How do you discipline a 14 year old boy that thinks he runs the show?

Susan - posted on 04/20/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son has been getting in to trouble in school since about September 2009. He is now in his 3rd school and has acouple of disorderly conduct charges on him. What do I do? He thinks he is the person in charge.

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Rose - posted on 06/11/2013

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Gen - posted on 06/02/2010

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I work at a juvenile jail. If he has not had to do anytime yet take him for a visit. Let the workers there show him what being there is like. If he has been to one and you bail him out dont do it next time. Let him sit there for a cpl days and see what it is like to be in jail.

Bonnie - posted on 05/25/2010

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So do you think Parents should stay home when their kids are between 13-18 years old. Rather when they were younger. And, be more involed with their high school and more avaible to the teenager.

Renee - posted on 05/09/2010

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I'm with Lynn Taylor on this one; take him to the local jail house for a field trip...let him know this is the direction he's heading.

Lynn - posted on 05/09/2010

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send him 2 jail...No punt intended he will either get with the program or be part of one..let them scare him him hopefully that will work...good luck

Susan - posted on 05/07/2010

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Thanks for that advise everyone. I am tring to communicate with him by being more open. Yes he does has a bare bedroom. We will see how everything goes. Again thank you

Carrie - posted on 04/20/2010

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When my daughter went through this except the disorderly conduct charges, she was a little younger. I was at my wits end and had tried everything I could think of. One day her school councelor called about her behavior. I gladly set up a meeting, she helped me come up with the idea that I needed to set up clear behavior standards and punishments. I went over them with my daughter and stuck to them. I called her teachers told them what I was doing and asked them to call me if there were any problems. She always had the chance to explain herself and when I would set up a meeting with the teacher and us to discuss the issue, (if she blamed the teacher or kids at school) we found that there were times she was in the wrong and times she was misunderstood because of her past actions. Either way the punishment still stood. Even when her actions were misunderstood she still did what ever got her introuble in the first place. It took time and her teachers were great to take time from their day but her behavior got better. Myself and the teachers knew more about what was going on and she felt more comfortable with herself to get out of situations she knew would get her into trouble. I think she started to feel heard by me and her teachers. And she knew there was no lieing her way out of anything ( we found she was lieing to me and the teachers) when we were all in a room together.

Shona - posted on 04/20/2010

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I'm not sure what discipline measures you have tried so far.. but first I would take away everything he cherishes... cell phone, I-pod, any gaming system, etc... for as long as you feel necessary for the crime committed.. I have actually done this and had to ground my 12 year old daughter to her room for attitude issues. I don't know how severe his attitude issue is but if it's really really bad, you may want to consult a counselor and try to find out what is making him act out and maybe they can give you other punishment ideas suitable for his behavior.

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