How do I help my son not get picked on at school?

Tracy - posted on 07/27/2009

It is so hard to look in their eyes and see the pain from being bullied or misunderstood. Keep loving and talking and keep after the school. The best thing my boys have found is to find friends who like them for who they are and I encourage those relationships. The next best thing for my middle schooler was to find a teacher who became his safe person. I did not help to involve the principal. The teacher allowed him to come to her class if kids were pushing him around in the hall or making fun of him. She gave him late passes to get to other classes and not be penalized. She gave him the confidence that someone had his back at school and would help him out.

Sandrine - posted on 07/26/2009

Same with my son.... but I told him to stand up for himself and he did... He show no fear and told the other kid that if he don't stop he will kick his ass ;) and now they are friend... You can't always be there for them and they do have to learn one day to be strong even if you know that they never will hurt a fly!
Good luck with your son

Priscilla - posted on 07/26/2009

teach ur son that he is unquie there is no1 like him and that the kids picking on him is jealous cause what he have and how smart he is. i was on both side the one to get pick on till i started defending my self. then i started picking on the kids who were bothering me and i would get them where it would hurt there feelings and the school call hm. my mom would say when it was her u did not care dont care now that shes doing it back there parents c how i felt when my child came hm. deal with it. keep calling the school the board and most of all keep a diary of it so if u have to go to the police u have proof and get every1 name and time u spokewith them. also try the parent advocate of the school.

Becky - posted on 07/23/2009

I have 4 children who all have different personalities and every one of them have been made fun of at one time or another. Let your son know that every kid gets teased about something so he knows he is not alone. My boys are both very good at sports but they are picked on because they are bigger than the other kids. They also have lots of friends. Even with these advantages, I still cannot count on both hands and feet how many times they have come home crying because they were teased at school. Have you tried Boy Scouts or a church youth group? Sometimes these groups have more supervision and less tolerance for bullying.

Jennifer - posted on 07/23/2009

"Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child"



Instill a healthy sense of humor and stay very actively involved in his daily life. Nothing combats peer pressure like a secure and safe relationship with the closest family members. Perspective too, as he becomes an adult, this problem will diminish, kids can be such idiots sometimes and so mean, teach him that any derogatory remarks from kids has more to do with their own ignorance and lack of upbringing before it ever has anything to do with him.



I wish him well, besides, he'll be the one to get the pretty, intelligent girl and give you lots of grandkids when he's grown up, while the jerk kid bullies most likely flounder.

Christine - posted on 07/23/2009

He just like me son and he now 13. Give him time the word is hes a " sweet boy" and kids pick up on that. I wouldn't want my son any other way. He wear glasses has freckels, is smart and has a heart problem.And one day at school he did do something about it. All i could say to the school was didn't you see it coming? The kids now see him in a different way and are not so quick to judge .The teachers finally took notice of the problem he was having .

love him, be there for him and most of all trust him to make the right choise for him good luck

Shelley - posted on 07/22/2009

My son was picked on in 6th grade and it was terrible! It's a shame that your school will not enforce a "no bully zone" policy. Have you gone to the district yet? There is some great information on the web for bullying. Instead of moving, is there another school he can attend? What grade is he in?

Mientjie - posted on 07/22/2009

It does not help to move him. There will always be some kid that's picking on him. The best thing that happend to my kids, were the day they started selfdefence. Not that they pick on others now, but they have the knowledge to let it go. The moment they stoped wining about the bullys, the bullys stoped picking on them. Cause, they want the attention.

Jill - posted on 07/20/2009

I can relate I was the child that everyone picked on..I would come home crying to the point that I just hated school..My parents did same thing by talking to teachers etc but nothing seemed to work..I just toughed it out till I was finished with school..Now this is only my opinion since I am a adult now.. No mater where you put your child in school there's always going to be bullies..And try not to worry about the future,,I hope this advice helps..Hang in there and give your child lots of love and tell him that not everyone is like that. Kids always seem to pick on someone...Jill

Tracy - posted on 07/20/2009

As long as he is okay about it dont worry he will come into his own, ask the school to do an asembly about diabetes so that the kids understand it a bit more, trying to be the class clown is such a boy thing to do, my son is 11 he tells us that he has mousey hair, freckles and funny teeth and we have had a bit of bullying going on in the shape of football and after a lot of input from the head and parents it was sorted out, be proud of him he sounds fantastic, my son has turned the corner he will be getting a brace and i have told him the freckles are part of being a kid and he is fantastic. he is off to secondary school in september and cant wait.

Crystal - posted on 07/19/2009

My son is very little because of medical issues and he feels that he needs to make everyone laugh to fit in. He is a very sweet loving boy but because of his size he gets picked on. We put my son in karate to help him feel that he can defend himself. He is not allowed to fight contact with others but you learn a lot of self discipline and confidence in karate. I do not justify fighting but I do feel that they need to have the confidence to stand up and say "Leave me alone!" My son has only been in karate for one year and is already a green belt. He loves it and does well with it. He is not really into other sports but this works well for him.

Heather - posted on 07/19/2009

As a teacher, I agree with Cath. Avoid talking to the other children's parents, as they are bound to be defensive and often a bit blind to their own child's behavior. The school needs to take action. Be persistent with the principal and the classroom teacher. Our school district has all the kids sign an bully-free pledge at the beginning of each year and at the middle school they have anonymous boxes that kids can put bullying complaints and then the administration follows up on it, so the child who is being bullied can remain anonymous. Talk to your school guidance counselor too. He or she should have resources and ideas to help you. Encourage your son. Getting him involved in something he likes is a great idea too. Have you considered karate? It is great for improving self-esteem and confidence.

Cath - posted on 07/19/2009

you should persist in talking to approriate staff at his school....their job is to help resolve issues so our children are happy and receptive learners!! keep going in til they take notice of your concerns. i would advise against aproaching parents of other children and this takes it out of the school domain and may interfear with the policy the school may take up do deal and rectify your concerns. i hope this of help.

Jackie - posted on 07/19/2009

It could be something as simple as getting your son involved in extra curricular activities. Just because he's not really into sports, doesn't mean there's nothing for him to do. Look into what types of activities your school district, and neighborhood offer. If you keep your child busy, he'll find something that he loves to do, and a group of kids that can appreciate him for his individuality. You can try you local library, or even the entertainment section of your newspaper. And remember, kids are very good at holding their hurt in. You may see him taking it 'with a grain of salt', but make sure you continue to ask him about his day, and be interested in what he has to say. If the bullying persists or gets worse and the school's not doing anything about it, contact your local authorities or news station for assistance. Hope that helps!