how to deal with a 13 year old boy acting like 3year ,very moody and does not study.Pl help.
Vee - posted on 09/19/2012
Choices and chores. I think kids always need to have the choice, so in this case his choice is to study and then to spend some time as he wishes OR not to study yet, get a chore he must do and then study before he can have his own time. You can add chores ad infinitum and remove whatever he considers to be his thing (playstation, phone, tv, pc etc). The only thing though is this will really only work if you stick at it totally with no giving in and also there is absolutely no point in losing your temper or getting cross or irate.
You can point out to him that it's his time he is wasting and not yours and in fact if he doesn't study then you are getting a whole load of chores out of it. You can literally keep adding them up and removing stuff - he will choose the easier route in the long run and after doing a lot of chores and knowing you won't back down he's unlikely to want to repeat the experience!
Bonnie - posted on 09/18/2012
What we do is take away his after school play time until he studies then we have to sign off on his planner before he can go out. But if he just refuses then we take away his PS3 or cell phone and he has to stay in his room and clean it along with his bathroom until he is ready.
We do run into times were he just refuses to do anything, inwhich we give him about 30mins to think about his punishment and then we try again. But altimately he is hurting himself by not wanting to study and there is nothing you can do to make him. But he doesnt need to know that, make him think he has no choice.
Be stern always and no giving in. As once you do its hard to get back what you have lost.
I wish you luck!!!
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