is it normal for a 14 yr old boy to steal panties and bras from dumpsters

Deanise - posted on 08/03/2012 ( 23 moms have responded )

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my 14 yr old stepson was found with panties and bras in his bathroom and we believe he got them out of dumpster in parking lot bc they smelled like dumpster -sorry- anyway is this normal for a boy his age to have these things or steal them or hide them bc we found more in his pillow case later that same night

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Alissa - posted on 08/25/2013

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This is normal my brother would try and steal my panties to jerkoff into but let him look at magazines that may have some pornographic content it'll make him happy.

Alot - posted on 11/21/2012

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boys love panties bras let him jerkoff all day if he wants.. u did!! but momies panties should be off limits, sisie, 2, buy him his own, just dont tell him, leave them in a odd place, he will think he found them, put some lingerie catalogs there 2, he will be happy for hours, its way cleaner!! dirty pantie can spread warts,etc ,boy will always smell them but its can be nasty,boy r going to jerk off like crazy,,,its' better than hookers or who no's give him condoms 2 boys will cum anywhere and leave it like its' nothing ,soon as he get laid 4 real he should be fine!!

Jamie - posted on 08/25/2012

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This is normal boy stuff. He's either curious or he thinks it's funny. C'mon moms, ALL boys sneak a peak at this stuff at SOME point. 14 sounds about right. I wouldn't worry at all. Next is the playboys and maybe a old condoms some friends have been passing around for awhile. I think the dumpster diving part is probably boredom.

Jen - posted on 08/08/2012

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No, I don't think it's normal to steal underwear from anywhere, nor do I think it's normal to steal anything from a dumpster. Have you talked to him and asked where they came from and why he had them? I think you really need to do that. Used underwear doesn't smell good no matter where it came from - it's possible he got it directly from a girl who was wearing them. This is definitely something that warrants discussion.

Jeff - posted on 12/04/2013

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Firstly there is nothing abnormal about teenagers masturbating. There is nothing abnormal about a boy using panties to masturbate with. However it is highly unusual to get them out of the garbage. There are only a few reasons a boy would take women's underwear. To smell, the scent of some women's vaginas can be very pleasant and intoxicating, even to a grown man, let alone an adolescent. To aid in masturbation, either to assist in the act itself or as a clean up rag or "target". OR to wear. For smelling and masturbation purposes, the dumpster is not a very sensible place to get them. So there is a possibility your son is wearing them.

Most adolescent boys will sniff and masturbate using whatever panties are available (mother/sister/aunt/etc.). The excitement lies mostly in where it's been and the curiosities of scent and taste. Men never stop wondering what an attractive woman's vagina smells like, but accessibility increases with age and experience beyond the household. It's not necessarily the case that a young boy is having incestual desires about a relative if he's using her underwear, simply that an adolescent male's genitals do not care if he is related to the owner of a particular vagina, they just want to be pleased.

Confronting him about the issue will only embarrass and damage him. Buying him new pairs will damage him and also do no good for masturbation as they have never been worn by a woman, they are as useful as a paper towel. That is it. I'm sorry to say it's probable that your boy is wearing them and you have different problems than mere teenage masturbation. The boy might be gay. You can always test the theory and leave an easily accessible, well worn pair of your sexiest panties out where he can find, take and use them. His hormones will ignore your relation and he will not be able to resist. If he does not indulge, he may be gay.

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Alex - posted on 08/30/2014

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Im a 13 year old boy and when my sisters friends come over is sometimes steal thier panties, to sniff and jerk of with. I think this is normal at his age. Theres no harm in him doing this it is perfectly normal.

Clifford - posted on 08/30/2014

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Hi Deanise not unusual, my 11 year old loves to hide his sister underwear in his bedroom,probably he masturbates with them but who cares, we are an open family who talk about everthing to do with life, thats how most families should be

Ronnierae - posted on 08/30/2014

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the question is, is it normal? for some yes, for some no. a good starting point would be to discuss his proclivities now, while they are developing. the truth of it is, he is developing into a young man, and his sexuality is coming to the forefront. I can tell you not to be judgmental, rather, keep him on the safe side of his interests, so that he can come to you with obvious questions that he will have. out of the dumpster is bad for so many reasons, the least of which is possible disease, and who knows what else. talking with his loving understanding mother would go a long way to his future. you could take him shopping, for his own, but there would be a need for discretion, not to embarrass him, unless you want him to develop a humiliation fantasy too. I used to hide my magazines under my mattress, but mum always put them back after changing the cover on the mattress.

Phil - posted on 08/01/2014

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It is abnormal but it isn't their fault. I don't know how open you are to this but it's true. They have a demonic spirit of lust, perversion, or fetish that has entered them some how through some legal ground or open doorway in their life and they need deliverance. Jesus Christ is the only one who can heal your son and you need to seek out a deliverance minister. Worldly therapy does nothing it's useless fruitless garbage that only makes people worse because something physical can't solve something spiritual. Peace and blessings

Norma - posted on 06/12/2014

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The majority say this is normal, which is disturbing but I'm not a guy so whatever. My 15 year old stepson has been stealing panties forever...mine,his bio moms, his sisters little sister...now we just found 8 pair plus a bra hidden in his closet. 8 pair. We do not know where they came from. We think his friends sister? Is this normal??

Chris - posted on 12/03/2013

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This is normal, to this day I still sometimes use bras and panties to jerk off with. He's not hurting anyone and they can be washed clean. Just a normal turn on for a young man.

Jeeves - posted on 09/26/2013

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Yes because the panties touch your vagina and the bras touch your nipples/tits of course its normal are you crazy, that kid wants to get a women and thats the closet he can get right now.

Barbie - posted on 07/07/2013

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i also would like to know if its normal my brothers step son is stealling my underwear and also cought him trying to look under the bathroom door while i was getting dressed. he is 15

Ivanna - posted on 03/09/2013

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Deanise,

I know this whole situation has you pretty freaked out right now but rest assured it is normal. I would be more worried if he didn't have stuff like that around. Where he got them is irrelevant. He may be using them for masturbation purposes which is also totally normal. This may sound a bit extreme but just be glad these items don't belong to anyone in your household. Boys will be boys! Good luck:)

Daryl - posted on 02/15/2013

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as a boy growing up i did similar things looking for knickers and bras wherever i could find them even though at the time i thought it was not normal and i was weird i just wanted to masturbate over knickers and bras whatever you do dont confront him or if u do re assure him that it is normal confronting him could be catastrophic he could find it humiliating and trust me thats not a good thing growing up so my advice is just be careful about him findng out that you know

Margaret - posted on 12/05/2012

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Dear Denise,



First of all you do know what your son is doing with them. He is masturbating. Normal but creepy in the fact that he is snatching them from a very unclean and disturbing place. I would suggest a discussion with him about the fascination if it is just that he wants to have a bit of incentive while fondling himself or is it the actual dumpster diving and acquiring of used undies that lights his fire?



Secondly, If he is just looking for incentive perhaps giving him some money to purchase a few inexpensive undies from Wal-mart or Charlotte Ruse will help. Can't judge a lad for liking the ladies undies but its not healthy and somewhat illegal to go through a person's trash without their knowledge. If this habit continues then I would suggest therapy...nothing with pills or anything but talk Sex therapy.

Anastasia - posted on 11/13/2012

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its normal for boys to steal those sort of things usually from a friends house or relatives house the dumpster idk but if he cant get them anywhere else i guess thats where hes gotta go, grounding him prolly not a good idea honestly your best bet as horrible as it sounds is to make sure he knows about condoms and such

Prvsh - posted on 09/05/2012

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his journey has begin....it's different for everyone...but yeah it's not normal...but let him enjoy being abnormal

Joan - posted on 08/31/2012

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No- it is not normal - most boys when they feel the urge to 'dress-up' they 'borrow' their mothers or sisters clothes - is he infatuated with you- if he is then you must satisfy his curiosity.

User - posted on 08/08/2012

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were they little girls or womens panties? I don't mean to sound weird but he may have been taking them to smell them and masturbate to. I caught my brother when we were younger with a pair that belonged to my friend...it was kinda gross but guys can be that way.

Deanise - posted on 08/08/2012

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to jennifer yes weve tryed talking to him but he still denies having them even thou nobody has been in his bathroom and bedroom but him ..hes grounded till he tells us the truth bc we know he took them theres no other logical way they couldve got into our place at all -then he took them out of his bathroom and tried to hide them in his pillow case and his dad caught him with them and two more -and he had a pair in his bed.so we dont know.

Deanise - posted on 08/08/2012

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to kayla we dont know whos they are bc there nothing that has ever been in this house like that.and we dont know what he was planning on doing with them he keeps deniying having them when nobody else was in his bathroom or bedroom ....and hes still denying it

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