Shellie - posted on 04/29/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
We've taken him to the Dr and to mental health counseling. they state he has depression and he is now on medication. My question is how do you safely discipline a child with depression? When he refuses to go to school, we of course take away his video games, computer usage etc...but then he pulls the "my life sucks, I want to kill myself" stuff. (this is what landed us in therapy to begin with) without anything to do at home, he just goes to his bed and sleeps for 12 hrs +. We've tried positive reinforcement and punishment but nothing works on him because he doesnt care about anything either way. He says he doesnt care about graduating from high school, doesnt really want a job anyway and plans on living with us forever. doesnt want a girlfriend, doesnt want to ever get married or own a car or a home. there is absolutely no motivation for anything. My husband doesnt want to punish him anymore for skipping school because when we do he usually runs away from home and stays gone for hours at a time or he talks the suicide talk. he is afraid tough love will cause him to actually do something we as parents will regret. and about the truancy issue in Michigan. If your child misses too many days...it's the parents that have to go to court and pay the fines and face possible jail time, not the child! We told him this and he thought it was funny. He refuses to do chores and doesnt get an allowance anyway..so can't take money away from him as an incentive to mind us. Anybody out there have a teen with severe depression?