HOW IS IT DEALING WITH AN 11 YEAR OLD,DOES IT GET BETTER OR WORSE?

Maria - posted on 11/29/2009

Well my son does get an attitude and gets some of his priviledges taken away also he wants to be by himself alot. No hes still not getting any pubic hair but he is getting hair on his legs and he does'nt like it at all. I have talked to him about those things happening to him and he thinks thats nasty. I am a single mother and I try and be open with him so he can be aware of it.

Maria - posted on 11/29/2009

Well thanks for the advice,I think what you'r saying makes alot of sense. I'm so sorry to make you cry but most of all I give you credit for raising a gentlemen.

Aleta - posted on 11/25/2009

I've had two boys live through being 11, but it was a tough year. One had lots of anger; a friend told me it was testosterone and normal. My second had a lot of moodiness; reminded me of myself starting adolescence. Forgive my forwardness, but does he have pubic hair starting to grow? This confirmed that there were hormones kicking in. The under arm hair was next, then the facial hair. My fourteen year old is now shaving.
As far as advice, they are individuals. Keep expectations reasonable and encourage him as much as possible.

Charlene - posted on 11/24/2009

I have had a hard time lately with my just turned 12 year old.I have tried a new thing the past few days with giving him choices,since I always seem to be telling him what to do.I get good results and he choosing which way or time he wants to do it.But it must get done without complaing and moaning or talking back.Stand your ground,the mouth gets aggravating dont accept the back talking.We have had our rounds over that.He has lost a lot of priveledges these past months.I am learning not to make everything a battle,although it is hard.Be loving and caring and always tell him you love him,he will back away now but my son still cuddles with me when no one is around.Except when he is out he will not be as close as he was but if your lucky like me when your alone your boy wants to be close.Good luck.

Jackie - posted on 11/23/2009

At 11 my son started to seperate himself from me. He was very much a mama's boy prior to that. His behavior also started to change-he tested boundries to see how far he could go. I want to say it gets easier but unfortuanately that was not true for me. My son is now 17 and he has tested boundries and tried out his independence for the past 6 years. Just remember to make it clear what you just are not going to tolerate. Accept that boys pull away from affection the older they get and remember no matter what is happening to tell your son you love him so much. Mine is finishing up his senior year and I feel he has learned so much during his testing years and he is ready to be an adult. I think I stayed strong where I needed to and regardless of how much he pulled away from me I reminded him constantly that he was loved. Great, now I am crying because I know I did the best I could for him and now it is almost time to watch him go off on his own. He will be an amazing adult!