how to deal with an emotional boy about homework

Baseballmom - posted on 09/06/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My son does fine in school and then he gets home and acts out. He stresses out and cries often about homework or projects. I feel like he has ADD at home only. :) He doesn't follow through with anything we ask him to do. He doesn't focus well with any distractions at home.
My older daughter has ADD and he acts a lot like her at home without her medicine. His doctor said he doesn't have ADD it is behavioral at home only. I do NOT know what to do.

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Branwen - posted on 06/01/2012

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I have a similar problem. My son gets very emotional when it comes to doing homework. I also have the homework before anything else rule but it doesn't help. I help him with his homework while I'm cooking (put something on the stove and sit with him). I try a loving but firm approach. My husband used to do homework with him but it always ended up with my boy in tears and his dad screaming at him to stop it which I couldn't take. I work full time so my kids go to after care then we start this in the early evening. He does some homework at school but we have to do extra work with him because his teacher called me in early in the year to say he wasn't coping. We had the same thing last year but by the second term of working with him his teacher said it was like a different child and he sailed through to Grade 2, only to start the cycle again! He hates school now and ends up in tears every morning when I wake him, begging me to keep him at home. I feel so bad for him but I can't give in. I just don't know what to do to support him and help him past this.

D - posted on 09/08/2011

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My son is 10 and also gets emotional about homework that is overwhelming to him. I was fortunate to start the 'Homework first rule' in my house (no play, computer, games, etc until the homework is complete) Sometimes he needs help and if he is very upset or frustrated about the project I try to approach it from other viewpoints to help him better understand what the instructor is asking him to do.
It is hard to say what to do not knowing all of the facts and circumstances. Maybe if he does better out of the home with work you could try a trip to the library or common area to set-up proper work space? Do you have an office where you can set-up a special place just for him to do his work? Maybe an after-school academic program to help him with his focus?

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