How do you get a child who refuses to do homework or to hand it in to get it done and hand it in als


Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2010




Many schools have a system where the child has to take a paper to each teacher and have them sign it to say that they turned in their homework, the teacher will also write the assignment for the next day on the sheet. Talk to your child's counselor to see if they have such a program at your school.

This tool will allow you to see what homework was assigned and you can ask your child to see the homework to see that it is finished. If it is not finished, do not allow your child to do anything. No television, No friends, no phone calls, no ipod. Nothing until he/she gets it done and can show you that it is finished. If you get the sheet back and it shows that he did not hand in an assignment, take away a privilege or an activity he/she enjoys until the assignment is turned in.

* be aware that these are tactics that can be used in Middle School. By the time a child is in High School, it is best to back off and let them fail a class. If they have to retake the class or school year, then they will eventually learn to turn things in. Be sure to let them know that if they fail a class and the school wants to promote them anyway, that you will be sure to have the school hold him/her back. This is not a punishment but to ensure future success. Each class builds on the previous class and if they pass him/her without him/her being efficient in the class, they are setting the child up to fail future classes. (make sure you let them know that you will not allow the school to advance him/her if he/she does not pass all their classes)

Tanya - posted on 04/23/2010




I have child I am going through the same thing with and we have tried everything! Even having her assignment book signed by each teacher and nothing has worked. If anyone has the answer please let me know.

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Renee - posted on 05/09/2010




I had the same problem with my son for years, I had tried everything from nagging, to not letting him do anything but homework, grounding, you name it. Finally tired of all the homework hassles, I finally told him "do what you're gonna do". You want to go outside and play, fine, just get your work done before bed. When I stopped nagging, I noticed he took the initiative. Especially when it came down to wanting to play baseball at school and couldn't because of his grades; he finally got it up there and my praises about his grades motivated him further. When you find the niche that works for the child, that is what motivates him/her, they usually find a way for themselves.

Carol Ann - posted on 05/06/2010




Simple, I have a 12 year old son who of course would rather be doing something other than homework! : ) But what I implemented is he start doing his homework when he gets home from school. And if he starts giving you lip all you need to say is, "If you dont do your homework now, you will lose a privilege such as TV, cell phone, computer, video games for that day. No need to get into so much detail about the importance of homework, just give him instruction and most of all "STICK TO YOUR GUNS!!" and always follow through with the consequence. Good Luck! We almost have our son coming home and doing his homework without telling him "What should you be doing right now?"

Angie - posted on 05/04/2010




we had a big problem with this with my 6th grader all year untill just recently.It an organization problem with him. He know what he has to do but either leaves it at school or "forgets" he has it to do. We did a few things with alex to get him more organized. first we gave him an incentive and consequece for not doing his work. He really wanted to go to the local summer camp.But in order to do this he had to be productive in school. well he wasnt and so cant go. second we would go to his school and get everything out of his locker. Its amazing what they have in there. if they cant find it its iin the Third, we check his agenda every night. but ultimaltly it is the childs resposibility to bring his homework home. He has finally turned it around and now has all A's. My baby is maturing!!!

Shelly - posted on 04/23/2010




You have to take the rest of the world away during homework time! My kids know when they get home from school its snack time and then off for homework so we can have family time later. My daughter is 13 going on 14 and sometimes we don't get to the family time but it's never a complaint because they know school is where it's at. They are both straight A students and my daughter has been since day 1. She prides herself on her work and isn't afraid to ask for help.

Her father does her homework with her and makes sure she understands what and why she is doing in the assignment. If they don't understand it they aren't going to want to do it.

Also the rule in our house is no TV or playing outside until homework is done so if you want to make it take all night thats up to you. And absolutely NO VIDEO GAMES during the week PERIOD!

Seems to work for us.

Hanife - posted on 04/22/2010




my advice would be to allocate time with your child and show the child how interesting the work is or pretend the work is good in order to encourage your child to do the work.Make sure your praise your child if neccessary go over the top depending on age group. If this is unhelpful then try talking to your childs teacher. good luck

Van - posted on 04/21/2010




this is really hard esp that I also have a 8month old baby and we dont have a nanny. Both my hubby & I are working. So you get d picture of our daily lives.
my solution: I got him a tutor

Kyle - posted on 04/21/2010




We have been struggling with this for years. Having my son write in his assignment book and have the teachers sign it each day has worked out the best of all the different approaches tried, but even that doesn't work 100% of the time. Ultimately the kid has to learn to do it. Our big problem is the lying about what really needs to be done and then doing it...and then comes the really hard part, like you said, turning it in! I can't understand spending the time to do something and then just plain not turning it in. I will never get that one.

Tracey - posted on 04/21/2010




Does your school have a homework club? My son's school has an after school club where children who have difficulty with homework ( any reason from no space at home, no computer at home, has difficulty understanding it) go and work with a teacher and a couple of teaching assistants for an hour, then they do something fun so it is not like a punishment having to go there.

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