make sure they do not a have an infection, or something else.

Terri - posted on 10/07/2009

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I am going through the same thing right now. My son is 10 and wets every night. We have started to set an alarm at midnight and even that isnt helping, he did get up and go but was still wet in the morning. We have talked to his doctor in the past but I think its time for another visit. Im getting so frustrated because my son doesnt seem to mind the problem. AND he will throw his wet clothes on the floor so now his carpet is disgusting. GRRRR

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Talk to your child's pediatrician this could be a medical problem. You can also try cutting off all beverages after 6pm and make sure they use the bathroom before bed.

Lori - posted on 10/06/2009

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my son did the same thing i did everything you tried belive me he will just grow out of it my son is 13 now he stopped right before he was 11.

Nichole - posted on 10/06/2009

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Don't let him drink after 7pm, have him go before he goes to sleep. If he still wets his bed, then he just has not fully developed yet. Boys are lat in this.

Jodi - posted on 10/06/2009

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Sebrina, my step-son is 10 1/2 and he has only just started to be dry at night. We had tried everything. Basically, it just a maturity issue, and is very common, particularly with boys. It also has a tendency to be genetic (my husband was a bedwetter until he was about 10), so is there someone else in the family who wet their bed until a late age? If so, this may give you an indication on when it will stop.



Firstly, you need to eliminate that it is a medical issues, so make sure you take him to see a doctor about it.



There are various methods you could use - there is an alarm system that works in many cases (it didn't for us), so if you haven't tried that, ask your doctor for more information.



Other than that, you just need to wait it out. Because we tried everything, we used pull ups (you can buy them for bigger children) at night, because it didn't matter whether he had them or not, he would still wet the bed. In time, he will be dry.



Whatever you do, don't punish him for it. At 10, he really wants to be dry too, punishing will not change anything and may, in fact, make him feel bad about it, which is not what you want. I'm sure he already feels bad enough about it without anyone adding to that. Just make sure he realises he is not alone, other boys wet their beds too, and that eventually, he won't any more.

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