Cindy - posted on 02/22/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )
My 12 year old is a nice kid. He is pretty bright and has a pretty good attitude. He is polite. I have heard great things from neighborhood parents. From the outside looking in I have really nothing to complain about. But... all he wants to do is play computer games, video games, stay inside, watch TV. We have put him in all kinds of team sports. He's not really athletic and that is okay, but he doesn't even try. His teammates and friend get frustrated and he doesn't really care. It doesn't seem to bother him that he is letting people down. He takes karate and does pretty well with that while he is there, but won't practice at home. He is a green belt, but could have easily been a higher rank if he cared to. He doesn't want to excell at anything. I don't care what he cares about as long as he will care about something. He won't practice anything. Even his computer stuff - he is always looking to cheat the system and get something for nothing. He is a b student, but imagine if he cared to do his homework or study for a test. He waits for the very last minute to do projects and I find myself bailing him out so he doesn't look foolish. I told him this was the last time I would help him catch up and I would let him fail next time. I hope I can keep strong. I really dont wants him to fail, but I don't really know how to teach him to 'want' to do well as something.
Is this typical for a 12 yr old boy. Any suggestions would be great.