Ilene - posted on 03/14/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My duaghter is overall a great kid. Most parents are alway commenting on how well she was with them and her teachers have always shared how respectful she is in the classroom. I never seem to have problems or issue when she has friends over. But she seems to get in trouble when she's around her cousins. Over the weekend we visited a family memeber in the hospital. In this waiting room there were two kids rooms, she (10yrs old) and about 3 cousins (9-12yrs olds) girls were in one of the kids waiting rooms. We heard a loud group scream. It was very loud. Went over to the room, looked right at my daughter and asked if she was part of that scream. She said yes. I asked her to stand up and come over to me. As she was walking up to me, she says, it wasn't my idea. I looked straight at her and said, we're here for an emergency, in a hospital visiting. I also said we're not in a playground. I asked her to get her belongings and come and sit with me, because I'm dissappointed that she was part of this and I said it was just plain rude. I was so upset (but I didn't yell at my daughter, but I do have a strong tone) and of course the other kids heard this. I was also the only one parent who went to check on this. None of the other Moms got up to talk to their girls. She came over and sat with me. Within a few minutes, one of my cousins (who had a daughter in the room)...asked me to walk outside with her. She started off with, you know kids will be kids and you shouldn't have taken her out of the room. She said she remembered her dad doing that to them and she remembers how much it bothered her to this day. She said, I should have given her a warning and not embarrase her in front of the other girls. I'm a single mom, and I try to do the best that I can. Being respectful is so important to me. Do you feel my punishment to my daughter was not the right way to handle it? If so, how would you have handled it?
Looking for advise (and please excuse my spelling)...Thank you.