how do i know if my child is depressed and not just seeking attention

Tammy - posted on 09/20/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




my daughter is 11 yrs. she has been saying things such as i hate myself and i just want to die. she got grounded this week for lying to me.(which she has'nt been grounded for ages) she went to her room and cried for hours then she wrote me a note that said i hate myself and i want to die. last night i told her it was time for bed she went to her room crying and came out telling me she just wants a knife to stab herself. she is sad sometimes but i never heard those type of words coming from her. i dont know if she is just mad about being grounded or needs help. if she is looking for attention what can i do and if she is depressed how do i go about finding help?


Kattia - posted on 09/25/2011




I agree with Kimberly. Something is definitely going on. This time in a girl's life is full with physical and emotional changes. I would sit her down and reassure that you love her and want to help her with whatever is going on in her head. If she can't talk to you then try having her write down what's going on. This works great for my 11 yr daughter. She'd let me read it then we'd talk. If not, then I'd suggest that you turn to her pediatrician and school. I hope you get to the bottom of this.

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Richelle - posted on 10/02/2011




I would definitely get her some help, at least someone to talk to if she doesn't feel she can talk to you. She may be having hormonal issues that are throwing her completely for a loop, or she may be bullied at school. Stay calm, but also don't dismiss what she says as seeking attention. Good luck.

Kimberly - posted on 09/20/2011




Well she is upset about something, maybe the grounding or something else and she probally doesnt know how to deal with it so she is feeling very overwhelmed. 11 is an age where alot is going on in there heads and changes are taking place. I wouldnt hurt if she could talk to someone, most schools have counslors that talk to the kids in private or you can look at places outside of school. If she will talk to you then great but sometimes kids open up better to people who they dont have a family line to. Good luck with it all and just remember to show her support and that you are there if she ever does want to talk about it

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