Im 31 and very broody, i have a 10 year old son. Am i too old to have another baby and is there going to be too much of an age gap between my children.

Karen - posted on 01/04/2013

PS and I have a 2year old granddaughter. Gets ppl really confused.

Karen - posted on 01/04/2013

no no and no. My kids are 24, 9 and 5. I am now 42.

Joanna - posted on 05/15/2009

i was 30 when i had my first one i am 4o now my children are 10, 5 and 4 , yes there are problems sometimes with the age gap , but hey there would be problems watever their ages i think lol kids are kids

Connie - posted on 05/13/2009

I am 31 years old with an 11 year old dtr and a 2 year old dtr. They are 9 years apart and its nice to have that gap...they are in different stages. I don't have to worry about my oldest getting jealous because I involve her in baby stuff and let her help. It might be different with a boy but they might enjoy helping. I would like to have one more with in the next year tho... good luck.

Michelle - posted on 05/13/2009

I have 11, 12 and 3 year old girls. My first two are 10 1/2 months apart and had them by the age of 23-24. (my grandma called them IRISH TWINS) I had my last one when I was 32. I told my doctor I wanted no kids after the age of 30. Ha Ha. That is what I get for opening my mouth. My older ones were soooo bummed out at first. They love their baby sister and they were a tremendous help and still are. Of course, the 3 year old is a 3 year old and she will try to get into her sister's things. But I get the older ones fighting amongst themselves for the same thing. I do have a lot more patience with the 3 year old compared to when the others were that age. Or it could be the 3rd child syndrome: Where you are much looser with the 3rd one, compared to how you were with the First one. LOL. I wouldn't change a thing. My older ones realize all that I did for them when they were babies, cuz they see me with the youngest. They may roll their eyes when I dance with the baby, but I remind them that they were in the same spot 8-9 years ago dancing with me. Of course, they roll their eyes again.

My husband and I did not plan the 3rd one, (ok, we didn't plan any of them lol), but we are very glad she is here. We easly forget how much fun they can be and how much of a pain they can be as well. My older ones do not need me to tuck them in at night any more. I can't hug them in public and even act like their mom in public. Where as, the 3 year old screams for you to tuck her in, and to give her a kiss and a hug no matter where she is at.

Rita - posted on 05/13/2009

My DD is 12yrs old & my little son is just 10m. So IMO it's not late & you're not old. I'm 33yrs. Go ahead & GL.

Nicola - posted on 05/13/2009

i'd say do it..i have 2 daughters almost 10 years my first at 20 my second just before i was 30

i think my 2 girls get on better because of the age gap theres no real rivalry

+ in a few years time i have a live in babysitter lol

Lucy - posted on 05/11/2009

Not at all. My son was 14 yrs when my daughter was born. So there is a HUGE gap. He helps out with her and loves and enjoys her so much. I wouldn't have it any other way. They're perfect. Just make sure you don't neglect your 10 yr old. He might get a lil jealous, you don't want that. You don't want him to think you only care about the baby and not him. I made sure I spend my alone time with my 15 yr old and re assure him that I love him the same not less since the baby was born, it took him a lil bit to see it, but now its all good.

Tamela - posted on 05/11/2009

I have 4 boys- 12, 10, 6, and 3. They are great friends. Now, don't get me wrong, they do fight, but most of the time it's great. I had the first at 26,the last at 35. I don't think you're too old if YOU don't think you are too old.
As for the age gap- I have several friends that have bigger gaps and are loving it. The baby learns to be 'dragged' to events and the older sibling learns childcare responsibilities. My children are spaced over 9 years and the 1st and 4th get along great.

Michelle - posted on 05/11/2009

Never too big of an age gap! My oldest and youngest are 12 years apart and they adore each other! i am also 14 years older than my youngest sister and it is great , we never fought at all and as we get older you hardly notice the difference!

Debbie - posted on 05/10/2009

I don't believe it is a gap either I had my last child at the age of 32 and there is a ten year gap. It wasn't plan that way as I was told I could not have any more children. I believe that at this age I was more patience, comfortable within my skin and my little girl will be 20 this year I have no regrets but, each person needs to decide what is right for them.

Sandra - posted on 05/07/2009

Definitely NOT too old. Ten years changes the dynamics of the relationship between siblings from being competitors, to being mentors. In many ways it is calmer and easier. My kids are 2yrs apart, but my hubby's siblings are 12 years and more older than him. You would all survive ; )

Susan - posted on 05/06/2009

i think you are in your prime,you are more aware of what your child will need & more responable it does'nt need to be about age your 10 year old will help you aswell i say go for it.

Donna - posted on 05/05/2009

Hello



I'm 32 and i have 3 girls. My oldest is 15 yrs old, middle child is 10 and my youngest is 5 mnths old. The oldest helps me with the baby, they both just adore her.

Jessica - posted on 05/04/2009

Hi,

My family is blended. I met my husband when our daughters were just 3. We got married when they were 5 and had our first when they were 6. Then we had another baby when they were 8. The key is when you have older children to really make them apart of things. Let them help you pick out names. Find books that explain what's going on with you. We used what to expect when mommy's expecting. I don't know if that's good for a 10 year old it might be a little to babyish.

My daughter is extremely close to our son they are 6 years apart. And my step daughter is close to my baby girl they are 8 years apart. It hasn't caused any issues in our family having a larger age gap. It's kind of a help having the older ones there. They loved to feed the baby or entertain the toddler while I was with the baby.

Tammy - posted on 05/02/2009

well thats irionic there is 10 years difference between my sister and i if u get pregnant NOW ull be 51 when he or she is 20 thats one thing to look at are u willing to have a young adult at 51 not bad are u in a serious relationship is he willing ....my sister and i didnt get along cause mom always babied her and wouldnt let me get close to her all she would do was cry when i had her by myself ..so ur 10 year old bot may not like it unless hes able to help with the baby i wasnt allowed to help ..makes a difference she 33 now we get along but she is still shelfish and overbarring but very spoiled so u must make sure to inculde ur 10 year old boy in everything to make things work out in a good way ...best of luck hope i helped

tammy

Patricia - posted on 05/02/2009

I dont think you are all my kids are 5 to ten years apart and my oldest actually became like a little daddy to my youngest my oldest was 11 when i had my last child

Donnell - posted on 05/02/2009

No, any age to be able to have kids is a blessing. I wouldn't worry about the age gap and I think it would be great to have new siblings at any age. I guess I will find out if my advice is true. I have a 10 year old daughter and am expecting my second child any day now. My oldest is very independant and I think this will really help when the new baby arrives to avoid major jealousy issues. My daughter is very excited about her new sister and I think your 10 year old would be too. Good luck!

Heidi - posted on 04/30/2009

No its not a big deal at all. my boys are 18, 10 and almost 4. Its nice to have the gap because you can appreciate each of them at different stages. Mind you some people like to have them close in age so they can grow together. Its whatever makes you happy.

Natalie - posted on 04/30/2009

I have to agree with everybody else. I am 33 and have 3 boys 10,6 and 3months. It was a shock when I fell pregnant, but now I would not have it any other way. The older boys just love their baby brother to bits and help with the baby all the time. Do it if you can, the new baby will keep the whole family younger for longer, and there is just so much to look forward to again. Let us know if you decide to have another one.

DeAnn - posted on 04/28/2009

my friend is 35... her kids are 16, 4 & she just had a baby a few months ago. Also, I have 2 older sisters that are 8 & 10 yrs older than me. I am 35 & sometimes feel older than them! We get along fine.

Kim - posted on 04/27/2009

My children are all 6 years apart. It works out somehow. The little one expects to be able to do the same things as his older brother but that seems to be the only battle we have that is consistant. I was 39 with my last and I have to say that it was the best! Go for it.

Sherry - posted on 04/25/2009

I have 3 kids ages 31 23 15 they are all three 8 years apart, I was 35 when my youngest was born. My oldest was 16, he was a little grossed out by the whole pregnancy thing in the beginning, but once his Sister arrived she wrapped him right around her little finger. Even though they are so far apart they are all still very close to each other, the 15 yr old cant do with anything without her 2 brothers keeping a eye on her. They are very protective of her, She has just started with the "boyfriend" knocking at the door, not only do they have to deal with Dad but the brothers too!

Jennet - posted on 04/25/2009

i am also 31 and have just had a new baby, who is 5 months old, i also have a 13 yr old boy and 10yr old girl, far from their being a problem with the age gap, i find myself enjoying my youngest more than i ever did with the older two. i don't know if that is just because i've matured or because of my previous experience. but i can tell you that my elder two are absolutely smitten with their baby brother and are falling over themselves to help me with him. they are both now experts in changing nappies, bathing and generally keeping him very happy.!! they love spending time with him, and can keep an eye on him giving me time to do the housework, have a bath etc etc, i personally would say its a brilliant age gap, and if you want another baby then go for it. theres not as many worries of sibling jealousy i have found when the children are older.

Colleen - posted on 04/23/2009

You are NOT too old! My son was 10 when I had my youngest and he is GREAT with her! He loves her so much and takes care of her often. He enjoys spending time with her and I love watching that relationship. Go for it!

Kylie - posted on 04/21/2009

Your not old at 31. I'm 36 and my little man is due in June. I have twins that will be 10 in May. Not only am I excited as I know alot more this time around but my twins are too. I have 2 great little helpers this time.

Chris - posted on 04/20/2009

No, not at all. I have a 20 year old, a 19 year old, a 10 year old and a 9 year old. Just be prepared for people being sarcastic and telling you that you have 2 different families. Not true! They all love each other very much and look at it this way, the older ones can help with the younger ones! :)

Vicky - posted on 04/17/2009

My two children were 14 and 12 when I found out I was pregnant. (And I was 37 at the time.) I thought I was done with that area in my life, but God had other plans for me. It took some major changes for me mentally to get used to the idea, but I have not regretted it one day since. My youngest, Jordan, is now 10 and one of the greatest joys of my life. I have more patience with him than I did the first time around. Different people told me that he would be the greatest joy of my life and they have been so right. I'm so glad that God knew better what I needed back then, than what I thought I needed. HE was so right..........

Aj - posted on 04/17/2009

hi i dont think it matters as i am 36 and my brother is 11 this month but we get on really well .

Sam - posted on 04/17/2009

I'm 31 also, I have an 11yr old girl, 10 yr old boy and an 8 yr old boy. Having my 4th in july, by the time the baby's born there will be 12 yrs between my eldest and him( scan shows boy). I think I'll have more time now and patience as all the other 3 will be at school. I actually found it the hardest between my eldest 2, they had a 13 mnth gap. So fingers crossed. If you want another baby go for it you'll know if your ready. Everyone still thinks I'm mad, but I made my choice and I'm happy with it.

Melinda - posted on 04/11/2009

NO WAY !!!

we have a 19 yo son and our mid-life crises babies who are now 10 & 11, i was 38 & 39 when i had the 2 little ones

Susan - posted on 04/08/2009

hi i have a 21.20,17 and 12 year old the 20 n 12 year old r born on the same day 8 years apart a gap is not aproblem in the long run as long as its what u want my kids were great 2gether when they were young then they have good days n bad the older 1s want 2 do things the younger 1s want 2 do but cant but as they grow thegap gets smaller there is never a good r bad gap im 42 n have a sister at 39,36 n a brother at 25 so he came out with my kids 4 day trips n stayed at mine when his mates lived round the corner he is the most annoying brother in the world but u need an age gap 2 get that hahahaha go for it enjoy the confidance u will have this time

Michelle - posted on 04/08/2009

Hi Alicia,
Um...to answer your question, no....that's not too long in between. Speaking from experience. My oldest son is 19 and in college. I have another son who is 16, one who is almost 5 and a daughter who is almost 20 months old. So, to me, that's not a lot of time in between. My children are inseparable and miss the oldest off at college tremendously. My 16 yr old says he is quite grateful to have the little ones around so he doesn't miss his brother as much! Good luck with your decision,
Michelle

Julie - posted on 04/08/2009

Oh gosh no your not, i had my first Daughter when i was nearly 29 and my second when i was 40, My eldest is now nearly 13 and my youngest nearly 2. It has it's benefits but also it's downfalls like everything but in the grand scheme of things the age gap is only a problem if you let it be one. We have great fun amd my eldest is really good with the little one but has her days when she wants her own time which is only fair, it's all about balance.

Nicole - posted on 04/07/2009

Quoting Alicia:

Im 31 and very broody, i have a 10 year old son. Am i too old to have another baby and is there going to be too much of an age gap between my children.

no your 10yr. old will love the idea of being a big bro. or sis. they are at that helpful stage and they can still grow up to close.

Debbie - posted on 04/07/2009

31 is definately not too old to have another baby! I am 35 and just had my second baby 4 weeks ago! My other baby is 14 years old! some people thought i was crazy. The coolest thing is my 14 y/o said if its a brother, hell babysit for free, but if its a sister, its gonna cost us. I had a boy and now he owes me free sitting! He is a great help. I also have a 6 y/o step-daughter asnd she dotes over the baby! i love the age gap....i have a lot of help.

Donna - posted on 04/07/2009

Quoting Alicia:

Im 31 and very broody, i have a 10 year old son. Am i too old to have another baby and is there going to be too much of an age gap between my children.

Alicia, I have a 25 yr old son and a 10yr old daughter latter one born when I was 33! no way are you too old to be thinking of having another baby, the age gap of siblings does not determine the closeness of  them, my son at 15 thought oh my god what has mum gone and done! but at 18 he thought little 3yr old sis was kinda cute, then she realised  at around 6 yrs that his bedroom was far more interesting than hers so that was moan at little sis time for poking in his personal stuff, now the bond is unbreakable he would do anything for her and she for him although he uses this to his advantage with her but heyho thats what a little sis is for!! she will cotton on to him soon enough im sure! seeing them together now wandering down to the shop with him holding her hand it makes me think that a child should never be only child its a very lonely existence and thats from friends that are only children. They all grow up sooner rather than later and then there is no age gap at all!!! You go for it girl if thats what you want then have it you havent got time on your side!

Nadine - posted on 04/07/2009

Quoting Alicia:

Im 31 and very broody, i have a 10 year old son. Am i too old to have another baby and is there going to be too much of an age gap between my children.

Hi, im 32 and have a 12 yr old son, 10 yr old daughter and 6 month old baby son!!!!!! I dont feel that the gap is too big! It was a bit of a shock going back to it all again-but it comes naturally!!!! My older children are a great help!!!! I think it depends on the individual, but i myself am really enjoyin it!!!!!

Cassandra - posted on 04/07/2009

No i think its a great age gap!! My son is now 10 1/2 and my little girl is nearly 11 months.He has been fantastic helping out etc. NO jealousy as they want different things from you so are not in competition. Go for it!!

Melissa - posted on 04/04/2009

You are not too old. I have an 11 1/2 year old, a 4 year old, a 1 1/2 year old, and a 4 mo old. I may still have 1 more child I am 29. 

Charlene - posted on 04/02/2009

If it's right for you go for it. Just be sure to always make special time for your older child. My close friend has an 11 yo, 2yo and a 5 mos. Life is very busy and it can be difficult to fit in helping with homework, getting dinner ready, nurse baby, chase 2 yo get everyone fed and in bed. I like to visit and go home. Talk to your older child about thier feelings

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2009

I don't think it's too much of a gap. I have an 11yr, 10yr, and 2yr old. I had the same concern and in a way it seems to work out great and then there are times the lil one wants too much of their time, but all in all it has been wonderful and she seems to be quite advanced for her age with all the older examples she has. I think that if this is something you would like to do, then you should go for it.

Miranda - posted on 04/01/2009

Im 30 years old and 24 weeks pregnant and my son will be 11 in november and even after this one i will probably have another so go for it if you want one

Nancy - posted on 04/01/2009

Your never tooo old to have children.  My boys are 25 and 22.  My girls are 10.

I found the second time, was easier

Good luck

Nancy

Ana - posted on 04/01/2009

Hi Alicia - I have three boys - aged 10, 2 and 3 months.  I'll tell you that the age gap is both good and bad at the same time.  While my eldest son is old enough to understand that a new baby doesn't mean that he is loved any less we still have other challenges.  It was hard for him at the age of 8 to go from being an only child all of those years to suddenly having to share his parents.  As well, right now one of the biggest hurdles that we face, is what we can do as a family that everyone will enjoy.  The things that will be enjoyable to my eldest are not enjoyable for my little ones - we find it really hard to spend quality family time together because of this.  I worry constantly and don't want for my oldest son to feel like we had him first and then years later went on to have our full family.  I hope this helps.

Dell - posted on 04/01/2009

Hi Alicia, I have a 2 yr old girl and an almost 12 yr old son, i was 33 when i had my daughter, i have found the age gap to be fantastic, my son is marvelous with his little sister and she worships him which is really cute. I say go for it :)

Tracy - posted on 03/31/2009

i have a 13 year gap between child 2 and 3 had 3rd at 32,

felt like i being all cooey and gaga one minute then the mnster mummy the next lol but wouldnt have changed it for anything

Gladys - posted on 03/31/2009

I don't blame you the way you feel. In these times that we leave in a rush is hard. The only that can I advice you is ask your inner voice, and think if something happens to you, your son will not be alone. They will be have each other, the difference of age maybe at the beginning will be hard but later in life they could be good friends.

Angela - posted on 03/31/2009

I had my first child when i was 21, then one at 25, 30 and last one at 32, if you are that broody why not go for it, your ten year old will be a great help to you, and there is alot of mature mothers out there.

Lori - posted on 03/31/2009

I had my youngest son when I was 41. My other 2 son were 15 & 17 @ the time. Hunter is now 8, Josh is now 26, & Nick will be 24 shortly. I feel like I have been so blessed, to have been able to raise my older son's, & now i get do it all over, I love it i would change a thing. I also have a year 2 grandson. They grow-up too fast, I now cherish things more than I did with my older sons, I do not take things for granted. My son's all get along great, the older ones have taught Hunter so much as Hunter also has taught them. I will be honest he was a big surprise!!! & to this day he surprises, on a daily basis, he is great.
Good Luck on you decision, I hope I was able to help a little!!
Loving Mom of Big Age Gap