Lisa - posted on 06/13/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
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my son (11y/o) is negative about anything and everything and being a positive person myself this is very upsetting to me. He constantly complains about where we go, what we do, what we eat, activities and even vacations. HELP!
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Jacqueline - posted on 12/15/2012
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My son is 14 and is constantly negative as well. He stays in the basement all day and plays video games, yet he gets good grades at school and is in 4 clubs, dosnt smoke or do drugs. He acts as though he is no longer part of the family, never smiles, is mean to his brothers and sisters and is constantly swearing. we have tryed everything we can think of but nothing has helped. Have you got any advice yet?
Sarah - posted on 06/19/2010
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I liked Jens approach, I constantly remind my sons when there attitudes stink & try to redirect their energy to be more positive & I joke around alot to by telling them that their face will get stuck like that if they don't do something about it. Then there are times when I just let them be, honestly you can't be happy all the time & if they wake up on the wrong side of the bed, i let them deal w/ it but to make sure they keep it to themselves & stear clear of others so they don't bring everyone else down w/ them..
Jen - posted on 06/14/2010
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My 10 year old son goes through phases of negativity. If it is what he wants to do, then he is happy and everything is great. But, if he doesn't like what we are doing or he thinks he does not like it, then that is a whole different story. The way I started dealing with it is that I started pointing out when he was being negative. Then, I started showing him how his attiude affects how he ends up feeling. If we go to the store and he is negative, then he sees how his attitude affected the outcome that I did not buy his favorite snack. Or, if he complains about dinner and does not eat because of negativity, I will purposefully make a favorite dessert. But, because of his negative attitude, he won't get any. He has started realizing that his negative attitude does not work and when he is positive, there are often little surprises here and there. It has helped tremendously! Also, I have found that if he is overly tired, hungry or thirsty, it is worse. I keep snacks and bottled water with us when we go anywhere and everywhere!
Audra - posted on 06/13/2010
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I understand where you are coming from.. My boys both live with dad most of the week and when they come to see me all i hear is "i dont wan that and we wont eat this, and we know we are stupid retards." That is all thanks to day for allowing them to be picky and telling them they are stupid.. I tell them how smart they are and keep up all the positive feedback i can.. sometimes it helps and sometimes it dont.. it could also just be a phase of life for the pre-teen.
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