I have a child that is gifted. He is in the 5th grade. The principal suggested skipping him in September to the 7th grade. I'm unsure of this. I don't know what to do. Anyone out there experience this?
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Emily - posted on 11/01/2012
I'm not a mom (just like posting my opinions here) but I used to be in the same situation as your son. I was put in the gifted program but then skipped a grade and put back into the normal program and everything is fine with me. I'm getting high 80's-low 90's and I'm in high school now. To be honest, I really think I would have been super bored if I was a grade lower, you should really let him skip.
Valarie - posted on 10/25/2012
I don't recommend it! My niece was skipped early in elementary school. She is now 16 years old and a Freshman in college. She is NOT mature enough to manage college - however, her parents are giving it a try. There is more to skipping a grade than just academics. I would highly recommend considering what programs are available to him that will allow him to be challenged - but keep him aligned with children his own age. It sounds good now, but when he is in highschool or on his way to college - he will be faced with issues he may not be prepared to handle from a maturity perspective!
Sandra - posted on 04/30/2012
My son is in 6th grade and the school has been able to accomodate him and a few others that need the challenge. He takes some classes that are two grades up, but remains with his grade level for other classes. He will begin taking high school classes next year as a 7th grader and will receive high school credits.
I haven't needed it, but a teacher had suggested that with an IQ test to back me, I could approach the school for accomodations based upon special needs (similar to those with learning disabilities). This would be on the basis that they are not meeting his needs academically.
For the social aspect, we are looking into Northwestern's summer program next year so that he will be able to meet other gifted students. We are hoping that he will have more in common with them and can relate to them better than most of his peer group. There are several similar programs across the country. For Northwestern's, he can qualify based upon recommendations and test scores or SAT/ACT score. In Illinois, there is also a math and science school (similar to a boarding school) that we are looking into for 10th grade and beyond. We'll have to see if he is up to it socially and his level of maturity at that point.
Best wishes with the decision! For us, skipping grades isn't an option so we are continuing to look for alternatives.
Carol - posted on 04/30/2012
I faced this before my son went to kindergarten, so it's a little different. He missed the cut off by 4 days but was incredibly bright and very tall. What tipped the scales for me was seeing that he didn't fit in socially with his own age group either. I reasoned that if he at least fit in academically then he'd be more comfortable. He's 11 now and he's never had a problem academically. Socially though nothing would have helped. We discovered that he had Asperger's a couple of years ago and he wouldn't have fit in with any age. However, he's met a group of kids in his class that share similar interests and they are on Skype everyday. This group would definitely fall into the geek group and it's been heaven for me. I see him happy and with a group of friends that aren't making fun of him. It's taken 11 years for that. He fits in now more than ever. If this group is like every other generation of geeks, girls won't come into the equation until the end of high school anyway. Had he stayed back a year, nothing would have changed that.
Diana - posted on 04/25/2012
It depends at what level of 'gifted' he is. I too have a gifted (IQ129) 5th grader and without a doubt, if he were to enter 7th grade next year, it'd be disaterous. I'd consider a grade skip only if he were over IQ 131.
Our district, has 2 primary schools and everyone then meets into 1 middle school (5th through 8th). On the upside, the 5th graders interact with the other grades ONLY while waiting to enter the school and at the end of the day. They're in a separate wing and eat only with their grade. The other grades are blended. Towards the end of the school year; last week, the 5th graders make i-movies to be then presented to the incoming 4th graders. The now 5th graders are buddied up with a now 7th grader. Sounds complicated, but the primary reason why all this happens has to do with maturity.
The maturity level of 10 and 11 yrs old is simply at a different plane than the older grades. They're and especially boys, are still 'youngsters'. The social adjustment for my 5th/middle schooler, was huge. I can only image that after solidifying friendships and his social stand within the school, to start over would be very difficult. In way, his 'giftedness' has worked against him, as boys vy for their place. A bit of bullying/teasing etc. Is your son - are you ready to enter the arena of discussing relationships with girls? I know my son, for now is more interested in the afterschool clubs of scale modeling and robotics. My best friend's 7th grader at the same school and his buds would rather ride their bikes to hang out w/ their gal pals. We live in a pretty conservative area w/ like kids for the most part, so even though hanging out with the gal pals is quite innocent ... for me, it's not what I want my 10 yr old contemplating next year before he naturally would.
Your school should be able to engage him academically, and also consider the social structure without advancing a grade.
Lee - posted on 04/03/2012
Oh wow, he finished college at age 16, amazing! If i allow this, my son will graduate high school just turning 17 one month before graduation. I'm not worried about the physical aspect(he's tall) really the social aspect. Thanks for your input.
Lee - posted on 04/03/2012
This is the same with my son, he finishes all test and assignments extremely quick. My son is in the 5th grade and academically he is at an 8th grade level, academically he'll be fine. He is also tall so I'm not worried about him being smaller then the older kids. I worry about the social aspect.
Kerry - posted on 04/03/2012
my son was in the same position, but then so was his father and he refused to allow Matt to skip any grades because physically he wont be at the same level as those around him, and not quiet into the same things.My husband skipped 2 grades a Finished college at 16, while his mates were 18 and able to drive and drink he was not and also their body grow at different rates. what we did was to a compromise was that he had additional work that had to be completed within the normal work time in class that he was required to complete along with what everyone else was doing, and while they were reading younger books he has been allowed to read what he pleases within reason. He seems to be coping very well with this yet still able to stay with his friends at the same age level
Tabitha - posted on 04/02/2012
We had a similar situation. I didn't want my son to skip 5th grade. He did start to get bored, his work was done and turned in before some of the other kids had even started on theirs. When his teacher noticed this, she called me to see if she could get some 6th grade workbooks from another teacher for him to work on in his spare time, which was fine with me. He also was able to volunteer in the special needs class for part of the day since his work was always done. Maybe you can ask his teacher if it's possible for upper grade work he can do to keep him busy. Skipping a grade isn't bad, I just worried that he would feel too much pressure to keep up, he would miss his friends and I didn't want him to get picked on by the older kids. I think as long as he feels challenged while he's at school, it really doesn't matter what grade he's in.
Becky - posted on 03/30/2012
I am 36 years old now, but back in high school I was the second youngest child in high school. My best friend was 1 month younger than myself, and to put it into perspective...I was 14 years old my first day of high school. The main reason for this was that I was moved up a grade in K going straight in to the first grade. At the time, it was the smart thing to do. It kept me challenged and was a good place for me, but when I was in high school it was traumatizing to me. I was way too young to be there and it hindered me. I ended up dropping out of high school later on and although it was not completely due to this, I believe it was a big factor.
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