How Old Should a Girl be to shave her legs?
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Deborah - posted on 09/23/2012
Jonathan Hutt, I can see how you would feel that way, being a single parent of a pre-teen girl. However, I am also a single parent with 5 children, 3 of which are grown and on their own successfully, so, I have the personal experience of having been a young girl, I have been a mentor to several pre-teen and teen girls and boys, and know how SHE feels when the kids are calling her names and making fun of her.
My point is simply this,
Kids are maturing much faster than they used to, they are bombarded with images and media hype everyday so they have been exposed to many more stressors than we were when we were kids. Adolescence is a tough time for everyone involved, but we, as parents and responsible adults must weigh ALL the factors involved when we consider what is best for our children, not just our personal feelings, but also theirs...they are in a phase that can help them build confidence and faith in themselves to make the right choices, or they can have their spirits and feelings hurt to the point they will rebel and do what they want anyway. This is really just one of the first steps to "womanhood" for your daughter to deal with, a small one at that, if she feels you trust her judgement and support her in her decisions, she will trust you and herself more, overall a win-win for both of you.
I commend your single fatherhood feelings and love for your daughter that is evident, but I respectfully disagree with your opinion, as you see most of us do by our replies on this issue. Being a man, you can't be fully sympathetic with her feelings because you won't know she really feels, and she really needs to know she has her fathers support, trust, and love, no matter what little decisions she is allowed to make for herself. If she doesn't get loving, respectful support from you, she will look for it elsewhere, eventually.
Good luck to you both, and God Bless you and yours!
SUSAN - posted on 04/26/2011
Hi Linda, I felt the same way.. My daughter was 10 1/2 when she started only because she has very dark hairy legs. It was summer and she didnt want to wear a bathing suit.. I thought that was too young to shave, but it was making her very uncomfortable, so I bought her a battery operated razor for teens. She shaves them maybe once a month now, so it work out.. I guess it really just when she is ready. I hope that helped in some way.. Good Luck!
Jonathan - posted on 09/23/2012
Deborah Cantrell, 11 years old is way to young for a daughter to choose for herself. Parents need to make that decision based on how their daughter is maturing, is she maturing faster at a younger age then other girls? I'm not sure what gaining faith in ones self has to do with personal Hygiene? I am a single father with a 9 year old daughter, and if I was to let her choose when to start shaving, she would be shaving by now. She gets teased at school by other kids because she has hair on her legs. They call her Chewbaka, and sasquach, big foot, and mustach girl. It breaks my heart...However, From what I have read if a girl starts shaving too young her skin can become irritated due to the fact that pre-teens skin is still developing and is more sensitive. These are the reasons you cannot let your Daughters make there own choice until they are mature enough. There are other ways to instill confidence in your Daughter, but shaving really has nothing to do with that.
Melissa - posted on 05/18/2011
thanks for asking this question. My 11 y.o. asked me before she turned 11 when she should start and told her not yet. I dont know where that response came from, lol. maybe i just wasnt ready! I'm so glad to hear that other moms are getting this question at this age too. Now i am wondering if i should approach her or wait for her to ask again....
Deborah - posted on 05/08/2011
She will start to be self conscious about her looks, let her decide when you thinks she is ready. Give her support and let her know it is her decision to make, it is her body, and she alone gets to choose what should be done to it. That will encourage her to put her personal hygiene in order with her thoughts and feelings. It will also let her know that you love and support, and trust her to make those decisions for herself. A little encouragement and support from you will give her faith in herself.
Alison - posted on 05/03/2011
If she's old enough to ask, then it's something she's conscious of.. I'd say she's probably old enough. If it helps make it special.. go out and show her what to use and let her pick out razors/shaver and cream/gel. Good luck! :)
Margaree - posted on 05/03/2011
My daughter is going to be 12 in three weeks, She has been shaving her legs for a year now. She has very hairy legs so depending on your daughter's amount of hair, ability with a razor, and comfortableness any age is appropriate.
Anna - posted on 04/27/2011
I myself, waited until my daughter showed the interest in doing this. Now that she is 12, she is more aware of her body and maintaining it. She now has underarm hair and so weekly shaves both her arms and legs. Since she is only 12, I have her use an electric shaver so that the risk of her getting cut is reduced and she feels more comfortable.
Theresa - posted on 04/27/2011
My sister had my niece use Nair for a year when she first wanted to shave. After the year of Nair she started letting her shave. I thought it was a good compromise. She got to get rid of the hair, but it gave her an extra year to grow up before she stared using a sharp object to hack at her legs with. LOL I cut myself tons of times when I was young so I thought it was a great idea.
Beth - posted on 04/26/2011
My daughter had thick blonde hair on her legs, and when she was 10 made a point of coming to me and telling me 'Mom, I think it's about time for me to start shaving.' I had to laugh, because she was SO serious, with her hands on her hips, and this serious look on her face, I took her to the drug store and we did make a big deal out of it, since it is something of a 'rite of passage' for girls. I bought her a good razor, a set of blades, shaving gel for ladies in the scent she chose, and special lotion for after shaving. Then we went home and had a lesson on how to shave properly without cutting herself to ribbons. We laughed and I told her stories about shaving my legs for the first time, cutting my ankles and having to wear bandaids under my socks, and how one day soon she would have to start shaving under her arms too. She was already using deodorant, but not ready to shave there yet. We had a really enjoyable time bonding there on the side of the tub, and I'm glad I have that memory. Sometimes making special occasions out of these things is the right way to go...you only get this chance once, don't miss it!
Jenn - posted on 04/26/2011
I think that whenever she reaches a point where it is affecting her self esteem and self image is a gopod time to start. I remeber being in junior high and the girls in my gym class teasing me because i had hairy legs, I was so humiliated util my mom finally let me shave, I was in grade five or six. I think that if she wants to do it to be cool or try to be grown up then not so much, but if it really makes her uncomfortable or she is being teased etc, then sure why not. I think eleven years old is an ok age to shave your legs. Go pick out a cute razor with her and give her a lesson, then its up to her from there.
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