Iam a single 49yr old and have 4 children (3 boys and 1 girl) ages 26yrs thru 13 yrs. Ive had my ups and downs and have been seperated and divorced for 10 yrs, and happily have 6 grandchildren 2 of whom are adopted, and enjoy my single life and time i spend with my family, recently i have been so disturbed and emotional, my daughter who is 17 yrs old and a senior, lost one of her soccor team mates 4 days ago, she committed suicide, minutes before her death she posted it on facebook and pleaded with hers friends not to judge or bully anyone cause it only leads to death, and told all her friends she loved them. My daughter is a member of Rachel Joy Scott's challenge, one of colombines students who died. You see she was a lesbian, out going,smart,funny,great soccor player,attending Junior College,full of life so we thought,we knew about her,and like my daughter said we didnt care she was one of us, and she ask herself i was taught not to judge, and how can people judge her and now that she is gone all they write on her facebook is the good times what a wonderful and beautifully person u were, and why did u have to go, why couldnt they just tell her that when she was alive and could hear those comments, but all she heard was negativity,and now shes gone and cant here it. Im confused, as we sit here at the dinner table and discuss what ifs,but i told my daughter its to late, no one seen it coming, she hid it well, i wish she could have reached out to those who loved her and understood her,we are all supporters for those who are bullied and judged as well as herself, how could she let it get to her, i told my daughter that maybe cause it hit home so close that her and her friends can make a difference and reach out to those so that it doenst happen again, and to those who judged her and bullied her they will live with that guilt. I have been so emotionally disturbed by this, because my daughter was once bullied and judged, for the last 4 yrs of her highschool yrs she is outgoing,great dancer,soccor player,and always reaching out to those who need help i stood up to them and went to the school,her depression was getting the best of her, her own friends were becoming jealous of her, she would turn prom dates,homecoming queen tryouts down just so she wouldnt lose her friends,boys would ask her out but she didnt,because her friends had crushes on them, it all stopped after i took her out and placed her in another school, she is happy a new circle of friends and most important graduating with scholars. She wants to do something in memory of her soccor friend and speak out,any ideas. Sorry for such a long story.
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Sarah - posted on 05/04/2012
we learn not to judge peoples likes and dislikes thru stories like these. i have been judged for being a single outgoing mum bt many are by people who are jealous of how my boys are and how they react with me in public. I have great relationhsip with my boys, ranging from 23 to 15.