How do you tell your 11 year daughter about the changes shes going through?

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Glenda - posted on 02/16/2010

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The book is a great help. Anytime my daughter asked me a question from a very young age, I would answer her honestly with only the details needed at that particular age. Now 11 my answers were muffled by her covering her ears, lalala, that's gross. Then recently she entered the world of womanhood and our talks are more in depth. Even though I prepared her for that day, it was still frightening and emotional for her. You will know what your daughter is ready to know and what needs to wait for another time. It's a tough time for them, hormones and emotions run high and they don't understand why or what they are going through. With school and peer pressure on top of it all, it's alot to deal with. They need the facts, we need to be there with comfort and understanding.

Amy - posted on 02/16/2010

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My favorite is a book by American Girl called "all about me". It helps you tell her whats going on and has answers for questions that even I didn't think about. i got it at Barnes and Noble for about 8 dollars. I then left the book with her to let her read when she wants and come to me with questions when she needs.

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Gina - posted on 03/04/2010

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My 11 year old was turning into a young woman from about 10,so bit by bit i told her how her body is changing,i didnt want her to get a period without out her knowing why.She was very scared so i explained just enough to let her know what was going on and why her body changes,even knowing what a period was didnt stop her crying for a while when it did happen,it broke my heart when she begged me to stop it all i could do is explain again and tell her its normal.I wiped her tears and held her while she got her head around it and she knows she can ask me anything no question is stupid and i wont laugh, though i have to admit i did when she asked if she can be a boy instead!

Fiona - posted on 03/03/2010

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buy her the book ...ready steady grow...have it for my eleven year old .its both girls and boys ..its easy reading not to much detail but the basics ..i gave it to him to read himself and told him to come talk about any thing he wanted to ..it took him a week or so being a bit shy or embarrsed but now he reads when he wants to and comes and chats as if we were talking bout weather ...i think its great ..

Andrea - posted on 03/03/2010

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I researched on Amazon UK and found a really good book called " girls only- all about periods and growing up. It was only £4.99 and I gave it to my twin girls when we had a girly morning painting nails and face masks. Just be honest and let your daughter ask questions and if she doesn't want to talk about it at least you can give her the book and say if you need to chat I always here. good luck

Christina - posted on 02/20/2010

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I just feel like you should just be honest and tell her everything that she needs to know. Because if you do not tell her the right way, someone else will tell her the wrong way.

Rebecca - posted on 02/19/2010

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I was told about a book by American Girl that explains to girls what is going on with their bodies. I bought mine at Target. It is wonderful. My daughter and I would read it together and talk about any questions she had.

Nancy - posted on 02/18/2010

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The American Girl book is great. Also ask questions of your own so you know exactly what she is asking...Sometimes to much information is not really the "right answer"

Shilpa - posted on 02/18/2010

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try to find out her feelings &queries about her changes and guide her according to it.its imp to know whats going in her mind then half of ur work is done.

Melissa - posted on 02/16/2010

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Just be honest .When they ask a question just answer it .By chance one day we were driving on a particular road and my 13 yr old daughter and 10 yr old son asked a puberty based question .So now they have named it sex talk road .Whenever we are on it the usually fire one at me .I have always told my kids they can talk about it to us or nan or pop or their aunties-if she feels she can not ask me, but that is it .It should never be a taboo subject .

Kim - posted on 02/16/2010

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I bought my oldest daughter the Care and Keeping of You book (it might be the same one as listed below). I read it through and then had my daughter read it and then we talked about everything together. It was a fantastic resource and I will be using it again soon with my 9 year old.

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