How do you get teenagers to go to school without having to call the truancy officer and cops?


Amy - posted on 03/11/2009




My 14 year old is one of those kids that thinks school is optional.  We have taken away EVERYTHING...her room is only slightly more comfortable than a prison cell.  She has no cell phone, and if she doesn't go to school, she doesn't get computer time either.  I have called the police to escort her to school roughly a dozen times, until police dispatch told me that getting my child to school is not their responsibility.  She has been reported as a runaway 4 times....each time, she is brought home with a lecture.  She was taken to the hospital on a 72 hour psych watch, only to be released 3 hours later.  We have a School Attendance Review Board meeting at the police department this afternoon, but I am fully prepared to be disappointed in the results, as we had 2 of these meetings last year.  I am on the verge of turning her over to the juvenile court system, as she totally has no respect for my authority at all...she ignores everything she is asked to  do.  Good luck to you, I am right there with you!

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Chelle - posted on 03/12/2009




Oh yes Ihave the same prob.. with my 17yr...and I did that very thing...he sure didnt liek it at all, cuz all hiss friends were givng him the jives...we stillhave the occasionall unexcuse absence, but nothing like it was before.

User - posted on 03/12/2009




You walk into their room wearing extremely tacky "mom" stuff.  It helps to have your hair in rollers.  Then you threaten to go WITH them to school if they can be reliable enough to show up on their own.  Be prepared to make good on the threat.  You shouldn't have to go twice!

Jamie - posted on 03/11/2009




My kids are not that old yet, but for  me(never wanted to go to school). The school did call the truancy offier to get me back on. Kids don't think about long term.In the long run they will look back and wish they did better in school.Trust me!!So I would call the truancy officer let the kids know you care and its the best thing for them now and in the long run.

Lisa - posted on 03/11/2009




You could take away stuff that is important to them and if you've tried that, then maybe calling the truancy officer and/or cops would put it in better perspective for them. There is no good solution to this one. As a mom who has brought up 3 teenagers, two of whom were step kids and each and every one of them who was difficult in their own way, it's hard to make them do anything. My youngest who is 13 has yet to show defiance like this. But, he and I have a good relationship and have had one since birth. The others were products of divorce and the two step kids went through a lot of abuse as children on their mother's end. There comes a time when you have to say "I've done my best". They think they are old enough to make decisions on their own, but some day it will come back and bite them in the butt and they will be sorry they defied you.

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